So I met this girl online about 3 weeks ago. We live about 4.5 hours apart. We hit it off really well and had an amazing connection and flirted and joked around and everything and she even commented about it being awesome/me being awesome. We talked via e-mail/IM for a few days and then she called me and we talked for 5 hours and everyday up until Tuesday for a while. Didn't hear anything from her again until Thursday when she e-mailed to cancel our plans to meet this weekend saying she was nervous about it and wanted to wait. Now she won't talk to me at all, phone or anything. I haven't called since Thursday night and am planning to give her at least a week to decide what she wants to do. Is she blowing me off? Should I move on? She seemed really excited about meeting and now this, it doesn't make any sense. I'm 24 and she is 23 btw.
2007-01-27 02:32:38 · 17 answers · asked by edgeblade69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So I met this girl online about 3 weeks ago. We live about 4.5 hours apart. We hit it off really well and had an amazing connection and flirted and joked around and everything and she even commented about it being awesome/me being awesome. We talked via e-mail/IM for a few days and then she called me and we talked for 5 hours and everyday up until Tuesday for a while. Didn't hear anything from her again until Thursday when she e-mailed to cancel our plans to meet this weekend saying she was nervous about it and wanted to wait. Now she won't talk to me at all, phone or anything. I haven't called since Thursday night and am planning to give her at least a week to decide what she wants to do. Is she blowing me off? Should I move on? She seemed really excited about meeting and now this, it doesn't make any sense. I'm 24 and she is 23 btw.
Forgot to mention, it was from eHarmony if that matters. And we have seen pictures of one another.
2007-01-27 02:39:11 · update #1
Crap, sorry about the double post there.
We've been met people online first then in person 2nd before, so it's not something new, other than meeting someone different.
2007-01-27 02:40:37 · update #2
I have given her space. I'm not calling or anything, not since Thursday anyways and that is because she had e-mailed me so I thought maybe she was ready to talk again.
And for the record, she is the one who suggested meeting this early. I was fine with whatever she was fine with.
2007-01-27 02:48:23 · update #3
Move on if its meant to be it will happen, just back off an let the situation cool off, the friendship needs to be built before a relationship can be brought into the picture.
2007-01-27 02:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it slide. If she is nervous about meeting you then what do you think calling her off the hook will do? It will only drive her away. You need to realize that for you two to work out it requires things that are not logical. Give her space. Let her make the next move. If you pursue her much more you will never hear from her again.
2007-01-27 10:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by CanadianDu4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on, or at least stop calling her and wait for her to call you. If she is interested in you, then she will call. She already knows that you are trying to contact her. Don't worry about the fact that her actions do not make any sense; the way girls act when dating someone rarely does make any sense.
2007-01-27 10:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meeting people online could give a person a bad felling like what if all things he said to me lie's or how old is he so give her some time if you really like her love is..... patience love is .......not meant to be rushed love is...... kind so give her space what i found out by the questions iv'e asked were females are opened minded just wait she might of got in trouble or something calm down breath in an now out breath in an now out breath in an now out chill
2007-01-27 10:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by dear tha unknown pt2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well something is wrong so I'd do as she said and back off.If she comes around later then good,but this reaction of hers isn't good and this behavior is what's known as a red flag,meaning she may not be all you think.People send pictures all the time that's not them.Let her know that if she isn't who she says she is or the picture wasn't her that's cool,but I wouldn't get so involved with her acting this way.
2007-01-27 10:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be she wasn't straight up with you,maybe she has a boyfriend.or she is leary on meeting you and she has second thoughts about it.i would leave things alone,and move on.if she has a change of heart she will contact you.
besides she isn't the only one out there.lol
best of luck.
2007-01-27 10:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has a b/f already and just didn't tell you about it, or maybe she really isn't 23.
If she isn't returning your calls or email, I'd just walk away from it.
2007-01-27 10:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had something similar, and I need a little help, but can't mention it on here. It's nothing bad, but if you could would you please email me, and I can explain, maybe we can help each other with this stuff, lol.
2007-01-27 10:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by Chey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would back off. Unless she calls you, i would just move on.
2007-01-27 10:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes probably playing the field, move on
2007-01-27 10:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by sissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋