How do you get through the last years of highschool?

Question

My school is horrible, I come from a place where everybody is especially pressured to be a straight-A-student, but I'm average.Also, people are soo mean, even the teachers!!!
There's nobody I can turn to and I had to endure this for two years. I spoke to a psychiatrist and a councillor, but they just handed me a hand full of pills and saw me as a client, not a person....I also feel so worthless, cause I've never been in a relationship and long to be accepted by someone...
Even at home, there's no sanctuary, my dad drinks and critizises everything I do, that I'll never get through life, and my mum doesn't help me out. When I want to talk to my mum about my problems, she just says I already have enough on my hand with your father's "bad moods".....jeez, I really blurted out a lot now.....be gentle with your answers....

Answer 1

You deal with it one day at a time, one hour at at time and sometimes one minute at a time. IF that doesent help, there is a prayer that helped me.
God, grant me the serenty to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
This helps in alot of everyday lives.
Good luck.

Answer 2

Jess, just know two things. God loves you and I love you. You are a wonderful person and if you do your best don't worry about what others are doing in school. I wasn't the greatest student in school, but in college I did very well. It is also hard for young people to deal with drinking in the home, but it can be done. My wife also grew up with an alcoholic father and I think she was a very wonderful person. She always said what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Hang in there. Next, understand high school is like every thing else, only temporary. You will do fine. I expect the world will one day know who you are and see great things of you. You have a lot to offer and if one doctor does nothing for you find another. You don't especially need pills. You just need someone to talk to. I feel you will do fine, once you're out of high school and off on your own. Trust God to take care of you and nothing will be too hard to get through. Believe me, He got me through this far. I'm 50, almost 51 and just finished going through cancer treatment.

Answer 3

Immerse yourself in things that interest you, either in or out of school.Join some extracurricular activities, be in the school play, join some clubs, go out for a sport. If you just need to get away from all school related things, find something else, such as an afterschool job, a dance class or other type of activity you find interesting, such as tennis, music, hiking, volunteer at the local humane society or another place that interest you and would help others. Volunteer or get a job at a library, old folks home reading to lonely old ladies....

good luck and please find something you enjoy, your life will be so much for it.

Answer 4

Hey- that's rough. My dad drinks too- horrible alcoholic- and my school was crap too. It might not go down well with your family, but i dropped out in 12th grade and it was the best decision of my life. I got an amazing job on a cruise ship, got $2200 a month tax-free for the 6 months i worked the cruise, and the cruise and most things on the cruise were free. Year after that, I volunteered in Africa for 3 weeks, then worked on my GED through correspondence. In school I was barely passing because I didn't care about it, but with correspondence I got my GED with a 92% average. School and homelife sucked and was miserable, but dropping out completely changed everything.

Answer 5

well, honey... i have the same issue, but! since in my religion they teach me to trust in God well that is what i do and so i dont worry much. it is really stressing but, you also get to have some fun. it also depends on what school you go to. and it also depends on the work that is getting done at this time. i just had my finals and now i feel a lot better that i passed them. i ended the semester with B's and so i am proud of myself but, well all i can give you for advice isd to keep trying no matter what. you WILL get the feeling and thoughts of dropping out of school but dont do it since it will only lead your futture into a lot more misery than it already is in. so, yea. Good luck!

Answer 6

I had the exact same problems. What I would recommend is make sure you have fun outside of school, do activities you enjoy and make friends, so your life has meaning and pleasure in it.

Nowadays with the internet, it's easy to meet like minded people and friends you get on with or who have similar interests. That's what makes life bearable at any age:)

Answer 7

Try to watch movies that make you feel good, listen to music that will melt your worries, and read books and magazines you won't have to write a report on.

It's okay to be average. Many teachers have average marks in high school. Many great people have average marks in high school. Many parents have average marks in high school.

Answer 8

Dear Jess,

First of all, I want you to know that I'm very sorry you're going through such a hard time. Those last few years in high school are stressful and aggravating. Let me see if I can give you some words of encouragement, and try to calm you down a little bit, ok?

A psychiatrist doesn't really care about you personally. To them, you're just another "patient" with some clinical condition for them to treat. And you certainly don't need pills, that's a bad route to take and I'm glad that you recognize that. Good on you!

I also want you to know that you are NOT worthless. God doesn't make junk, honey. You're a special person, and you have so much to offer. And I want you to remember that. Right now you don't feel like you're worth a whole lot, but when we get stressed out and go through hard times, that's how we think sometimes. Even us adults!!

You know what a big problem is? Adults think they have so much stress and problems in their lives, but forget that teenagers also have stress and problems. You have stress too! You have problems too! And it's not a good thing for them to shrug off your problems and say they don't stack up to theirs!

Ok, so what do we do..... let's think of a few things...

First of all, don't pressure yourself to be an "A" student. I'm not saying that you should slack off and get "D's" now, ok? But just because your school is putting the heat on you to make "A's", doesn't mean you have to lose sleep over it. You do the very best you can do, and that is ALL anyone can ask of you. And if you rate an "A" grade, then fine. But if you get a "B", then you get a "B", and you're content with yourself that you did your very best. Honey, an "A" isn't worth anything if you're sick or hurting inside. The world will always pressure you, but you don't have to add to it by pressuring yourself. Ok?

Relationships- With all that's going on in your life, do you have time for a relationship? If so, then you must make sure that you pick a person who is going to be there for you thick and thin. You cannot go out with a person who is demanding of you, and adds to your already hectic life. You need someone who is supportive, fun, mature, and is going to respect you as a person. To settle for anything less, is settling for less than the very best.

Your dad doesn't seem to be the one to lean on right now. He seems to have some issues of his own to deal with. Especially when it involves drinking. And usually when a man is full of alcohol, they get critical. And that's not what you need. So I would not lean on Dad too much for support. I know you want it, I know you need it, but he isn't the one to help you right at this particular time. Perhaps down the road Dad will get better, but for now, he's having a tough go of it.

If you have any good friends you can lean on, do so. If your Mom supports you some, then lean on her. But if at times she's not supportive, don't depend entirely on her either. She's probably having a rough go of it with Dad, and she can't handle alot right now. If you have a pastor or someone who will listen, please go there and talk to him.

I think the main thing you need right now is a friend who will listen to you, and let you vent off some steam. The biggest problem I see is that no one is listening to you. And they really need to. Find an ear to listen to you.... and vent it out.

Ok, what if you don't have anyone readily available to vent things out on? Go do something physical. Exercise, run, walk, play a sport, do something to blow off that steam, overactive hormones, and anger! Does that sound like a silly solution to you? Well it's not. You trust me on that one. I was a law enforcement officer for 23 years. I know lots about stress. And when you get that energy and burn it up, you also burn up that stress, aggravation, hurt, and all that stuff that's keeping you feeling bad.

Jess, I do wish you the very best. And I want to assure you that things are not all dark and bleak. It will get better, my friend. I promise you.

Prayers for you.