she is 12 years old, we don't know much about her interests or clothing size. He hasn't seen her in 6 years, and we can't contact them ahead of time for risk of the mother running again
2007-01-26 23:30:27 · 17 answers · asked by countchocula_78 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
i know all say cool stuff but she is still a child even if she is 12 i think a teddy bear something for her to hold on to and she will feel like you are thinking of her when she holds it she is not a teen yes so give her her last few moments just to love a bear. There is more than enough time for you to get her all the cool stuff later when you got to know her better.
2007-01-27 01:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by Margie V 2 · 14⤊ 0⤋
I would think love & affection would be the best gifts of all! Kids her age however like IPODS or MP3 Players. other than that I think it would probably be more fun to just take her shopping and let her pick out something she wants. If you buy her something ahead of time she may already have it or it might not be something she really is into or likes. I think shopping with her would be fun. I truelly hope everything works out for your step daughter, your husband & you. Good Luck!
2007-01-27 01:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should buy her journal. Every 12 year needs one, and most 12 year olds go through many changes as they enter early adulthood. They have many confusing feelings and thoughts that help to get out and write down when they feel like they can't talk to anyone else. In your stepdaughter's case, this would be especially helpful, as I can't begin to imagine what this will all be like for her. It also shows her that you care about her, and understand that this is a difficult time in her life.
2007-01-26 23:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brighteyz said it the best.
But I would like my mommy! I'd be very upset if I had had my mommy for 6 years and now someone was taking her away from me, and I'm gonna be upset, angry and SAD!!!! but since I am going to be with daddy now, I need to know that my daddy loves me, has always loved me, and that everyone that loves me missed me horribly for the last 6 years, and tried to move heaven and earth to find me.
That being said, do what Brighteyz says and give a hug. And bonding time. Don't try to buy her love. Have a nice safe place for her to go---ie, bedroom. Neutral colors, etc so she and you can go out shopping (whee!) for stuff when she feels better.
God love ya for finding her.
2007-01-27 01:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is coming home full time id buy her all the things a 12 year old girl should have to make her feel at home, CD player, little bit of make up, hair things the usual stuff, and as for something in the means of special maybe get her a necklace or ring to show her she is specail to you guys...ive got a 12 year old sister in-law and she is at the stage of wanting all her own things and wanting privacy, for xmas she got her own tv and dvd for her room so thats also an idea, it just depends on what you want you want also...goodluck i hope it all works out
2007-01-26 23:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is an truly extreme difficulty. this happens often at the same time as women that age are on the internet free rain without supervision, extreme punishment is so as. various females that age imagine that's "cool" that older adult males want to seek suggestion from them, and the internet is an area the position she will be "18" and stay in an imaginary international. get rid of any internet/telephone privileges at the same time as she is over at your position. i'm telling you that is not any deep rooted psychological difficulty, that is somewhat woman on a ability vacation. I see this all too often, and that i'll admit at about 13 years of age I had an same difficulty, I merely outgrew it ultimately, yet issues can get undesirable quick and some thing ought to be executed about it. also, you want to the contact CPS about this woman's mom, because I actually have a feeling this abode is a foul surroundings. I want you the finest of success, once you've anymore questions be at liberty to the contact me.
2016-12-03 02:46:39 · answer #6 · answered by duperne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't mend the time lost or fix her experience with material objects, and you shouldn't try. Be there for her, support her, make sure SHE knows that you care. If it turns out she needs something, like new shoes, or wants something legitimate, then take her shopping, but you can still stay within your means. Money won't patch anything.
2007-01-27 02:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While there were many good ideas posted already, how about taking those ideas along with your step-daughter to the stores. How about a nice shopping trip lunch included to get to know her.
Congrats and good luck.
2007-01-27 01:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by Michele B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you see her. 12 years old could be into anything like clothes etc.
2007-01-26 23:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever met her before? I think it might be too hard to get here something that she will really like-- I think that you two should spend special time with each other and have a girls day out and you can go eat and shop or go to a movie or get your nails done.. im 14 but i think that would be really fun to get to know each other. hope that helps!
2007-01-26 23:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋