There's this guy that i like, and sometimes i think that he likes me too. Just 2 days ago, a mutual female friend of ours told me that (after a few drinks) he had been talking to her about 'us'.
He said that he thinks that i like him... but he told her that (something along the lines of) he likes me too, but he doesn't think he's ready for a relationship.
I asked another friend of mine, what does he mean by "not ready for a relationship"? Is that what he seriously means, or is this 'guy speak' for something else?
My friend said that this guy was lying, and that he's just too shy to take action. If I asked him out, then he would say yes straightaway. Is this true?
I'm currently kind of thinking "whatever." I mean, this guy KNOWS that i like him... so i just think it's up to him whether he'll make a move or not. What do you reckon?
2007-01-26 23:50:59 · 13 answers · asked by mojo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The translation doesn't matter. If that's what he says, then I think you should just let the issue go. You don't want to have a relationship with someone who's into it only half-heartedly at best, do you?
2007-01-27 00:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that no matter how shy a guy is, or claims to be ....if he is truly interested in you, he will find a way to work around his shyness, and end up with that person somehow, someway...
it is o.k. to ask him out, if you truly believe he is shy, and he is truly interested in you, or
is he just playing some sort of head game which you don't need,
only you can make this type of decision, like you said he knows that you are very interested in him, I personally would forgot about him, if he hasn't asked you out or shown any interest in you yet, this might motivate the man to do the work and ask you out, leaving the decision up to him......Good Luck
2007-01-27 00:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by andremillie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's interested he will move heaven and earth to be with you. If he's not interested (at this point in time) then he won't make any effort.
It's really that simple. The hard part is that we (women) read into things and see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear thanks to a little help from our emotions... As unfair as it is, it really is that cut and dry. If he's not making an effort or not ready, take it at face value. You don't want someone who isn't ready to be in a relationship - it brings too much drama and hardship. When he's ready, hopefully you will be available, if not his loss.
2007-02-03 16:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by dolphinchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not wait on him. That whole "I'm not ready for a relationship" is code in guy talk. It really means I like you, but I want to sleep with other girls too. My advice to you is to find someone who is ready for a relationship. Beware if he really likes you he'll be ready for a relationship when you have found happiness elsewhere.
2007-02-03 15:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by someadvice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you two are students, then there's a slight possiblity that he doesn't want to go into a relationship yet. however, it might also be him being shy in front of your friend. i feel that you should give him some time to clear his head and sort out his own matters first. you'll know when the time comes when he's ready.
2007-01-26 23:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by Soaring 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the guy is the two no longer into you or ain't waiting for dedication. in case you carry around 2 see no count if the guy comes around or no longer you're able to even waist a while. tell the guy to be honost and permit you recognize at contemporary forward what he needs.
2016-12-16 14:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by holness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Direct translation is "I have fears"
If you are interested in him, show him clearly. Don't wait around with those antique ideas of him making the first move. He might not do it - and you'll be left wondering what could have been.
2007-01-27 00:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when a guy says, "I'm not ready for a relationship" that means he basically wants to go out and keep screwing a whole bunch of different girls without being tied down.
2007-01-26 23:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you better not read something into it which is not there. If he says he's not ready, then go with that. Move on.
2007-01-27 00:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is "guy speak" for "he's just NOT that into you". Move forward and on with your life because you'll be wasting your time with him. If he likes you, you'll KNOW it and won't have to "figure it out". I didn't realize this until I met the man who became my husband!
2007-02-03 15:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋