I just met this guy that seems great, we have just started dating and we have hit it off. He owns a business and needs someone with exactly my experience and background. He keeps telling me how great it would be to have me work with him and is insisting on it. I'm worried that the whole thing will get confusing if he is my boss and my boyfriend. I'm afraid that one part will strain the other. I also worry that if we break up then if he's not professional about it I can lose my job. And if it does work out and we end up getting married then how can i work so closely with my husband and receive a salary from him. Although he's the kind of boss that isn't at the office very often, he works from home a lot of the times or comes to the office quite late. What should I do?
2007-01-26 22:58:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Accept his offer. So u can control what he does at work!
2007-01-26 23:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥Miracle♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think alot is going to depend on how good a relationship you have with your boyfriend. The fact that you just started dating concerns me because I'm not too sure if you have had enough time to get to know one another completely. And now to venture into a buisness relationship to where you're going to be dependent upon him for your income is a risky thing indeed.
You also mentioned that if the personal relationship went sour, there could be a risk of you losing your job, and that is very true and something you should seriously consider. Sometimes personal feelings get in the way after a breakup and leak out into your area of business. Not a good thing.
Whether he is in his office alot or not really isn't a factor. I don't think "out of sight, out of mind" applies in this case.
I cannot tell you what to do, that is a personal decision you must make for yourself. I can only say that if I were in a similar situation, I would leave my personal life and my professional life separate. I would not want my personal financial security hinging on the person I am dating. If something went wrong, the only one who would lose would be me.
There is an old saying, "Don't get your honey where you get your money." It's very true.
I wish you the very best in whatever you decide.
2007-01-27 07:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would steer clear of working with him and perhaps just offer my services as a consultant. Like you said, you just met him so you really don't know what turn the relationship will take. If you do break up, working together will be awkward to say the least. Also, because you don't know him that well, you also have no idea how stable his business is, and therefore how secure your job would be. And what if you decide you want to break up with him, but are afraid to for fear of losing your job? It just doesn't sound like a great idea right now. At least wait until you've been dating for a year. If you make it that far, then maybe you can reconsider.
2007-01-27 07:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by CrysV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try it what do u have to lose ? This is something u can build together as long as u maintain a good business sense. Later if tention builds leave the together job 4 something better .Maybe u could help out Once in a while if needed
2007-01-27 07:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain him the same, tell him that business and friend ship donot mix, simillarly a great deal of understanding is required to have the same man as your boy friend as well as husband. Get along with him as his girl friend / wife and do another job, in this way you will be safe at both professional and relationship front
2007-01-27 07:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by anecentric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a very tricky situation. I think that you need to weight up the pro's and con's. Nd if you do decides do accept the job i wld establish some boundaries b4 you do anything. Just talk to him let him no your fears of working there and mayb you two can work something out
2007-01-27 07:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two should work more like partners! not as if he is your boss, or theres going to be control issues every direction, if you get married especially. even though its his business, theres things you can do well, and he takes care of the rest, sit back and look it will probly be an over all equal work load in the end / PARTNERS! especially if you two are going to get involved, unless your goal is to later try and destroy him with a sexual harasment suit or something.
2007-01-27 07:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by hardwood_flooring_wi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 rule in business- Never sleep with the hired help.
It will definitely bite you in the butt later if things change on the relationship side. Nothing like being unemployed because you broke up with your bf! And nothing like getting sued for sexual harrassment if your the boss and do something she doesn't like!
2007-01-27 07:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by Tough Love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a job that you think you would like then you should try it, unless you currently have a job that you like and don't want to give up. Many couples work together without any problems.
2007-01-27 07:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by Sled Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he trusts you with his business. As long as you keep the personal end of things out of the store, you'll be fine.
2007-01-27 07:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date him.
Don't work for him.
Keep looking for another job.
Do Not Work For Him -- & think that you just won't date him.
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Find a job.
Whatever, with this guy, probably won't last long,
and working for him won't pay you well, will frustrate you.
You'll be taken advantage of some how, some way.
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Just my guess.
2007-01-27 07:06:14 · answer #11 · answered by marcus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋