Well, me and my girl of 9 years are "taking a break" Basically we got into some arguments and she thought maybe we needed time to ourselves, but never over 9 years has she ever done this. I told her that I didn't want to break up and I was happy in the relationship and she would say, "are you really? I only wanted to take a break because you did" type of thing. But then a few hours later she said "something" was bothering her, and that she'd always love me and be there for me but she needed some time for me to work out my issues and hers.
I asked her, "Are we together?" and she said, "I don't know".. that is what hurt the most. I told her how long would it take to clear her head and she said, "a few days" but I don't know what to think. I'm hurting from this and wish she'd just decide what she wants to do.
Anyway, what do you think will happen?
2007-01-27 01:34:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow I'm sitting here crying I'm so sorry u haft to go through something like that i would say and this is just my opinion OK either she likes someone else or is wanting to be with someone else or u can just be a normal man and she feels after all this time with u .u have taken her for granted.sometimes i feel my hubby does that to me but im the type that's tells you if u piss me off or hurt my feelings i say give her room and space and dont keep asking r we together i think she wants to see if she can handle being with out u.that's what it sounds to me...but i may very well be wrong...GOOD LUCK...
2007-01-27 01:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by michelle_love2706 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's definitely working out some problems of her own. Honestly, she's most likely bored and contemplating the idea of being with someone new for a while. But, at this point, there's not much that you can do or say that will change her mind. You will have to give her the space that she needs and see what she decides. But, keep in mind that if this is how she is going to be from this point on you may not want to take her back if that's what she decides. Everyone gets bored or upset in a relationship. When the going gets tough (or boring) that's when the couple needs to pull together to fix it or spice it up. If she is going to run from you everytime "something" is bothering her, you may want to think twice about being with her.
2007-01-27 01:40:15 · answer #2 · answered by SchrodingersTigress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 conclusions why shes doing that! 1. Not saying that you are but..you might be a a**hole to her or you aint treating her right , my point is you might be fu**ing up and shes sick of it ...BUT..she still loves you and is doing this to you so you can realize what your about to lose!! YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE TILL YOU LOSE IT!! so if your man enough and realized youve messed up, tell her your sorry ..but mean it!! and really do change! but dont do it right away give her some space for a while about 1 week then let her know youve messed up and that your gonna change and PROVE IT! .....My 2nd conclusion is that she has found another guy shes interested in and she is confused! which means you aint doing something right and he is!! now dont be alarmed but it can be the sex maybe shes had sex with him and is now finding a nice way to leave you! dude its your relationship you were their when it fu**ed up you know what needs to be done!! DO IT
2007-01-27 01:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by Enrique L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there many times my friend and sometimes they never worked out again and we went our seperate ways. Other times it worked out and I ended up married!
The important thing here is to learn to soul search now! Breaking up is never easy. You and her will need to see if it's best to be apart. Meet new friends and other people. The hurt goes away and you move on.
Tip.........never ever go on to say bad things about your ex. When you are asked about her just say she is a nice person but things didn't work for YOU and her.
2007-01-27 01:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oohh ouch let her be , if it's meant to be she will come back, if not your better off really , you will hurt for a while but better to be with someone that loves u back , things may work out fine too, just give her space and take one day at a time , i wish u luck and yes it is normal to hurt hun.
2007-01-27 02:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one knows the out come just give her the space she asked for if you love some one enough let them go if it comes back its your if it don;t it never was.but after 9 years i think you stand good chance for her to come back just hang tight until she is ready.good luck.to answer your question yes it is normal to hurt .
2007-01-27 01:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by ann p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you ever ask
her to marry you?
Maybe that is why, 9 Years
is to long to go without that type of commitment!
2007-01-27 01:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by Cher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who knows what will happen, but let her have her time. If you keep bugging her about it then it will eventually make her mad. If you let her have a few days to herself she will probably see she cant live without you and come right back.
2007-01-27 01:38:25 · answer #8 · answered by wantme_comegetme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not so much what we think will happen, its what decision she is mulling over and the end results of her finding "herself" as it were.....be patient and accept whatever she tells you......good luck....
2007-01-27 01:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by The Emperor of Ecstasy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u love her don't hurt her and wish her happiness wheather shae was with u or with any body else
2007-01-27 01:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋