i broke up with my bf at the start of the year cos i wanted to concentrate on my school work and i didn't feel comfortable having a bf.
now he's going out with my friend. (he asked me if i was fine with it a few days later)
we've never spoken to each other ever since the break up. recently though he's been talking to me a little on msn (he made the first move) - talking about normal stuff we've always talked about before we went out. and he found out that i'm leaving the country for university (i wanted him to find out just to see if he still cares). he asked me if i am and when til i do leave.
i got my best friend to ask him if he still loves me and he said 'i did but i dont anymore'
is he telling the truth? does he still like me? cos i've never stopped loving him but he got the wrong idea when i broke up with him. i think about him everyday everynight... and i feel so uncomfortable seeing them together.
2007-01-27 02:07:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks guys... i really appreciate your answers...
now my only problem is... how the hell do i forget him?! it's gonna almost impossible, cos i see him every single day at school
2007-01-28 05:07:41 · update #1
He has moved on with his life. I doubt you two will ever date again.
2007-01-27 02:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by shadouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah get over it. If he was so quick to join up with your friend you were not that special to him. This is really normal and you should go away to university and meet other people. Don't think that you have to connect with every guy that you meet, cause it just won't happen. Before you decide on one guy at least try to go out with about 6 others just to see how things go. Falling for the first person you meet could be a mistake. You are too young to be deciding this is the guy. Live a little and do not get tied down right away. Your boyfriend has the right idea, some day after about 20 other girl friends he may decide you were the one and call you up again to get reacquainted. It can happen and when it does you will have about 20 other guys to compare him with and if the connection to him is still so strong then the two of you have a much better chance of success. Good luck.
2007-01-27 02:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. PDQ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A couple things:
1. He's dating your friend right now and just like she respected the fact that you two were together, you need to respect the fact that your friend and ex-boyfriend are together.
2. He probably told your best friend that he did love you but not anymore because he's using a defense mechanism to block out the feelings he has for you. He's telling himself that it's over to make your leave easier to handle.
3. Regardless of whether he loves you or not, the bottomline is that you're moving out of country so there's no point in trying to rekindle the relationship unless you truely believe you could keep a long distance going.
I think both you need to move on with your lives, I don't see a happy ending except in your separate lives. You're almost done with high school and you are closer than ever to experiencing wonderful college life, concentrate on school and let him do his own thing.
2007-01-27 02:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mystery_Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to tell the best thing is to just go up to him and tell the truth be like OK i have something very important to tell you OK? sit down then be like i still love you and it was a huge mistake to break up with you the only reason why i think i did it was because i was SO stressed out on school work that i didn't have time for a b\f and i thought that if we still went out i thought you would think i didn't like you cuz i was always stressed and crabby and we would of never had time to do anything! than say but i no that was a mistake and i regrate it SO much but i would like to no if you would like to get back together because i still love you and it is evident because i think about you 24/7
2007-01-27 02:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by KEVIN M C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has moved on. You could tell him and say I still love you.. But you will find someone else eventually. You are to young to know what love is.. I am 37 and still havenot found it yet. It sucks you are lucky to have had a boyfriend in High School I got reaped and got pregnant at the same time and became a mother before I found love.
2007-01-27 02:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by Pooh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This world would run much smoother if people would just open up to each-other & be honest with one another. Im telling you all you need to do is be honest with him,tell him how you really feel!
2007-01-27 02:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by swt-bby-gl-69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know he doesn't, right?....Forget him girl, move on!!!! He is not the only fish in hte sea....everytime you start to think of him pinch yourself and don't go there, it takes time but this too shall pass....good luck...chin up, now go flirt and have fun.
2007-01-27 02:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you the whole break up thing might of gotten him mad, so he maybe is using youf friend to make you jealous to get you back. So, maybe he still likes you.
2007-01-27 02:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jackie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be the one telling or asking him these things not your friend so you try to ask him or he will think you don't like him because if you do YOU should be asking him if he loves you
2007-01-27 02:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by chao w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to be the one to give you bad news but if he ever really liked you he wouldn't have moved on so quickly and if he cared about your feeling he wouldn't be with your friend
2007-01-27 02:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋