This is my personal experience: I have known this girl since I was in Grade 5, by then I was 10 years old. By then, I did not have any feelings for her, and if there is, it was just a lust that lasts for a weekend. For four years I did not keep an eye on her; I did not do things for her; I was not very kind to her; I was not even a gentleman to her. And now I regret it.. Why? I have been falling in love with her for the past half a year and I have told her my feeling but she said she just want to be friends. I reckon it is because of me being not very special to her and did not treat her in a special way for all this while.. I have been trying very hard for the past six months to be a gentleman to her.
What I am saying is that if I took FOUR years to develop a special feeling for her, why is it impossible for her to do the same to me?
2007-01-27 02:07:10 · 4 answers · asked by Mr Asker Knowmore 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you said it yourself! you spent a couple years not treating her right and now that's how she knows you and most people after having developed their judgement on who somebody else is don't tend to break that judgement no matter how much the person begins to treat them nice. there's a small chance it could happen of course but i think you really would have to start going out of your way for her. if it took you four years to realize it, you have to keep in mind that it may take many years of your constant good behavior towards her for her to realize anything if at all. hang in there. if worse comes to worse and she never comes around then thats just that. you can't make someone love you.
2007-01-27 02:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by kestrelk8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is just simply not interested in you or the way you treated her in the past has made it impossible for her to feel for you in a romantic way.
You are very young. Move on and find someone else.
2007-01-27 10:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by DEENIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you doubt her when she says that she wants to be friends? You should just take her at her word...And do not read any more into it. Just because you took 4 years to recognise your feeling for her, does not mean that she has done the same....So why wait around for someone, who might never share your feelings?
2007-01-27 10:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes 2 to form a relationship. if one side is not interested, it ain't gonna happen. you can figure out your timing and your heart strength. sometimes, leaving her may make her realize your importance and existence and give yourself some other opportunity to meet other girls. open up your mind and welcoming others to your friend circle and maybe you'll meet someone who appreciates you and feels special about you. good luck!
2007-01-27 10:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋