Hello, i am a mother of one child who is 16 and she is a nightmare!! i am a single mother whom needs a boyfriend! i need advise! my teenager is senseable, but sometimes stupid! She once ran away for 1 day to my mothers! something is wrong but she won't open up! she has had one boyfriend about 3 years ago and it went bad. i don't what she does now because she always go's to her friends houses! i am very upset about this can you help me cause she always has nightmares too at night(s)!!! help
2007-01-26 21:13:48 · 13 answers · asked by Lovebug 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
According to your other questions you already have a boyfriend and are 4 months pregnant. So why don't i believe this question?? If it is a genuine question, then can you suggest she talks to a teacher/friend/doctor to see if they can help.
2007-01-26 21:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by S 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It is very sad. Your daughter is a mental case. Consult some psychologist so that the true cause of her having nightmare comes to light . I think that she has been deprived of her love while she was having a b/f. In my opinion she knows that you need a b/f and she does not like that you being her mother should have b/f because in this case her chances of having b/f will become very remote I therefore advise you to give up your mind to have a b/f, You should control your sex desire and channelize your sex in different other ways, such as music, painting and seeing movies. You will see t hat when she knows that you are no more interested in having a b/f, she will improve.
2007-01-26 21:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does she know how worried & concerned you are? Have you asked her what is happening with her at the moment? Perhaps she is showing resentment towards you. At 16 kids don't understand why parents may have behaved in certain ways when they were children & sometimes get angry & upset about it. Be patient & loving & let her know that you are always there for her & that the door is always open if her & her friends would like to spend time at your house. Good luck.
2007-01-26 21:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like this because i was struggling with my sexuality.A friend of our daughters has been acting out and running away for the same reason so maybe you might want to explore this option in a delicate way!! Give her the opportunity to talk about this subject then maybe you can rule it out.But if that's the problem you need to handle it carefully,your reaction at this point can make or break a parental relationship...tread carefully.
2007-01-28 05:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try having some girly time with her...have a pampering day or something to let her know that your not just her mum but her friend as well. hope fully she will feel more at ease with you which then should allow her to open to you and let you know whats going on.if she doesnt open up, maybe this will help you ask her if you feel the time is ok??? i hope your ok soon babe.xxxx
2007-01-27 01:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried being friends with her in the hope she will open up eventually? Think a lot of people wonder why their kids don't talk to them when they don't actually listen to them or just tell them off afterwards!
And if she ran away to your mum's house, maybe she feels more comfortable talking to her, which is good because at least she has an adult to talk to if she cant talk to you!
2007-01-26 21:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by ladyvgw 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried talking to her to find out what is wrong? Try to spend mum and daughter time with her on a regular basis.How about going to see a chic flick or going shopping with her if only to window shop,then to a cafe for lunch or a coffee.She is 16 going on an adult and is obviously mixed up about it.The change from a child to an adult can be very scary(you may remember being mixed up about it too, i know i did!)If you talk to her on an equal level she may open up to you.Try something like "i remember feeling fed up,scared, mixed up etc etc when i was your age and didn't know who to talk to about it to" or something like that .Hope this helps you if only a little.................
I brought up two daughters on my own and they have turned out to be strong independent young ladies who i am extremely proud of.
Good luck!
2007-01-27 03:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by bevalou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you say you need a boyfriend?? What you need to do is take stock of your life and your daughter. The only knights in shining armour that I know of died out in the middle ages . . . along with your methods of solving your problems.
Take some time out with your daughter - take her on holiday - or to a family therapist.
2007-01-30 07:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very confused.....u say your single but in your other question you say you have a boyfriend and that your pregnant? I fyou want honest answers and help from people then you need to straight with us and tell the truth, u either have a boyfriend or you dont? and your either a single mum with one child or a single mum who is pregnant again? I suggest you get back to us when you have decided which one it is.............
2007-01-26 21:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Something bad must of happened to her & she is surpressing it. You should talk to a conceller so she may get help.Sometimes a child can talk to a stranger rather than someone she knows...Or ask her to write her fears down on Q.&A. & maybe someone here could give her some good addvice...Good Luck...
2007-01-26 23:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by quiz buckler scoop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋