My girlfriend and I have been going out on and off for 7 and a half years, and I'm only 20 years old. We have broken up and gotten back together over 10 times and most of the time it was me. Now i'm feeling the same urge to break up again. I just feel like I should be meeting new people and testing the water a bit. Is it possible I should stay with my girl forever? Everytime we break up I want her back but when we are together after about 3 months I get the itch again. I am so confused. I know I love her but do I love her enough to marry her and spend my life with her? Or am I just really indecisive? Am I just afraid to be alone? PLEASE HELP!!
2007-01-27 02:27:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen very careful sweety! You need to, ok hold it let me rephraze this....you HAVE to go out there and test some waters. Meet defferent females not just dating but friendship wise to see if she is really someone who would should be with together. Personally i think you are way too young for anything serious because you will regret later if you dont go out there and have some male fun. Trust me. Females need to be the same way too. Now mind you i am not saying you need to hoe around and catch diseases but you need to have some varioty. If not you will never find out if you really making right choice, because we make right choices on previous experiences (which you dont have) and comparisons (which you also dont have because she is all you ever had) If you have an urge then go for it, because even though you miss her there might not be any love between you but attachement. Also a lot of people most of the time confuse love with something that you are so used to and comfortable with. Dont settle for that. Go for my advice. And if that is not enough then i will give you life example of my sister that i witnessed when i was younger. She was 14 when she met her future ex husband. He was 20. They both were virgins and they both were first to each other. Now mind you they got married 4 years later after strong relationship. And guess what...both start cheating on each other within the next year of marriage. They both had no idea what they got themselves into marrying so early and not experiencing other things so of course they developed urge when it was too late. So please dont be the one that set yourself and her for failure. She may not realize but she needs this as much as you do. Good luck!
2007-01-27 02:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been dating since you were 13 so you don't really know any other way of living. Having your girlfriend around is just habit so when you break up you automatically feel that missing chunk in your life. You need to separate for a little bit and go out and experience the world on your own, it sounds like you want to find out what it's like to be with other women and if your girlfriend is truely what you want. If you haven't decided after 7 and a half years (even though half of that time you were really young) whether or not you want to marry her then chances are you don't. I say you separate, not necessarily break up, but take a vacation from each other to see if this is really what you want.
2007-01-27 02:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mystery_Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you are scared to be alone. Do you really love her? Are you in love with her? You need to ask yourself these questions. Besides you are young and do have time to decide what you want to do. But if you feel the need to breakup after bout 3 months, you need to let her go so that she can be with someone that would want her for longer than 3 months at a time. You got a lot of thinking to do on this one.. Good luck
2007-01-27 02:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by unforseenfantasy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never say never and never say forever. That's a long time to be stuck with a jerk. Who has convinced you that you'll be alone if you don't have her? You're in a rut with each other. You've not experience what else is out there. That's why you keep breaking up. You need to get real. You don't HAVE TO stay with one girl all your natural life if that's not what you want...and the same for her. You guys are too young to trap yourselves like this.
2007-01-27 02:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its human nature, that when your with someone for so long, you tend to second guess little things about your relationship...am I with the right person? I love her, but why cant I not stand her sometimes...?........ all of these little things, are normal, especially when you've been dating your gf for 7yrs...reguardless on how many times you've broken up....bc 7 yrs out of your life, was concentrated on ONE girl..... im in a very similar situation....verrrrrrrrrrrrry similar.... sometimes I wonder if perhaps, another guy, will be on time every time we go out...(which really annoys me about my bf) or maybe he would do all the things that DONT bother me...... but the thing you have to understand, is that no one is perfect...i know im not...your not either...and im sure in your gf's mind, there have been some ups and downs and questioning her relatinship with you tooo...but shes still with you....and guess what, im still with my boyfriend.... i know what else is out there.... why should i leave my amazing, yet sometime flawed bf, for a guy who may be perfect on the outside, but has a drinking problem on the inside? or some other serious aspect that i wont be able to live with? i guess my point is, if all that you and your gf have been going thru, if thru it all, sit down between you and yourself and ask yourself this:
thru all the ups and downs, can i still see her as my wife one day? could you see yourself living a life with someone else?
i just think your curious right now, which is normal, but for two people who have been together for sooo long, odds are, with all the flaws, you both are truly insane about each other, bc no one remains in an "unhappy" relationship for sooo long. she knows you better than anyone else does, and wayyy more than any new girl ever would or could. and she knows about alll those little things you like.....visa versa...
stay strong, good luck, and like i said, i was in this exact situtaion, and it turns out wonderfullly if you can answers those questions i was asking you about.
we are engaged now....and its the strongest we've ever been.
good luck to you
2007-01-27 02:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no at 20 you need to get out there meet some people and if u break up that often she is definitely no the one go clubbing with friends drinking games be a player for a year or 2 cover it up though then think about marriage best to wait till u r 25 and she is at least 23
2007-01-27 02:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up and stay broke up! Your 20 and so your hormones are all in a bunch, if you get married now without resolving these feelings for her you will wined up cheating on her and she will break up with you. Test the waters just make sure to wear a rain coat.
2007-01-27 02:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by John S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have broken up so many times already I doubt that you will be together forever. If you keep getting "the itch" I don't think it's "true love", if it was you wouldn't keep wondering if there is something better out there b/c you would think you already had the best
2007-01-27 02:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by bluesgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart adult adult males say perpetually each and all the time and better than 0.5 of the time they dont advise it. and wow six days aint so super. i extraordinarily doubt it grew to become into your fault so which you shouldnt hassle approximately it yet while he is going to ask somebody else out then youll only ought to recover from it... im sorry and have faith me i be attentive to itll be troublesome yet.. thats how love is at a youthful age. have faith me i be attentive to. im just some years older than you. i'm hoping you discover somebody outstanding and well worth it sluggish quickly. :) i promise there'll come a astonishing guy who will take care of you good. it my no longer final perpetually however the moments that yall do spend together would be candy and rather unquestionably worth the tears that could or won't come.. :)
2016-09-28 01:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by schiraldi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with her men! Should try relationship with someone else.
So yo'll have a point of camparison. Dude do you want to 1 dish all of your life? how can you tell whats a good dish or not if you havent tried other dishes?
So the rest is up to you!
we got so little time in this world
so many girls so little time!
2007-01-27 02:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by agent zk7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋