im not turned on by my wife she tryed harder with her ex?

Question

i am recently married and my sexual relationship with my wife is truly in a mess.she was a sexual dynamo with her ex they do things we never done,she told me that it was power thing because he was a police officer.i have tryed so hard to kick start our relationship.i got to the point now where i dont fancy my wife anymore.she proposed to me i married her she wants a kid straight away.i feel im the guy she settled for because her ex wouldnt commit to her.if this is the case why marry me.she wont talk about it,i feel so down and used.what should i do.

Answer 1

ewww. why are you trying to measure up or down to someone else? why do you know about her previous sexual experiences?
why would torture yourself in such a way? maybe her ex was a creepy sexual brute? she wants 'a kid' or your child because she loves you?
you need to stop thinking in a negative manner and you will feel much happier and think happier thoughts about your wife.
she's not a sex machine...she's your wife.

Answer 2

Do not get this woman pregnant!

You are still free - breath man, the answers will come. If you marriage isn't working out, you can always leave. Once you have a kid it becomes much, much more complex.

I might suggest marriage counciling? If you don't have good communication in your relationships, you don't have much.

Answer 3

I really feel for you, mate. I've got a fella with no notable sex drive or adventure in him (though he did interesting stuff with those who went before) and he doesn't talk, either. My advice - give her an altimatum. Communicate or leave. A relationship doesn't work without communication or intimacy. That said, perchance I should take my own advice.

Answer 4

be straight and firm with her! u shouldnt have rushed into things knowing this though. Might be a lesson to be learnt mate!

Answer 5

Divorce her