im 19 and got married at gretna green 2 years ago. my hubby is now 26.
we had a really bad wedding as it was only my family that turned up and they really spoilt it for us.
im now not in touch with my family and have moved to be closer to my hubbys family and friends.
i cant stop thinking about how horrid my wedding was and looking at my photo album makes me tearful.
since we got married i have had two wonderful kids.
i really want to renew the wedding and have his family and friends to be there, also my children.
is it too soon as it's only been two years?? also, would it be okay to go over the top and have a white wedding, the lot.
my hubbys mum died 4 years ago and he really wanted his family there to see his big day but it didnt happen due to my family. we really love eachother and we feel ready to do it gain.
what are your opinions??
2007-01-27 00:25:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hi i am behind you 100% in this even though it has been only 2 years. So i think you should go ahead and do it and put what happend at the first wedding in the past and try and forget about it. If i was in your situation i would do it as you know this one will be the wedding you want and they way you want it to go.
Of course it will be ok to go over the top, as its thebest day of your life and you can go over the top if you like. Im getting married this year and we are having a big wedding and a few people have looked at us as if its not normal nowadays to have a wedding so big, but its what i want and im having it. Have it the way you want it youy deserve it for what happened to you at your first marraige. If you both want to do it then what is stopping you. Go and sort it all out tomorrow. you only live once and anything can happen tomorrow. So go ahead and do it. And if you need any help with wedding plans and everything or just need to talk im hear for you, As we have just planned our wedding.
So get that church booked and start looking for a dress, you children will love it and if you having then as bridemaids they will have a great time.
2007-01-27 08:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you have bad memories of your wedding day, that is just awful. Hopefully your marriage has been better!
Well, a vow renewal isn't another wedding, dear! It's not a chance for a "do-over" - you have definitely the wrong idea! A couple renewing their vows usually just does a small ceremony and has family and close friends for a small dinner at home. The soonest I have heard this done is 10 or 15 years; it's more usual that it be at 25 years married.
Don't know where you got the idea that it was time to have a "white wedding". That's just crazy. I understand that you didn't like what happened at your wedding, but it is what it was at the time, and that's just history. Make sure you are making your life better.
2007-01-27 07:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's ok to renew your vows at any time, just remember that you are Married so this is not another Wedding. If you chose to do the vows over, wear white if you want, have family and friends, but it must be considered a Party to Celebrate the Renewal of Your Marriage. Remember that "family and bad pictures" do not make your Marriage, you and your partner do, so good or bad anything it's still considered you official Wedding Day. I personally would have a party, not a renewal of vows, and invite all my friends and family and take all the pictures I want. Try not to be so materialistic or judgemental about those pictures, they are still a treasure of your special day. Good luck and Belated Congratulations to You, Your Husband and Your Family.
2007-01-27 00:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swetheart, go ahead...renew those wows...take better photos and memory of your children...my one suggestion is to store the old photos away...don't throw them away...one day when you are a lot older you will look back on the experience without tears, but maybe as a learning experience... and you will, by then be able to tell your kids and friends the story in an objective, and maybe even humorous way. Right now do what will make you and your husband and family and friends happy. Have another wedding with photos that makes you smile.
2007-01-27 00:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's too soon at all. Infact I think getting your wedding renewed is a great idea!
I had my wedding last year and it was just a disaster. We didn't have a big church wedding (although we wanted to), and I had hay fever, AND my appointment to the hairdressers got canceled ..so I look absolutely horrible in all the wedding photos - Worst looking bride ever. Right here.
If you have a chance to redo your wedding - take it. Because some people only get one :,(
2007-01-27 00:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by Peaches M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what others think? Is your hubby with you on this idea? If he is, take your hubby, and your two lovely children and fly off to a beautiful island and renew your vows on the beach at sunset, with no one but yourselves to share the beautiful moment. Buy yourself the most beautiful --and comfortable--white dress and the most beautiful bouquet ever made. You will remember it forever, and you won't have anyone around to spoil your happiness. I wish I had done that instead of having a huge stressful wedding. Good luck!
2007-01-27 01:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by Kate373 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not too soon,but instead of renewing your vows you could have a wedding blessing instead,,which i did,i got wed in a reg office,and we baptised the kids a yr later we had a blessing and it felt really special,,i also knew someone,that got wed in a reg office and the nxt day had a blessing and wore the same dress,
at a wedding blessing you can wear your wedding dress,and it does make you feel more married,the priest repeated vows and blessed our rings,so you could have blessing,and all the guests that didnt go first time round can go to this,it will be like another wedding,you can still have flowers etc,
as renewing vows are really for couples who have been married ages and it shows everyone that you are still in love,
theres nothing wrong with renewing them though,but i would opt for the blessing instead,
good luck
2007-01-28 00:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by craftyliz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really 'renew' your wedding. You are married and that's that. You could send out invites to a celebration party, and tell friends and family its to celebrate that you are happily married. If its important to you, you might be able to get a vicar to bless your marriage in church. You can have whatever sort of party you please, and wear what you like but it won't be a wedding. You are married to him already, and thats that! I can understand your wedding was disappointing, and you can have a white dress, big cake etc etc if you want but it won't be a 'wedding' or a 'marriage' it will just be a party.
2007-01-27 00:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go for it girl!
A wedding is to celebrate the joining of two people who are commited to each other for life,in good times and bad. Its surposed to be one of the happiest days of your life and one of the most important ones.It should hold memories that bring smiles and tears of joy not sadness.It does not really matter who is at your wedding what matters is you to and if re newing your voues in front of family and friends is what you want and it makes you happy. DO IT!!!
2007-01-27 04:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by naughty neighbour 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certainly no longer. you would be able to desire to do it for this coming anniversary in case you needed. the main significant element to evaluate is that by utilising having a 2d wedding ceremony/vow renewal, travelers will maximum probable no longer carry presents. some people anticipate them, yet you rather will no longer be able to ask for them once you have already had a marriage to an identical individual ;)
2016-11-01 10:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋