getting married at the end of this year.And im so happy for them, but Im alittle unhappy about their choices. You see i dont have any sisters,nor do i have any girl cousins. I always wanted my godmother who is young and hip to be my maid of honour. Im also one of those girls who wanted a princess wedding with a pink theme. Anyways make a long story short, my cousins gf who has 2 sisters and endless amounts of female friends and cousins asked my godmother to be her maid of honour, and her wedding theme is a pink and brown princess theme. I dont mean to be bothered by it, but I am, now I feel if i do what i always wanted to do i am copying her...am i right?what should I do?
2007-01-27 03:08:42 · 16 answers · asked by pink_starlet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I dont want to tell her anything, im not going to ruin her wedding, i just want to knwo if its appropiate to do the same things.
2007-01-27 03:16:00 · update #1
for the record the godmother is my aunt. and secondly I am getting married. Im engaged. They got engaged after me and picked a month beofre my wedding
2007-01-27 03:18:52 · update #2
they knew i was asking my aunt, i was to do so on her bday but they went and got engaged and asked her the same night, how can my poor aunt pay for two weddings so close to eachother?
2007-01-27 03:21:38 · update #3
You should suck it up and deal with it.
You can feel however you want to, but you need to do so alone. It would be completely inappropriate for you to voice this resentment toward your cousin.
Sure, it's appropriate to do whatever decorations and theme you wanted. Nobody will remember but you anyway.
2007-01-27 03:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah, get over it....but then again if you've spent your entire life planning an event that may or may not happen, I'm sure it won't be easy for you.
Annnddd a suggestion:
Find something productive to do with your time. If you have this kind of time on your hands I'm telling you SOMEONE out there less fortunate than yourself could use your help. I guess most girls dream about how their wedding day will be. Operative word here? GIRLS! If men and women would put as much time into nurturing the relationship and making sure they were making a lifelong commitment to the "right" person as they did planning how everything will "look" on their wedding day, we wouldn't have a 50% divorce rate.
Just a suggestion...good luck!
2007-01-27 03:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a big deal to it with her, it is her day and your not the only one with a dream wedding. Don't be jeolous, instead be supporttive. If you show any grudges than it could also put your godmother in an awkward position. And there are MANY women who have a princess theme wedding, so your not copying anyone. And if your not even engaged wih anyone, tham quit planning a wedding that isn't going to take place yet.
2007-01-27 03:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by skye_lashay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really sucks, if your cousin knew all about your dreams and went ahead and started to use your dreams for her day instead, that wasnt right of her at all. But all you can do is brush it off and either think of somthing better and come up with a new idea or just do the same thing. Or you could always move up the wedding so it will look like she copied you instead, or at least change a few things so it wont be to obvious they look the same, perhaps you could save enough money to buy your aunt the dress so that way she will be able to be in it. This really sucks, but i am sure if you look at new ideas you could come up with something even better and than she will be jealous of it and will regreat for taking your idea in the frist place.
2007-01-27 04:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't sweat it, you can still do what you want when the time comes.......note what you like and don't like about their wedding and think about that when you make the modifications to make your wedding your own.........personally I don't like brown with pink for colors....princess themes are great if you can afford to go with a Disney (or at least Disney style) wedding. There are so many ways to work with this theme you will be fine. your godmother is your godmother so if you still want her for Maid of honor when the time comes you still ask her. My husband has been best man for 4 weddings and an usher in 3.........expensive for him but he was happy to do it.
2007-01-27 03:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some information for you that you are not going to like: the world is not all about you. Whether you like their choices doesn't mean spit to anyone but you, and I'm sure they didn't consult with you before they made their plans. Also, most weddings are basically the same, and the one opportunity for every girl to be a "princess". It sounds like you have years to come up with all sorts of ways to do the wedding you've always wanted and still be unique and creative. Don't worry about their wedding; keep dreaming about yours and how on YOUR special day, the world WILL revolve around you!
2007-01-27 03:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by telaine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's always amazed me, those kinds of girls who have planned their wedding since they were young!
I would try to make as many female friends as you can to include them in the wedding.
Still do what you want. Your wedding will be different. Besides, you will remember it for a life time, the people attending will forget about it - and probably not even compare it to your cousin's wedding.
2007-01-27 03:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by WhoamI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not copying her!! Lot's of girls have this type of dream for there wedding when they are young. I used to dream that when I got married, I would have a tall pink cake, pink and princess decorations everywhere, and have a princess-like dress. Everyone wants to have a princess wedding, and nobody is copying. Don't worry.
2007-01-27 03:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by .:Feliciano:. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation.... VERY SIMILAR. It all works out... sit back and watch her mistakes. My SIL took a lot of my ideas, and in a mean way. And you know what... some of them did not turn out well, and I had time to plan something different and better.
I also think you sound very mature. Don't make a big deal out of it, you don't want to ruin their wedding day... who knows you may be unknowingly using some ideas of the next person whoi is getting married and you would hate for them to make it a big deal to you. Kudos for that
2007-01-30 15:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by Sara K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want a wedding without knowing who you want to marry? Sounds like your in love with the "idea" aof a happy life.. be careful or you coule end up russing into a bad marrage.
Things always change 3-6 monthes in.
2007-01-27 03:22:53 · answer #10 · answered by k X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get worked up over it. This is a coincidence. Tell your cousin's gf when you get a chance. Drop a hint, whatever. Just so she knows when your wedding rolls around you don't want her to think you copied her. At least, you will know what not to do. Look at the bright side.
".......Isn't that weird....", you can say, "........how did you know what I am thinking?........." and go from there.
That, you are doing to put YOUR mind at ease, not hers.
2007-01-27 03:18:27 · answer #11 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋