My boyfriend and I had huge fight lasting 4 hours of breaking up. Him having problems emontionally (stress, etc) and me scared of him leaving and lying. He lied before about his life(family probs), which i dont like. He tells the truth everytime we fight.
He's leaving soon for work, for 4 months (one of the reasons we broke up) So we still love each other, but we're not together. Its confusing. He's crazy to still love after tht fight, i hate myself for what i said to him. What can he and i do to make things better, and why does he still love me?
2007-01-27 01:09:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you in love, or are you just afraid NOT to be in love?
It sounds to me like you have major communication and personality issues that really need worked out before you should try to foster a romantic relationship.
He needs to be able to tell the truth to you, regardless of what it is -- every time he lies, it breaks down a part of the trust that you have for him. And trust is one of the things that holds a relationship together.
You are scared of him leaving, which tells me that you are really not secure in this relationship. You do not trust him to remain with you through thick and thin; this is not a good quality in a relationship!
So he's going to be gone for four months. Break it off, regroup, and spend some time figuring out what is important to you in a relationship. For most people, knowing that the other won't leave is a HUGE thing -- can you really live with this fear? And why would you want to? Is it really healthy? Or is there someone out there -- who you maybe haven't even met yet -- who can give you that honesty and security that you need?
2007-01-27 01:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love isn't logical. You can love someone even if he makes you crazy. The real issues are why he lies and why is he only honest when you fight. I don't know about you, but I wouldn't stay with a liar, even if I loved him. Like the old song says, "sometimes love just ain't enough..."
2007-01-27 09:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest to take a cooling off period for a month or so from him. During this time don't get too involved with other guys and depending on how you feel about him and how he feels about you after this time will determine the outcome.
2007-01-27 09:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by Yafooey! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt sound like a fun relationship - go find someone you actually get along with as it sounds like you make each other miserable.
2007-01-27 09:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it's not your fault. he was in a mess, u tried 2 help him even though he lied. I think an argument every so often is healthy, and it is sometimes a kick up the backside about what you have got and what you could loose.
2007-01-27 09:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by katie-pie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best i can say is talk it out ---- dont get upset and find solutions to your problems --- he still loves because you are still the world to him ---- he knows the words were said in anger ---- best wishes
2007-01-27 09:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you love him?if so do leave this way,sort it out.
2007-01-27 09:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by houney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i completely agree wid la buena bruja....but i wanna differ on 1 point ...I would love d person even if he lies ...sumtimes lies r betta dan truths ......coz i have faith on my love.....
2007-01-27 09:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by ღ♥*~Samantha*~♥ღ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on babe.
2007-01-27 09:16:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋