He blows hot and cold, and I feel like I'm the one calling him, maybe it's cuz I don't give him the chance to call me?! Sometimes I think wow he really likes me and then all of a sudden, he backs off slightly. What can I do?
2007-01-26 22:45:45 · 15 answers · asked by Jennifer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him
2007-01-26 22:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥Miracle♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how long have you two been together Silvia???
In the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend, I did all the chasing... I called him, I bought him the world, I visited him, I'm the one who made the effort to see him. He even tried to get rid of me one time, but I wouldn't go... And I too felt like I was doing absolutely everything to actually make it work!
And now, 4years later, we're happily engaged! And the tables have turned a bit... He visits me, he buys me the world, and I can defiantly see the effort!
What your guy actually needs is a little scare, that's the same thing I did. Guys don't really realise what they have until it's gone. He's knows you gonna call so he doesn't. He doesn't make the effort because he knows for a fact that you're going to do it. So now he's taking you for granted.
By a little scare I mean make him think that you're not interested anymore... Make it seem like you don't even care what happens. Show him that you're sick of making the effort in a very suttle way... Then see how he'll start dancing to your tunes. He'll begin to miss you and realise how much you actually do and he'll start appreciating you more...
That's just my opinion...
2007-01-27 07:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by *Flutter* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably just answered your own Q.
How old are you? You sound like you're probably in the 8th grade. Here's my opinion. I'm somewhat of an expert because I have a 16 yr old son. I made a BIG mistake when I introduced him to a girl his age. He'll say to me...MOM, she calls me constantly every 5 mins. I can't even go to the bathroom without her calling me! He doesn't answer her calls anymore. She got smart. Her friends call him from a different cell,which tricks him to believe it's someone else.
So, unless you want to go to the hospital needlessly, to have your head surgically removed from his butt.....because he needs space. Don't bombard him with lots of calls or you'll scare him off. It will leave you thinking, "What did I do to deserve this?" It's setting yourself up to be let down. No one likes being let down. Does this make sense?
Another good source to find your answer IS (believe it or not) your father! He used to be that age, once upon a time, long ago...LOL Good Luck Sweetie! ô¿ô
2007-01-27 07:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by GreenIce10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Tell him you may be pregnant" is a brilliant answer. You should do some such thing to shake your relationship to the core. You may lose him, but losing him will be worth it if he does not value you like you want him to. You could also try being harder to get for a while. Stop calling him. When he calls you, tell him you have other plans and see what happens. If he gives up easy you really don't want him, do you?
2007-01-27 06:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm well its possible he is thinking too much about what he does when hes around you, or he may be a type of moody guy,
The only reason to find out is tell him you know how he acts towards you and wonder why he is asking this way, is there something going on with him that ruins the mood? or is he doing this intentionally, dont be scared of asking him, telling him will let him know that you see his actions and are totally affected by them. Dont forget to tell him how confused it makes you feel.
2007-01-27 07:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Wisdom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but I would venture to say that you are fairly young. I would venture to say as well that he is not into you!!! Leave him alone for a few days and see where it goes, that will tell you. If you are the one calling him all the time, that is not good, if he really wanted you. he would be calling you. Good Luck.
2007-01-27 06:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb he s not sure you like him and he doesnt wanna make a move so as not to look funny u know.or he just wants to have a good time with ya and aint takin thins serious as u do. my advice is this:wait a lil bit and if u wer meant to b, nothin can stop it from happenin,have absolute faith in that
2007-01-27 06:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by abderrahman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best person to answer your question is your boyfriend. Ask him. guys deal with stress and emotions differently than girls. Let him call you.
2007-01-27 06:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
test him and say that you want to get a more serious relationship going and if he backs off then you know what he will be feeling
2007-01-27 06:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by creme8888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop over analyzing your relationship-you're not a psychiatrist-if you're not happy that's your thing-he may be perfectly happy but getting tired of you being a drama queen-life is for living-not worrying
2007-01-27 06:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u never know another persons feelings. seems u dont trust him so u should move on. or work on ur trust issue.
2007-01-27 06:49:22 · answer #11 · answered by Matt G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋