I've always been amazed that girls get so caught up in the whole wedding thing.
Did you have a happy childhood?
What made you believe that your wedding day would be so happy?
Are you a hopeless romantic?
I am just curious ... this is from a different viewpoint, please answer honeslty..
2007-01-27 03:27:11 · 13 answers · asked by WhoamI 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
While I had a nice house to live in, and everything material that I wanted, my parents fought all the time, and sometimes they hit me over stupid things (I've never eaten red meat, because I don't like it. Whenever it was served at dinner, and I didn't eat it, they each whipped me with a belt).
I have dreamed of my wedding since I was very small. And the husband I would marry, mostly. I would fantasize not about the ceremony, but dancing with my husband, of him saying the sweetest things to me, of the HAPPY lifestyle we would live, one opposite of my parents.
Since then, my parents filed bakruptcy, got a divorce. I went from a 5-bedroom house in the nicest neighborhood, to a 2-bedroom. I had to share with my brothers. I haven't had a new pair of shoes in three years. I no longer fantasize about Mr. Perfect- I found him (2.5 years and 6 days, today). We discuss our wedding together, now.
I am a hopeless romantic. I've dreamed of a happy wedding day all my life because I was a strong little girl, and now I am a strong young woman. I've known I can make my wedding perfect, because I know not to do what my parents did.
2007-01-27 03:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In reply to Nancy S: all women *don't* dream of a perfect wedding day. I've also go no idea why anyone would. I love going to other people's weddings - mainly because of hte great party afterwards and the chance to meet up with friends and relatives. From what I can see though, getting married yourself at such a big do wouldn't be half as much fun - you'd be on display - there would be so much pressure to look perfect and have a great time, and you'd have to go round being polite and doing the whole 5-minute-per-guest conversation thing. Sounds like a nightmare to me!!
2007-01-27 03:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting. I have planned to have a big wedding since I was a child. I did have a happy childhood. I am a hopeless romantic. Why do alot of girls have these thoughts? I chalk it up to the fairytales we are told as kids. All you ever heard about was princesses and their prince charming who would come save them from their miserable lives. This leaves the false impression that marriage life is all romantic and that your husband will be a prince to come save you from your "miserable life" and whisk you away to your happily ever after. It is instilled in us then that our wedding day is a big celebration of happiness and contentment. It's like the first time you fall in love...why do you innately think it will last forever?
2007-01-27 09:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by Sim1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think girls dream of the perfect wedding, because it would make them 'princess for the day'. That is alluring to a young girl.
I have seen one or two who were planning this really big splash of a wedding to marry loser guys. Like, it was the big wedding that was important, not the marriage afterwards.
I dreamed, too, even tho I always knew it wasn't going to be a big, dreamy wedding. No, my childhood wasn't terribly happy, tho it was not as bad as it might have been.
I'm not a hopeless romantic, but I do think the glass is half full.
2007-01-27 03:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think every girl has that Cinderella mentality when it comes to her wedding day. Who wouldn't want the most perfect wedding? But, when the day does come, she has to rethink, unless she has a large trust fund, how much is this going to cost, can my parents afford it, if not, can I afford it, and reality kicks in. Happy childhood is relevant. Everyone's family has their dynamics, some parents create a wonderful childhood for their children, others do not. Some children go through a lot of stress yet feel their childhood was great, and others, who are extremely sensitive, can't tolerate mom and dad.
2007-01-27 03:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a happy childhood, then an unhappy childhood, then happy again later...
I believed that my wedding day would be happy because I would be marrying the man I loved who also loved me...
Yes, I am a hopeless romantic!
2007-01-27 07:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Never did. I was raised on a farm. It was a happy, busy childhood. Lotsa work.
I loved boys, but was never around them much. We were somewhat isolated from them. There were boys I had crushes on at school, but it never went as far as me contemplating marriage.
I think I realized that I had a long way to go before I was as mature as my parents. I never thought I'd get there. Couldn't grasp the concept of being THAT old. haha
I saw what they had was special and rare. I never met anyone I considered special, just physically cute.
I knew I had a lot to learn before I took that big of a plunge.
I've always had a wild, overactive imagination, but never could imagine myself married or what the circumstances would be that lead up to it.
In my case, it was pregnancy. That was terrifying. I never even held a baby before my daughter was born. Having a child was number 6843 on the list of things to do with my life.
I figured it out. haha
The marriage thing didn't. He thought the grass was greener and we split after 13 years of marriage.
I knew and saw at a very young age that marriage was a lot of work. I don't believe I had any illusions about it.
2007-01-27 03:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a wonderful childhood.
And although I was excited about being a bride and had my own vision, I also knew this was as much about my parents and my in-laws as it was me.
so I made a lot of adjustments so that it was a wedding that everyone felt happy about. Was it always what I would have had as a first choice - no.
2007-01-27 04:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never really dreamed of the perfect wedding day, I know you asked for those people but your question intrigued me.
But as soon as I met my fiance and realized I was in love with him I started dreaming about our wedding day. PLanning every detail in my head! I can't wait to say "I Do" and another little of piece of me can't wait to be a princess for the day!
2007-01-27 08:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess i really didnt start thinking or dreaming of my wedding day until i got in a relationship that i thought would lead to marriage. i was about 19 at the time. it ending up not working out for us and i fell madly in love with someone else. now WE think a dream about our wedding day together. we cannot wait!
2007-01-27 03:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋