My bf of a year broke up with me two days ago (says he's tired of us arguing about the same things over and over again), but I can't get over him. We've spoken a little since then, but I have been doing most of the talking. I'm trying to get him to come over and talk to me and try to work things out. Some of my friends say give him time and space others say that I need to get it done with before it's too late.
Yesterday I asked him a question via text message: What do I need to do to get you back?
He responded: Can't answer that right now
And also, out of the blue he texted me: No matter what I do, I'll still love you. Then called, but I kind of blew him off out of anger for the break-up and he got mad.
Does any of this mean anything to you? Because I'm being positive thinking that we might be able to work things out. And how do I get him to meet up with him?
2007-01-27 02:26:19 · 16 answers · asked by SEXY LOVE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He broke up with me... And hasn't taken it back yet... but he's continued to communicate with me. Not many words, just listening and he keeps saying:
I'll take that into consideration.
I'm lost.
2007-01-27 02:28:45 · update #1
sounds like you have a major breakdown in communication ... talk to him and listen to what he has to say, if you want to get back together with him then show him you care by listening to what he has to say and not "blowing him off" ... ... ...
2007-01-27 02:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by melark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying too hard. Sounds like he is sending you mixed signals. That's not cool either. Walk away. You say after two days you can't get over him. Sweetheart, I am here to tell you as someone who has been through a few breakups (most of the relationships lasting more than a year and one lasting as long as 5) that it takes a lot longer than 2 days to get past it. Breaking up sucks, there is no way to get around that and the feelings don't automatically go away. I am guessing that you are young and that this is your first major relationship. I say walk away. Stop calling him. Stop texting him. Stop responding to his texts. If its meant to be, then he'll come back to you. If not, then chalk it up to a life lesson and move on. It's not the end of the world, though I know that it sometimes seems as such. Buy some ice cream. Watch sad movies. Cry for a few days. Spend some time with your girlfriends having a good old fashioned B@#$% and cry fest (which will usually turn to laughter after a while). Then open yourself up to other options. Take a little time to find out who you are outside of this relationship, because sometimes we get so caught up in being part of a couple, we forget who we are as an individual. In a month or two it won't hurt this bad. Perhaps after a little time after you two have cooled off a bit you can sit down and have and open and honest discussion about where things went wrong and see if its worth fixing or if its better to go your separate ways. If the latter ends up being the case then so be it. Enjoy being single for a while. Go out and start meeting new people. Then perhaps you'll meet someone new and years from now this pain will be just a distant memory. Good luck. It sucks now but trust me, it won't always feel this bad.
2007-01-27 02:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by Marijane K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if it's really over, there is no way you're going to get over him in two days. That takes months, and it would be hard, but as times go by it gets easier. It's a slow process, but there will be a time that you will wake up one morning and realize, hey, I'm okay. Second, if it's not over, you need to quit reacting with anger and revenge. It sounds like you and he have a lot of anger issues, which means both of you have stopped listening to each other. Listen to him, what he's really saying - he may have trouble saying what he means, and you need to really listen with an open mind, and with your heart. Don't be so pushy and agressive at this point that you push him away. If you aggravate him to death you'll annoy him to the point he doesn't want anything to do with you. Treat him with respect, consideration, and interest - if you're really meant to be together, this will show him you still care deeply about him, and he'll be back.
2007-01-27 02:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by telaine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally I let hopeless cases go, but I'm in a good mood today. Have you ever heard the saying "If you love someone, let them go. If they come back they're yours, if not, they never were."? It's true. You messed up by messaging him asking how to get him back. If you really don't think this is a lost cause, use human nature to your benefit. People want what they can't have. Play "He who cares the least", it utilizes that particular quirky part of human psyche. For the next couple of days, talk to him once a day. Do NOT mention anything about getting back together. Just talk to him about things unrelated to your current woes. The idea is to put yourself in the forefront of his thoughts without seeming pushy. Try to seem interested in his welfare and feelings without expressing yours. Draw him out. And under no circumstances argue, criticize, or place blame. Seem aloof, as if nothing happened, neither upset or happy. I guarantee he'll come running back.
2007-01-27 02:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're really having trouble letting go of this relationship. If the break-up came out of the blue, with no prior warning, than I get where you're coming from. Try thinking back and see if you can recognize any "warning signs" that he was going to break up with you. Also, you need to give yourself a little bit more than two days to get over him. I dated a girl for three years, and she broke up with me this past October, and I'm just now feeling as though I am ready to move on. Good luck with everything!
2007-01-27 02:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he responded to you and when he called you blew him off I would take it like a strong reminder of why we broke up in the first place and another thing, if your arguing over him looking at other women get over it or become a lesbian, all guys look some more discreetly than others but if their not trying to pick them up or anything you should back off or let him go. Nuff said
2007-01-27 02:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by John S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly want to get him back then pretend you don't want anything to do with him. It's human nature to want what you can't have. On that same page it is human nature that you will want him since he broke up with you. DON'T SEEM DESPERATE!! The More you ask him what you have to do to get him back the more it will drive him away. Your friends are right about getting it down now or never, but in my opinion I think you should let him go. When the time comes, YOU and you alone should decide if things should continue. He broke up with you, so take control.
2007-01-27 02:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is over, i personally think that if your all over him, and his not resoponding its time to stop. BACK OFF, and give him some space. If he keeps on sending texts and stuff that he likes you, ask him if he does and if he wants to get back together. Dont constantly bug him about it cause that just will annoye him and at the same time make him think that you will always be there. Back off and let him feel what it feels like not to have you there. If he responds than mabey you can save it, if not i would try to put it all behind me and move on. either way i wish you luck.
2007-01-27 02:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by cheesey thug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From his answers to you and his actions, give him time. He seems to need space. Either he'll realize how much he misses you, or he'll decide he wants to move on with someone else. Either way, you'll have your answer and you can stop worrying about it. It's hard to think about this right now, but after a little time, you might find that you need to go the opposite direction too. And who knows? Maybe you'll be better off on your own. Just don't dwell on him for too long. Even though it hurts now, you shouldn't have to wait for somebody to decide WHEN or even IF they want to be with you. You deserve better than that. If you have to talk someone into being with you, than HE isn't worth it.
2007-01-27 02:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should give him space to think you texting an calling might make his decision to think longer so if you really love each other then you should everything in your will an power to stay together love isn't meant to put you an your mate in arguing sitituation relasioships are meant to grow not put each other time plus what do you argue about sometimes if he's tired then let him go move on their are so many guy's out their who want to be in a serious relationship so give him time on just move on. no more tears=...(
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2016-11-27 22:00:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋