Im a quarter indian and the rest white so i havent really had much of an indian upbringing, ive met and fell in love with this wonderful sikh boy...and now...after alot off drama i have met his family...(they love me) and we are now officially engaged...my question is...in sikh weddings what actually happens...my fiancee isnt very religous so he's unable to tell me and im too scared too ask his family otherwise they'll get angry that he knows nothing!! i know abou mendhi etc...but what else is traditional? and what is expected off me??
2007-01-26 22:01:46 · 11 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
V.I: He's born and raised in england...2 generations too be precise!! they just hold alot off morals!! lol...so i dont think he wants my passport!!! thanks for that though!!
2007-01-28 23:18:42 · update #1
You know about mendhi etc... But do you know something about mama’s churra ? actually your maternal uncle has to present you with wedding dress along with churra its actually plastic bangles previously they were made from ivory but now ivory is a banned item so plastic bangles are worn by the bride. Your maternal family members prepare you for marriage ceremony starting from Uttan which is mix powder of sandal, turmeric & multani matti with oil that is applied on your whole body , then your wear red colored dress presented by your maternal uncle along with bangles & other jewellary. In a Sikh marriage the rite are usually preformed in a gurdwara where all people gather with their head covered, followed by kirtan & then granthi (priest) of the gurdawara perform Hardas which is prayer to the almighty announcing the purpose of the gathering , finally the granthi perform the marriage ceremony where both bride & groom perform 4 lamas i.e. go around the holy guru granth sahib each lama signifying vow they take as husband & wife to live together in love & respect for each other, take care of each other for rest of life,etc. Finally the granthi bless them &declare then husband & wife.
2007-01-26 23:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you have children in the mix. Your first concern needs to be of them. I would say that if you are feeling uneasy about getting married anytime soon, I would cancel the date. Explain to your boyfriend that you have some reservations towards marriage since the time before didn't work out. You just want to make sure that everything is in place before walking down the aisle. And since you are noticing things about your boyfriend that is somewhat unsettling, for sure you need to cancel the date. You can still stay engaged, but don't plan anything. This might be a time when you realize that he might not be the one for you and its better now then married.
2016-05-24 04:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u r gonna be an indian bride soon so it is expected from u to be a bit shy & polite.thats more important than any thing else.apart from this it will be expected from u that u should show respect to all the elders by touching their feets it's a custom & gesture of respect(u can confirm it from ur fiancee).
for more details about the tradition & culture of family(as they vary in each family) u can talk some female member of the family like his sister,cousin,sister - in - law or any of his sikh friend's female relative(whichever is possible for u ).
2007-01-28 04:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by SHOBHIT J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be better for you to first engage the services of a detective organization to find out whether the sikh boy really loves you, or that he wants to marry you just for going abroad and to remarry again after settling with you in your country for a while and then divorcing you. That is what most people do, as per newspaper reports, in some parts of India to go to a foreign country by hook or crook.
If the detective organization gives a clean chit, you can puchase a punjabi cook book, start making dishes; go to gurudwaras regularly and watch as to how the sikhs as a communtity do everything in togetherness and spirit of brotherhood and try to imbibe the qualities. You can also start learning punjabi in one of the innumerable coaching classes teaching the language and in three months you should be a pucca punjabi girl.
2007-01-28 05:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by spiritual healer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well... A lot is expected of you... Ok to start with touching of feet of his parents is good (its a form of taking their blessings), most families have a lot of give & take traditions that are done (depends on family to family) as for functions... there is "ladies sangeet" which is where all the ladies of the family get together & put Mendhi etc... well I cant really answer more as a lot depends on the family etc of the guy...
2007-01-26 22:09:38 · answer #5 · answered by Bipin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think that his family will get upset if you ask questions? If they love you, as you say, they will help you out as much as possible. They will be thrilled that you are going to embrace their faith and beliefs. I don't care what religion people are, men don't usually know much about weddings or ceremony having to do with weddings. So asking the women of his family will and should bring your closer to his family. Best wishes on your pending marriage.
2007-01-26 22:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all do not worry, my fiancee dont know what happens in marriage even i dont, but seriously its no big deal, his parents will guide you step by step, the day will pass brightfully, its after marriage how to have a good life with them you should care about
2007-01-27 12:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats,
it's time to be happy,don't get tensed on what is all abt some religious belifs,if u had some dbts in it u should first consult it with ur wouldbe,and move along with his opinion,as he is whom with u have to lead ur lifeAll the best
2007-01-27 21:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont delay
2007-01-26 22:48:01 · answer #9 · answered by RIYAZUDEEN A 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
NO PROBLEM GO AHEAD.
2007-01-28 03:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋