im 19 F and i live in UAE and i study in the university
.i have had many boyfriends and bc of the reason that they all wanted sex, i left them, now i feeel so depressed not bc i left them, BC OF MY CHANCE ! and im starting to think that all boys nowadays want and see and care about only SEX and SEX and SEXXX....
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im both so sensitive and sooo UNsensitive...i can leave a veryyy old friend easily if he had BAD mistakes...but now i feel no one DESERVES to have a good and kind hearted GIRL...as a G.F or a wife....
.i never wanted to play with boys, boys they all wanted to play with me...im somehow CUTE and nice and sometimes as my friends say im HOT and sexy....but now i feel like an OLD FLOWER who has had no water and soil for a long time....
i love having sex but after marriage and only with my husband ;o( all my boyfriends say: you dont love sex!
now i feel so depressed and im sad...I NEED A TRUE LOVE,
please guide me....
2007-01-26 23:28:13 · 13 answers · asked by s_sepide_2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i will admit at 19 i was a little whore, oh well, but in college there are sooooooooooooo many things to do other than screw.
so many other things that won't get you sick or hurt
men will always be there
men will always want sex, always til they die
if i were you i would take advantage of being young and having the world at your feet, join some clubs at the university, learn something that you may never have the opportunity to do again
when i was in university i joined the fencing club, it is an awesome sport
physical activities will be best for taking your mind off of sex and the chemicals released during physical activity make you happy! better than sex because you don't have to worry about did we use a condom, will he call me, will he stalk me...
your true love will find you, it just happens, there is no reason to rush, in fact make yourself a promise to wait 2 more years before getting into a serious relationship, work on finishing school and making you the most well rounded, life experienced, and happy YOU!
2007-02-03 22:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by kewlchica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your feelings about sex. You are young and wise, and have your whole life ahead of you. Guys may think of you as strange or old fashioned but so what, good for you! You seem like a great person who doesn't want to give it up to just any guy. With all the diseases going around, you are smart to wait until you are married. Most men do want sex and expect it nowadays even after the first date. I know you will find a guy someday that feels the same way you do, who will love you for who you are. Sex is great, but building a healthy, strong relationship is more important. Wait for marriage, don't like peer pressure get to you. If I were you, I'd rather be alone with alot of male friends than being in a relationship that is based on mostly sex. I am proud of you. You have no reason to be depressed. Since I am older and wiser, I hope you take my advice! I have a great relationship with a guy who loves me for who I am, it is not all based on sex alone!
2007-01-26 23:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do need a true love. And you deserve a man who will respect you. Right now it feels like there is no hope. But the men your age are not thinking with their brains or their hearts -- they are only thinking with their desire.
Perhaps you could spend time with friends and colleagues and not worry about dating for a while... and once you decide you are ready to meet men again, refuse to date anybody who will not first become your friend.
This sort of thing happens to men, too. The pressure to have sex, the feelings of loneliness when the sex comes before the love is very hard for the men with a real heart. One day, you may find that young man who knows that when the love comes first, the relationship has some hope of being something wonderful. When you find him, take your time to see if you are a match.
2007-01-26 23:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by snickersmommie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As human nature men are made to only focus on sex when they see a beautiful woman, and if i'm hearing you right you are not saying you don't like sex just that you would much rather the relationship no t be soley based on sex, is that right?.... i think you are right to want more than just sex out of a relationship it never lasts when this becomes the main focus, but i would not say you was an "old flower" you just feel this way because you want some one to love properly, and eventually they will find you or you find them never give up go out have fun with friends, and don't be so hard on yourself, everything will be alright, just learn to relax more.
2007-01-26 23:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
i just want to say before any thing that I'm 20 m ho lives in UAE and study in a college too so nice to meet u
FIRST I'm so sorry for u and i really do understand u and ur sadness cuze i have a lot of friends ho think the same way so really I'm so sorry
SECOND about your depression just think this way does he really deserve ur sadness?? while ur sad he plays like a fool he is the one ho should feel depressed cuze he LOST u so smile and one day the one will come and i don't think that u want to meet him with a sad eyes and a tissue.....
THIRD about the ( but now i feel like an OLD FLOWER who has had no water and soil for a long time....) u?! an old flower a 19 F old flower??...
what did u left for the 40's and the 50's females?..
and as ur friends said ur cute and hot so smile u still have all ur life ahead of u
LAST again I'm so sorry and believe me when i say like these things to my friends the only thing i hear is GAY(and I'm not...)
so plz if u feel like talking this is my email we could become great friends( bstno1frnd@yahoo.com)
goooood bye for now.
2007-02-03 12:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by tk4ever t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, let's not get all stereotypical here. I understand that you've met lots of sex-freaks in your life, which could have altered your beliefs about men, but honestly not all males are like that. For example, I am only determined to have sex with someone who I truly love (and I'm a guy by the way). There are quite a few guys out there who are just like me. If you usually look for guys only at the clubs or bars, well then it's not much of a surprise that you met those kind of guys. I advise you to look around in a broader view, and then perhaps you'll find your true love. Well, good luck.
2007-01-26 23:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by Steven K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way of loving of boys are different than the girls. By nature boys like to have sex, can not help with it. But truly loving boy could be patient untill the time girl prepare for it, if he has high respect for you.
It is very difficult to understand the boy from only this aspect whether he is serious lover or not.
In fact ture love is appart from the sex and two different desires, sex is for the body feeling and love for the heart.
You must understand these two properly.
2007-02-03 20:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by dika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really loved the guys who where involved with enough to let it make you depressed. You need to realize that they were jerks. No guy ever worth feeling miserable. You don’t need a boyfriend right now. Spend time with your family and friends. Watch a movie, have ice cream or chocolate, enjoy the sunset and have fun. You will get over this. As a beautiful girl you know that you are worth more than anything—your beautiful inside and outside. That’s a lot to consider.
2007-02-03 22:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should not think of having a boyfriend and just stick to your studies and just have 'boy toy' if you know what I mean. This way you won't be depressed and you can concentrate on your studies and have fun when you have the time. Doesn't sound like you can commit to a relationship until you've completed your schooling.
2007-02-03 22:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by hot single mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get depressed over them!
they're totally not worth it!
Besides, don't you feel lucky coz you've
had bfs and not even one of them scored
with you? It's their loss not your's.
So cheer up girl *wink* !!
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2007-02-03 22:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋