How can I convince my mom to adopt a child? I am 12 and my brother is 3. I feel our family is not complete!?

Question

I really want a sister. I want to convince my mom that we need a child like 5 or 6. There are so many kids that are without parents. Can parents adopt a child for free? How can I convince my mom to adopt a child?

Oh yeah. Of the people who said get a dog, I already asked. Its a no after I accidentally let James (My Cairn Terrie) run away. I accidentally left the bottom of the garage open 1 foot overnight and I forgot to close it. We usually kept it open. James' shock coller was broken and didn't work. My mean neighbor, J.J. (13 1/2 and REALLY hot!)said he ran it over with his 4-Wheeler. I think maybe he did.

Answer 1

Adopting another child is a very huge and personal decision. While I'm sure your mother respects that you want more siblings, it is ultimately her decision. And no sweetie, it is not free and it takes a long time. There are so many things one has to do in order to adopt , for example pass background and credit checks. My 12 year old son is going through the same thing as you, except he wants me to have another baby....he wants a brother...lol he has two younger sisters, 10 and 6. My reasons for not having another baby are mine, as are your mothers. And while you may not understand that now, in time you will. Enjoy the sibling you do have and respect your mom's decision. Life is too short to worry about what we don't have, concentrate on what you do.

Answer 2

Adopting a child is not free, and even if it were, children cost a lot of money. Have you ever thought about how much money your Mom spends on you and your brother each year? Plus it's a huge undertaking, time-wise, to have a child. Your Mom is probably happy with the two of you for the moment, this doesn't mean she will or won't want more kids in the future, but right now she feels like your family is at a good place. I know you really want a little sister, I had two sisters and grew up wanting a brother so badly, and I even asked my Mom to adopt a boy, which she didn't! (I by the way was adopted, my younger and older sister were not). Sit down and have a heart to heart with your Mom. Explain to her why you want a baby sister so badly, but also listen to her reasons of why she doesn't want to adopt, then respect what she says. By the way, there are lots of little girls out there who have parents but who don't have big sisters, take one of them under your wing, maybe you can be a stand-in "big sister" and build a life-long relationship with someone who can look up to you.

Answer 3

It is very commendable that you are mature enough to feel that your Mom should adopt a child. You, though, are not the one who needs to want to adopt. Adopting means taking another human being into your life and making them your family with love and respect for the rest of their lives. This requires a mom and a dad to give a balanced upbringing. You would be a great candidate to call Dr. Laura on the radio. She would give you wonderful guidance.

A child like you might grow up to be a wonderful leader and caregiver in the world of orphans and children given up for adoption because of a 1 parent home.

Answer 4

This is no different than parents begging their grown children to give them grandkids. It's downright rude and inconsiderate. Adoption, while it is a wonderful charity, and it's GREAT that you support it at such a young age, it is expensive and comes with a lot of responsibilities. It's not like you just go in and pick out a kid like a kitten. It takes months, even years, to end up with a child. Your parents decisions are theirs and theirs alone to make, and if they say "NO WAY", then leave them alone.

How about you try babysitting or volunteering at an orphanage or homeless shelter?

Answer 5

I don’t trust you've got any rights. You followed the brother and that does no longer grant you with rights to siblings or 1/2 siblings. Now what you may want to do is contact the foster care gadget see if it would want to be a threat if the newborn might want to ultimately be placed with you as a foster newborn. Have the determine’s rights been terminated or will they be? if so and the newborn is ultimately obtainable for adoption you may want to exhibit a pick to undertake the newborn, if that’s what you pick to do. grant it does no longer assure something yet typically foster care prefers to maintain siblings mutually if in any respect a threat. in spite of the undeniable fact that I understand those 2 were no longer in foster care mutually. on the most perchance you may want to some how keep in contact with the brothers foster kin or adoptive kin if he's ultimately in a position to be followed.

Answer 6

You sound instinctively nurturing which is very nice. Have you spoken to your mum about it yet? If you have and she has said no for whatever reason you could talk to your teachers about joining or starting a befriending project at school. The principle is quite basic - older children watch out for younger children and keep them busy at break/ lunch time. At your age you could just be going through a phase and it would not be fair on your mum or adopted sister if you changed your mind next year...would it.

Answer 7

I don't think you are at a suitable age to understand the difficulty of adopton. I respect that you have sympathy for the orphans, but you should know that it's not an easy job for the parents to have responsibility for even just one child. As you grow up, you'll realize that parenting is not a simple task.

Answer 8

Adopting a child is a huge undertaking, not to mention a very large expense. Why not get a dog instead?

Answer 9

You can't convince her, it's her family. You actually have no say in whether or not HER family is complete. No, it's not free, far from it in fact. When you have a family of your own, you can adopt as many children as you want.

Answer 10

This decision is not up to you! You have no say in how big of a family your parents will have. Just enjoy being one of their children and leave the baby decisions up to the adults!