What do i do when my dad says not to invite some of my friends on my own wedding???

Question

I have a good friendly circle and some of us are friends since our school days. All my friends are really nice and sweet but somehow my dad has poor impression about couple of my friends and i feel it is a totally false impression and they are not xactly how my dad thinks about them. I have tried to explain this to my dad several times but he won't listen. So my dad is very adamant about not inviting them over on my wedding. Come to think of it guys...my wedding n my friends with whom i have had a great relationship since years and i am asked not to invite them. What will my friends think and what am i suppose to do????? I am so CONFUSED about this whole situation.

Answer 1

My dad passed away ..I wish that he attend my wedding ..i can give up all my friends so he would attend ..i will miss his smiling eyes looking at me in my white dress ..i will miss him holding my hand through ..i will miss his kiss .. his place will be empty in every picture and in every corner in every statement ,,,,you are so lucky to have your father attending the wedding ..for me me there will be always empty place in my wedding ..be careful don't make your dad or mom angry ,,,,friends com and go but parents if they go you will be alone even if you were happily married ......

Answer 2

that's tough question to answer, because there are many factors that come into play. I see that you have a great deal of respect for you dad and his feelings. He should be proud of you. You, could do as your dad asked, in doing that you must then be honest with your friends of why they are not invited to your wedding. Don't make up a story. Or you could set down with your dad, choose the right moment. (timing is everything.)
start off by
Acknowledging how he feels, but you would like him to reconsider his decision, based on how you feel and the importance of having them there for you, share with him.
don't bring up, what will your friends think or what will you tell them. No! make this about you and what you want and you would be willing to make a comprise, by just inviting them to the actual wedding and not the reception, or the other way around. But you would appreciate if he would take the time to give some more thought about this and what ever his decision is .you would honor and respect it. Then do just that. Your Dad is a very important person in your life and if it is that

Answer 3

If you're a young bride and your dad's paying for the wedding, it's sticky. Many parents of young brides, especially the ones funding the whole thing, think of it more as "their" wedding. And they have a point.

Still, not being allowed to invite close friends is creating a hardship for you. You could offer to pay their way yourself. You could also set something up, like a dinner or small party, where your dad can see your friends are not actually monsters (especially if he hasn't in a while).

Also, try to have a heart to heart and find out what he really objects to. Does he think they treated you poorly? That they'll be rowdy and disrespectful at the reception? Get stupid drunk? Or is it something else? Drawing him out on what bothers him will be a good first step.

Answer 4

I have to say that I believe that a wedding is a day for the bride and groom. They have to decide on the guests because it's a celebration of their love and they should have the choice who they want to share it with. I think you and your fiance should be the only onlys who choose the guestlist. I'm sure that your Dad loves you and is protective of his child but explain to him that this is your day and that you would love him to respect your decision, even if he doesn't agree. He doesn't have to like them, talk to them or see them ever again, but you may. If your father is going to make this hell on you then another option is to sit down with your friends in question and explain your situation. Although this may be hard for you to do, a true freind would understand and not hold this against you. If you go that route I would suggest to still invovle them somehow - invites to stag and doe parties, ask them to come with you to make choices on your wedding, ask them to help you get ready on your big day. Good luck and congrats on getting married!

Answer 5

I would send them invitations whether dad liked it or not. When they show up, he won't be able to do much about it. Shame on dad for holding you hostage for your own wedding. I hope you are not going to let dad make decisions for you after you are married. Your poor hubby will go insane. I understand that you want to respect your dad, most of us are brought up that way. But when dad does not respect you, your friends or your decisions, then its time to back away and do what you feel is right. Remember to listen to your husband and not your dad, your husband is your number one guy in your life now and dad will have to learn to take a back seat.

Answer 6

My guess is that if your dad is paying for the wedding he thinks he should have the final say in who should and should not be allowed to attend. Have you spoken to your dad about this and had a heart to heart about why he does not want these people invited? Have you explained to him that while you understand he is paying,(if he is), that your wedding is your day and is supposed to be about you and not about him? If he is financing the wedding, would he refuse to pay if you insisted on being able to invite all of your friends for your special day? If he does refuse to pay are you prepared to pay for the wedding yourself? and just how mad would he be if you invited who you want to your wedding regardless of what he says. Talk to him again, but sounds to me that he is being selfish and forgetting that your wedding day is not about him it is about you no matter if he is paying for it or not. Either way you have a decision to make. Good luck and I hope your dad comes to his senses.

Answer 7

This doesn't sound like something YOU need to be dealing with at all. Let your mom or your maid of honor deal with dear ole dad.

Someone also needs to inform your dad that this is YOUR special day and that he needs to back off and let you enjoy it.

When I got married there was so much stress put onto my wife and I that I just knew our wedding day was going to be a disaster. It turned out to be the best day of my life and everything went rather smooth.

My best advice is to just control the anxiety and be calm and respectful when confronted by your dad. Your wedding is one day out of your life that your dad has been there every day of.

Answer 8

Invite them. Gosh. You're a grown woman and it's your wedding, and your Father cannot tell you as an adult what to do.
I would invite them and not tell your Father. It's not his business anyway!! Being an adult comes with the responsibility to make your own decisions and live with the consequences of those decisions. Time to grow up.

Answer 9

At the end of the day it's YOUR day. You need to decide what you want. Maybe sit down and think about what your dad has said and what has actually happened throughout the friendship between you and your friends. Parents tend to be right bout these things and only want the best for their precious daughter, however they can also be wrong. If you decide they really are true friends and your dad is wrong, sit him down and talk to him about it, adult to adult. Don't be surprised if he still see's u as his little baby girl.

Just remember it's YOUR day.

Answer 10

I would be reminding daddy that its your wedding and most of the guests he probably invited as well
Put them in the wedding party then they have to come

Answer 11

Why is your dad calling the shots on your wedding guestlist? Is he paying for it? If so, work out another arrangement to where he's not paying. If he's footing the bill, you've got to bend to his budget and his demands. If not, there's no reason why you can't tell him to stuff it and invite whomever you darn well please (or can afford to invite yourself).