So there is this girl that I really like. She told me that we are "friends" and I am almost 100% sure she doesnt like me. but i really want to tell her but I am scared or rejection.
I am 17 and so is she and i am very shy. Like not shy to talk to her just really shy about telling a girl i like her.
But the main question is, with me being young and nervious about this topic.
How should i tell her?
Like I've told her on the phone how i felt, but only when i was drunk I've done that. and she might not actually think that i really like her. But I'm fairly sure she knows, almost all my friends know and lots of hers know too.
I am really confused on what i should do.
2007-01-26 20:55:42 · 11 answers · asked by mitch s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if you told her on the phone, then she knows!!! And girls can tell when a boy is interested!!!! If you want to bring it up, get her by her self and remind her of the night you told her how you felt over the phone!!! Explain to her, you don't want to loose her as a friend. But you just had to get off your chest and let her know!! And you wanted to make sure from her how she feels about you!!! Don't come on all strong either!!!! If you do it when you guys are alone, she may be able to talk to you and be comfortable about talking about it. But if you put her on the spot in front of her friends, she may clam up!!!! Don't do it over the phone either!!! I know it will be harder doing it to her face, but you want to be able to see how she reacts when you ask your questions or tell her how you feel!!! I hope my advice helps you!!! Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-26 21:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by noramom4life101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie. I know your heart is aching to profess your love to this girl, but you instincts may be true. If you are almost 100% certain that she does NOT feel the same way, then you would be better off enjoying the wonderful friendship you already have with her.
TRUST me sweetie. I know this is not the answer you wanted, but you have already professed some of your feelings over the phone when you were drinking - and although you may think that she dismissed it as drunk talk, I ASSURE you sweetie, girls are emotional and they don't dismiss ANYTHING YOU SAY - EVER!!!
I GARANTEE if even ONE of her friends know, then she DEFINATLY KNOWS........
She probably loves you in a wonderful way - just not the way your heart aches for her too. I know this hurts sweetie, but you've got to remember that everyone matures differently and not all girls "get it" sooner than boys....
You are confused because your heart throbs when you hang out with her and you would give ANYTHING to hold her hand, kiss her and be her guy.... But this will pass. You need to be content with her as a friend and just KNOW that she already knows.
If you feel you must tell her, then do it in an email so you will not have to feel the sting of rejection (if you must).
This does NOT mean that you are super handsome or an AWESOME guy, but you are so young sweetie and you can't be expected to hunt out the right girls all the time..........
Focus on meeting all kinds of people and making more friends. Eventually, she will see this wonderful catch and you will either spark her interest when she worries that you may get scooped up by another girl, OR - you WILL get scooped up by another girl and that other girl is gonna love you the way you deserve to be loved.
I promise.
Good Luck Sweetie.
Meg
AskMeg@Mail.com
2007-01-26 21:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by VocalistGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your at a good age my man. Dont take thiz negatively when i say thiz, but take it in a positive way, you have got nothing to lose by telling her! I mean the absolute best thing to do iz jes get her alone or on the phone and tell her how you feel. Then after you tell her how you feel, give her reasons why she should give you a chance, but dont make it wierd. Tell her how you would treat her and how you could make her feel. Reassure her that she also has nothing to lose and everything to gain by giving you a chance. If it turns out she doesnt like you, then let it go and maybe one day she will come around, but your too young to be wasting too much time on her. Good luck brother.
2007-01-26 21:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mr.XXX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there big guy. my best advise is to straight up ask her in person. or better yet let things cool down man. girls like attention but if you leave space where she was getting alot of attention she might just miss that attention and want it. so i'd give it a breather and not talk or hint at it any more.(give it a few weeks) ive been in the same shoes as you and for me ,at least, this has worked. plus dont be afraid of rejection at this age. 17... soon you'll be leavin to go to college and there will be ALOT more rejections or potential relationships, its up to you and how confident you are. dont be afraid to stand up for yourself and say whay needs to be heard. best of luck and hopefully this advise will help your final decision and quit being a shy guy also (CONFIDENCE) ha!
2007-01-26 21:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by airdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.. Just always remember the truth and honesty will always set you free.. So don't be too shy to tell her about your feelings. But you should think first if you will take the risk, you'll tell her your feeling and if she doesn't want you to be her boyfriend, of course your friendship will be affected.. But of course, you can only be the one who can decide for that because you can feel how she feels for you..
Goodluck.. Believe in yourself always!!
2007-01-26 21:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i enjoyed her lower back, it may well be a alleviation that i didnt may be the only to make the flow. If i didnt like her as better than a pal, i might tell her that, ask for forgiveness, make effective she became ok, and proceed being acquaintances together with her like no longer something occurred. Its no longer her fault for having a human emotion, meaning, on your case, the guy will comprehend, will ask for forgiveness, and save being your pal. So definately decide for it. purely ask to talk to him on my own, and say "i such as you," and spot what he says. no longer something undesirable will happen, i promise.
2016-11-01 09:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im also 17,
ok,
you should slowly start to do really sweet and romatic things for her. compliment her all day EVERY day
just be sweet...she just might get the picture
2007-01-26 21:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by Celebrity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't talk but you can write. Send her a love letter.
Scared of rejection? It is always better to have love and lost than to have never loved at all.
2007-01-26 21:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by Arnoux 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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okaaaaaaay.
What part of no reciprocation do you not understand?
2007-01-26 20:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by mmd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you like her if she feel the same way about you then good. If not ...well life moves on
2007-01-26 21:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by victorbusta5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋