heya yahoo!
i'm not over my first love yet.... i mean i still compare every guy i meet to j, my first real boyfriend..... he was, is a jerk, an as***le, but i cant forget how he was before he broke my heart....
Do you guys or girls still think about your first love, what do you think, and how does thinking about him or her make you feel?
how can i forget him?
help,
thanx,
*Bella
2007-01-27 02:13:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i see him in school and around with his new girlfriend
2007-01-27 02:34:25 · update #1
We're in the same boat. My ex of four years and I broke up a year and six months ago, and up to now i still love him very much and i can't get him off my mind. His pictures are still in my iPod..i always listen to the songs we used to love..i still visit his cousins who are very close to me. Obviously, i haven't moved on yet. Sometimes become bitter and i want to curse love. I mean, you get that feeling that you gave everything yet your everything still isn't enough to make him stay. You tried to be perfect but still you're trying in vain. It's really hard, and you get the big phobia of falling in love again and risk getting hurt again.
My advice? Deal with it. Time heals all the wounds and so should you. You can't rush into moving on, you have to pass through several stages until you could say 'i survived!'. By now im sure you have the mottos 'love sucks', 'love is stupidity' etc....
1.) throw away all his mementos, photos, and eveything that reminds you of him.
2.) Spend more time with your friends and family.
3.) Keep yourself busy.
4.)Avoid listening to mellow music, esp. the songs both of you loved to listen to,
5.) Keep a list of all the bad things he did to you and tack them next to your bed.
6.) Sever all of your communications with him.
7.) Avoid seeing him.
8.)Avoid the places he frequents.
9.)Convince yourself that you don't deserve him.
Remember this:
GOD TAKES AWAY WHEN HE HAS SOMETHING BETTER TO GIVE.
2007-01-27 02:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its taken me several years to get past my frist serious boyfriend that i loved to death. i would always think of him when i was single or compare him to my current bf but one thing i always kept in mind was that all your experiences with love will be different, in a good way. every individual brings something else to the table so while you'll never have that same exact experience with love again you still have a lot to look forward. just give it time and slowly you will realise that the jerk this guy turned into is just no longer worth your thoughts. for now concentrate on the good qualities of other men and doing things that make yourself feel happy and independant. eventually you'll see what i mean but its only natural to think back to that first person every once in awhile.
2007-01-27 10:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by kestrelk8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup at the first few months of our break up.
After I have this effective outlet to forget her.
I just hook up myself to something, make myself busy.
I joined a photography club which i can express myself more by taking pictures... I get to know different people. In that way I shifted my attention towards other that makes me realize that I can still enjoy life without her. So join clubs that will make you busy. Because when you locked up yourself in your room thinkin of the old times, that will just make you miserable. Or send me a message or an e-mail so we cansetup for a date. I'm single! Hehehehe Just Kidding! Goodluck! hope you forget about him!
2007-01-27 10:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by agent zk7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Bella
I know how it feels when someone leaves our lives. For sometime our life becomes void, empty and uncertain. We become fragile and weak. But you know what, the right perspective of love is to forgive and move on. We meet people everyday and communicate with them, I am sure at times we meet people who share same interests and thought as we do. As for now for you, the best thing would be to liberate yourself for sometime and try to meet new people and understand them, or make someone happy. It will help you to forget your pain and who knows you find someone as caring as u are. Remember what ever happens it happens for good and to make us understand for your mistakes. Why cant we take our last relationship as our learning period. take care
Krusovae Nikefriz
2007-01-27 10:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by krusovae 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I know how you feel, just, that relationship was you to learn from, that you can't be with somebody just from likeness and belief.
Next boyfriend , you will chose for his real qualities, and qualities that are on the first place, like that he is good...
You think of him, last boyfriend cause you still are not sure that he was acted ugly.You remember him as he was nice, but he wasn't sincere completely, he lied, ..
That was nice time, but it is not for eternity.
I was also thinking on one ex boyfriend ,like you do.
I now have boyfriend, so are you one day.
2007-01-27 10:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by ana k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never forget a first love! they hurt the most. I recently just became friends with mine again after he dumped me a few months back, i think hes changd now i might giv it another go.
My advice is to get back in contact with him people do change so maybe u can rekindle that spark :) Just start out as friends tho
goodluck hun x
2007-01-27 10:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by AussieGal777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i first fell in love it was kinda like being born for the first time you feel so awake and like there aint nothn better and you dream about it all the time it herts to let go but you gotta, try to be more open to other people and let them in a little and just kinda put that one in the experience part of your mind and learn from it
2007-01-27 10:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh wow.. i completely remember my 1st boyfriend.. i know it has been hard for you to get over him..its worse when they make promises that theyd get back with u etc..after they figure themnselves out insted they date someone else.. well the best to heal fast is to block him out of your life,its gonna be hard but trust me it makes life easier and as he would be having a good life ud be watching him have a good life and ud be miserable.. which woudl not be so great! i know the feeling of comparing other guys to ur 1st..but trsut me boyfriends do get better but that feelings will slowly fade and remain until u date other guys,b4 u date its best to heal in order for the next realtionship to work out. i highly suggest to hide/box the stuff he got you etc.. i wish u the best of luck!
2007-01-27 10:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by Andrea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is...patience love is...kind love is....not meant to be rushed so when you find that special person right for you just don't take old relationships into new one's chill love is.... patience love is....kind love is....not meant to be rushed gods gotta back relax enjoy life the right guy will come with no more broken hearts an tears =....( connected so move on get over it
2007-01-27 10:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by dear tha unknown pt2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently hooked up with my first love, I base all women off of her...We both have moved on with our own lives (mortgages and wifes) but we know we would have been perfect for each other..
2007-01-27 10:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋