my boyfriend now pays football one night a week he is on about starting to have a snooker night with the lads and he will prob go out one night over the weekend. Do you think this is the norm where both 26 just thought we where heading in the direction of starting a family not acting like like where 18 again
2007-01-27 01:39:53 · 23 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you need to look at this question that you have posed and realise how petty it seems.
Do you want to control every move your man makes?
Get an interest of your own and then you have something interesting to talk about when you are toether.
My daughter's husband went to Afghanistan for 5 months. In this time my daughter and two children had no contact other than by phone!
His life was in danger 24/7 while he was out there and every day my daughter wondered if her husband was coming home in one piece or in a body bag! That is some thing to worry about!!
Grow up and be thank ful for what you have! Things could be hell of a lot worse!!
2007-01-27 01:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by kiku 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, may I report that 2legsMalone has been reported for his abuse of you. What an individual! As for your problem, is there something you would like to do in the evening, a club or class that you would like to do? You are a couple, but there's no law stating out of a 168-hour week, if he's not working then you must be joined at the hip!
You are different people, and the individual must get out and be themselves. Which is why you don't play football on his team. He's a footballer, you probably aren't. What are you that he isn't? This is important - it's about keeping your own identity, and friendships outside of this relationship alive.
If his footy mates are not all his snooker mates, and vice-versa, he will fall out of touch with some of them if he has to choose. When do you get time with your girlfriends, or your platonic male friends? The friendships that matter, that last for life, the ones that are still there when - Heaven forbid - this relationship has ended, and you have been down about it, and you are now happy about some other great guy... Who you gonna tell? Your friends!
Look at the bigger picture. Don't chain him to the home, and wonder why he gets resentful. And retain and enjoy some of your own freedom. Don't just cling to each other, 24/7, 365.
2007-01-27 02:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There all right geri, both of you need time away from each other or you will become bored of each other. Ive been there before i used to be with a woman who i would end up arguing with because i wanted to go out 1 night a week to play football she thought i didnt like her because i didnt want to spend all my time with her (which wasnt the case) and guess what we arnt together now.
The next girl i met i explained be for we got to attached that i need space because and if i didnt get space then it wouldnt work and she said the same thing, now i go out and play snooker in the week and football and go for a drink with the lads and she goes out with the girls and then we talk about what we both did and its all good
Dont become obsessive and spoil your relationship enjoy yourself and stop worrying that he will leave you worrying wont do anything and neither will keeping him locked up all to yourself that will just drive him away
LOOKING AT YOUR PREVIOS QUESTIONS IT SEEMS YOU DONT TRUST YOUR BOYFRIEND MUCH MAYBE THIS HAS A LOT TO DO WITH THE QUESTION
2007-01-27 02:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by smity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IMy room is a granny flat, in the outdoor of the main appropriate residing house. each and every time I are available at night i'm scared some great spider's gonna fall on me. i'm getting quite some them in right here.. extraordinarily for the reason that there's a hugeish crack in the brick wall good next to my mattress...
2016-09-28 01:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by schiraldi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even married couples need nights out with the boys (or girls) If he's trustworthy and you know where he is and understand that when he leaves he's coming home to you. Why not and the same can be said for you what's good for the goose is good for the gander as the saying goes. Why not have get togethers with your friends on the same nights? this way you both are having fun and not sitting around waiting on the other.
2007-01-27 01:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by ogrething2001 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You obviously want to spend more time with your bf but i think you are gonna have to step back a bit and let him have fun, he is not asking to end the relationship he just wants to go out more and i think this will do your relationship alot of good.Go out with your girlfriends more and have fun with them, that way when you both see each other it will be like starting afresh and you will both have alot more to bring to the table conversationally
2007-01-27 02:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all need some space,a bit of football or snooker is a harmless pass-time,you wont be on your own over it,if thing get really worrying then its time to get some answers from your fella
2007-01-27 01:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by barnowl 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
erm I'm 26 and my boyfriend trains one night during the week with his football team and plays football on a Saturday. i want to spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend but i don't want to have to be with him every minute with it.
I like that he is still fit and looks after his body and he likes that i have interests outside him too. Its not healthy to expect him to give up his friends and interests to spend every moment with you.
Why don't you find an interest too and then you wouldn't be so bored that you want him 24/7.
2007-01-27 02:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay Dont Listen To the other people they dont have anyone and my opinion you have your night out too let him go do his thing and you do youres its only fair but not over the wekend thats to much he had time when he was young now that hes older and wanting a famaly no that not good tell him how you feel its still 50-50 relationship
Your Friend Blue Butterfly
2007-01-27 01:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by BLUE BUTTERFLY 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hi well i would liuke to say me and my bf have split cos of this he wonted to go out much more and wastin money after he said he wonted to settle gay hay we saw each other like 4 5 times a week th he was like i got fotty on wed see he other mate thurs and wonts to go out either fri or sat sumtimes both nite i did not fit in and he wasnt bothered but now we split he kals up at like 3am i ignore him need a man not a boy ! any way u need to chat to him and see what happens soudn he is like my ex scared of comminmet
2007-01-27 03:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋