Me and my bf of a year broke up two days ago, and I can't get over him. We've spoken a little since then, but I have been doing most of the talking. I'm trying to get him to come over and talk to me and try to work things out. Some of my friends say give him time and space others say that I need to get it done with before it's too late.
Yesterday I asked him a question via text message: What do I need to do to get you back?
He responded: Can't answer that right now
And also, out of the blue he texted me: No matter what I do, I'll still love you. Then called, but I kind of blew him off out of anger for the break-up and he got mad.
Does any of this mean anything to you? Because I'm being positive thinking that we might be able to work things out. And how do I get him to meet up with him?
2007-01-27 01:53:55 · 9 answers · asked by SEXY LOVE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He broke up with me... And hasn't taken it back yet... but he's continued to communicate with me. Not many words, just listening and he keeps saying:
I'll take that into consideration.
I'm lost.
2007-01-27 02:14:18 · update #1
I'm sorry, but this exact sort of situation happened to my sister, and she wound up finding out that he was with another woman. He didn't have alot of answers either and seemed to keep her hanging on quite a while (by saying that he loved her! Then, when she caught him, he said everything was all her fault! Well, we all should know that we should close the book before starting a new one! There is never an excuse! He should tell you what's going on! When it comes to a relationship, communication is everything! There really shouldn't be anything that you "can't" talk about, especially something this important. It's really mean to leave you hanging on that way.
2007-01-27 02:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by jamz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is hard when two people break up. I went through this with my ex-husband and I have to say that now that I look back I should of given him some space right after the break up. Like 2 weeks or so. He might calm down and realize that he misses you. Right now I think he likes the fact that you keep calling him and want to talk to him. If you give him space you are showing him that you can live without him even if you don't feel that way. Try to talk to him after that time and tell him that you love him. For what ever reason ya'll broke up tell him you want to try to work on it and try to come to a compromise. Sometimes we take the one we love for granted and when it gets bad we than realize it to late. Hope this helps.
2007-01-27 10:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Zepol Nives 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is touchy. I am sure he didn't want to break up for good or else he wouldn't be keeping in such contact and texting you saying "... i'll still love you". That's a good sign. Maybe he just needs room to think about things. Maybe he is scared of keeping it going because it could last possibly forever. Maybe he is just being a guy and needing time to himself to think about what he wants. There are so many possibilities when somebody breaks up with someone. The only one I wouldn't consider is that he wants somebody else because normally that break up would be simple and wouldn't be followed up with sweet text messages. Maybe you should just call him and let him know that you are here for him with whatever is going through his head and even though you don't like this breakup you are going to give him space to breathe. Stress the fact that you are not going to wait around for him to come to his senses, though. Even though you may want to sit around and wait for him to realize he's making a mistake... you have to let him know otherwise, that way he will think that he only has this chance to lose you or love you. With whatever happens... I wish you the best of luck and have to just tell you to stay strong. Breakups are so hard, I know... but you can get through it because us girls are strong... always remember that!
2007-01-27 10:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just chill and let a little time pass, spend a little time apart. If you two are meant to be together then a little distance won't hurt.
On the other hand if you really want to meet up and get things worked out as quick as possible then you just gotta go about the whole thing in a cool/calm/mature way. Don't let anger/frustration get in the way, ya dig.
2007-01-27 10:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention as to WHY you both broke up?? Was one of you cheating on the other?? Did you have a big fight? if so..what about??
He obviously can't answer you as to what YOU can do to get him back?? Arnt you the one that threw him out like trash?? If you're calling him*/texting him and he's texting back "no matter what I do, I'll still love you"........doesn't seem like he's as anxious to be with you as you are to be with him*
Go back to the convo before you brokeup* If this is a common thing for you two...then he probably won't be back*,but instead, will move forward*
No one likes "games" of the heart*~ Obviously you broke his...Give him time........or forget bout him and move on. Hard to do yes......but he even tried calling you and you Blew him off out of anger therefore he got mad.....Do you blame him?? QUIT PLAYING GAMES WITH HIS HEART*!~
2007-01-27 10:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well give time, never say what do I have to do, that opens you up to be controlled and used. If its meant to be it will work if not there are others out there. You cant force others to do something or be with someone they dont want to be with.
2007-01-27 10:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by P_a94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets see here, if he is still talking to you, that is a good sign, let him sort out his feelings. But whatever you do dont put your life on hold waiting for him. He will come around quicker if you show him that you arent going to beg him to come back..
2007-01-27 09:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by unforseenfantasy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's an ex honey
an ex for a reason
it's not working out now and i wouldn't try to force it
2007-01-27 10:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by Back*To*Me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it really matters why you two broke up and who broke up with who, i mab if you broke up with him then he probably still wants you but now the question is why did you break up with him?
2007-01-27 10:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by d o 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋