How do you stop the fighting?

Question

Me and my boyfriend fight all the time we tryed a break and we didnt fight for a week but now we are just fighting all the time. I dont know what to do i love him so much.

Answer 1

Fighting adds spice to the relationship. If it is all lovey dovey it can get boring. This is how you get to know each other.

But overdoing it can lead to hate. So, stop before it gets out of hand. Don't tell me he is wrong. You took the trouble to ask this Q. So, you care. You take the lead. He will be surprised. He cannot do much when you do not fight. He will be shocked.

What I found is - after the fight - the fun is in making up. It is so sweet. Of course, we are talking about sex.

Answer 2

Fighting is a good sign. It shows you are comfortable with each other and are still finding out stuff about each other. Any way you must learn reconcilliarsaotry tech.
You can choose to have a witness. But sit on the same couch facing in one direction and give each other a chance to talk. My Bf and I had the same prob but we invented the yes/no question. A person has to ask a questin that will end with yes no and it should touch on your emotions. Like you can say ""honey do you ever feel like we fight too much?''and he says either yes or no. Then it will his turn to ask a question. write all this questions downa nd the responses too. Then discuss the yes and no and areas that you need to work on. All the best.

Answer 3

breaking up doesn't solve the problems that cause the fighting. Do you ever take the time to figure out what bothers you and makes you start to fight? At a time when you're not fighting, you need to sit down and calmly discuss what isbothering you. And if you have a hot temper and start yelling, walk away, calm down, then talk it out later. Problems don't go away by yelling or ignoring them. Maybe you're both too immature to deal with your problems in a calm way. Breaking up with him and moving on to another guy won't solve that either. You'll have the same problems with him.

Answer 4

Even if you love him, you have to figure out if you are truly happy in your relationship if you are fighting all the time. It's also a thing whether or not fighting is ruining your relationship... This sounds awful, but if you see your relationship going down hill, cut your losses and get out early. If you already love him, then you can get out now and save yourself crying over him every night after you fight. I hope this helps and I'm sorry that its such a sticky situation!

Answer 5

Girl! I'm in the situation.. We fight alllllll!! the time this week we hadn't argued at all but yesterday we just kept fighting and I'm tired of it. I've tried to leave him but I always end up back with him and it sucks because it hurts me sometimes the way he talks to me and the way he treats me isn't right, I know I deserve better but I'm still with him. It's hard now to get out of the relationship we have talked about are problems but we always end up fighting. I'm trying to give it time and see if are situation we'll change and if it doesn't then we're just going to have to go our seperate ways. Do u feel that his worth ur time and is it worth to put up with all the drama?

Answer 6

Maybe there are certain things that you fight about - money, friends, housework, differences of opinion. If there are and you are both committed to making it work, then sit down and try to come up with a plan for avoiding this - probably it will involve compromise on both of your parts. ie maybe if you know you fight about him going out with his friends all the time you come to a compromise that if he'll go out with his mates slightly less - maybe take you out instead - then when he *does* go out with his mates then you won't fuss.

When you sit down to talk about it though, make a pact not to accuse the other one of anything - instead of focusing on what either of you is doing wrong, focus on telling each other how his actions make you feel (and also how your actions make him feel) - that way it's less confrontational. Ultimately what you want isn't to be right and prove him wrong, but to work out a solution that will suit you both.

I think also if you can't work it out it's maybe time to call it a day - non-stop fighting isn't good or healthy for anyone.

Answer 7

The best way to stop fighting is to stop being selfish. And this applies to both of you.

Both of you have to start listening to each other and looking for compromises that make both of you happy.

You can't have a good relationship when one of you wins and the other looses every time you decide to do something. In any disagreement, you need to find a way to make both of you happy. And when both of you are happy, then you have nothing to fight about.

Answer 8

Well if you love him that much you should not be fighting.Take a look back and see if there is a pattern to your fighting.If its allways over the same things sit down and talk about it if you fight about everything I would split for a few months and if its meant to be Love will bring you back together and things just may work out.Good Luck

Answer 9

well it depend on the things your fighting about sometimes it`s good to fight and not keep in side if you your fighting on silly things tack a break from each other do talk for a few days relaxes and then if you`r still fight maybe you shoulden`t be together but if you love him and he loves you then u should talk and lessen to each other before do wing anything

Answer 10

If you love him so much why do you fight I don't understand why people want to stay together when all they do is fight. Its not love. Find you another b/f. That will love you and not fight you.