Is he too good for me?

Question

So I met him 4 years ago and I was on a higher college course than him (for those who don’t know that’s the years between high school and university, usually 16-18years old) and I had better GCSES (grades) then him.
He’s not got his family around and has had to support himself from16yearsold and was doing his GCSES and a lower course then me.
Any way, judgmental cow I am I thought I was better than him because at the time I didn’t think he had much prospects in life other than working in asda (Wal-Mart) and I was young I thought with my bright future he would be a burden, so we were just friends, and we lost contact.
But I saw him recently and now I am on a course lower than before because I didn’t want the stress and he’s finishing his second higher one and, wait for it------------ going of to university! Which I don’t think id be smart enough for so its completely different now, totally reversed, he’s is going places and I’m the one heading for asda (walmart).

I’m really proud of him but angry with me, he will be gone in a few months and I doubt ill ever see him again.
Did I get what I deserved? Should I let him go to his better life rather that burden him with me?
I just think he’s too good for me.

Answer 1

Listen closely sweetie. NOBODY IS EVER BETTER THAN YOU.YOU ARE JUST AS GOOD AS ANYBODY ELSE IN THIS WORLD. Don't ever feel that way about yourself.We all have made mistakes and misjudgments.It doesn't make us bad people.The mistakes that we make are what help us grow into the people we are now, by learning from those mistakes. If you are not happy with your current situation,then go back to school and finish.But do it for yourself,not to impress others.You are smart enough and can do it. I don't even know you,but I do know that you can do it.

Answer 2

Personally I think that you should start getting to know him while hes still around. Then when he leaves he will want to keep in contact with you. And your judgement may have been wrong, but you were just thinking about what would be the best for your future. So don't beat yourself up over it. All people do that at sometime. He may have thought the same. Maybe thats why he never thought to get to know you at all.. So you should get to know him while you have the chance so your not beating yoursefl up over what coulda been. Even if it doesn't work out, you'll know what was to happen rather than not knowing. And thats always better for your heart.

Answer 3

Two points.
1 your respective academic qualities are as irrelevant now as they were before.

2 so he's off to uni. Great. Some of the dumbest schmucks I've ever met went to university. And many of the smartest, sharpest tacks I've met never did. Bill Gates could have finished his degree course, and everyone would know he was smart. Instead of the worlds' most successful businessman.

Answer 4

Either this is a wind-up or you are a very sad person and deserve to be on your own for ever, how can anyone judge a future partner on their possible ability to make money as a priority. Go get your job in Asda and let this guy get on with his life.

Answer 5

Wow what a conscious if your intellectual side of your life is different so be it you have studied so you do have a brain so do many people who work in supermarkets you would have different views on life. you see plenty of people who are both sides of the fence fully qualified in whatever Then they have a family they end in the same hospital in the same wards and all the different classes colours and creeds this is life no one is better than you you are an individual you share experiences in life
then its all gone Amen so make the most of what You want in life,

Answer 6

Nobody is too good for anybody.

Nobody is better than anybody else.

Everybody is more 'skilled' in certain areas & we are all different but nobody is 'better'.

Try & remember this, it might make u a happier, more confident person.

And to add to it, I went to college & got real good grades but I didnt go to uni. Instead I worked in a factory for 6 months, then a shop. 4 years on, I showed my intiative & intelligence through another job I got & ended up being promoted to an accountant.
I have a excellent salary, company car, company laptop, mobile etc etc etc so even if u dont go to uni, it doesnt at all mean u will end up in a shop job all your life if thats not what u want to do.

I wish u love & luck x

Answer 7

Well, first, yes, I think you are getting your just desserts. Next, why exactally the hell would his educational level ever matter if you actually liked him, are you that superficial?

Now, if you actually like the guy because of who he is, I can only say that I hope is a bigger person than you and can 'get over' the fact that you are a 'judgemental cow' and like you for you.

Answer 8

Tough break. I guess that's what people get for being superficial. he's moved forward in life more than you have and now you feel bad because you would hAVE BEEN AHEAD OF HIM if you two had hooked up .that way you could have felt superior.either way it's really no big deal.

Answer 9

You are a very competitive person.

That's fine with those at work or at school.

Not fine with someone you want a relationship with.

Leave your comparisons in the closet when you are with him. If you can't, you need therapy, or at least find someone you don't feel the need to compete with.

Answer 10

Part of growing up is accepting people for what they offer you in charisma and not by their wealth as such. His wealth is that he has staying power and your downfall is that you are to judgmental not only to him but to yourself. If he is interested then give the encouragement he warrents and if you are dissatisfied with your own achievements you are young enough to add to them, remember no judging.