met this women, she's amazing, beautiful, and we both make each other happy when together. to find out that she's married! but she finally opened up and express her sadness in life. she's not happy with her husband, separated 4 times, he doenst want her to do anything with her friends or even her family & even with jst both of them. out of nowhere, he decided to relocate to another state, asked her to moved w/him w/o asking her, xpect her to leave evrthng, her family, friends & basically her life. she eventually followed him but only lasted for 2 weeks & now she's back. now we're starting to see each other again. i know never to get involved w/ someone who has relationship but if she's unhappy w/ her life & i see that atleast i make her smile when we're together. what should i do? i know that i should not get involved until they decide to end the relationship but i'm scared to step away & she might meet someone else & loose her. so far, i havent met anyone like her who made me happy.
2007-01-26 20:30:15 · 23 answers · asked by Bizz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
back up. she's married.she is not urs so step away. if she can cheat on her husband with you she can cheat on you with someone else
2007-01-26 20:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
See her, make her smile, be her friend as she decides if she is staying or going back to her husband. But the key is be her friend, leave the sex with another man's wife to someone else who doesn't have any morals. If she is unhappy, she has options that don't involve sneaking around behind her husbands back and not being a person of integrity and honor. Unhappy or not, she owes him her faithfulness til she ends the marriage.
2007-01-26 20:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question has a tough answer--because you already know that you have to do the right thing-----tell her that you will date when she settles her life issues---until then, go out with a single, free, available woman. What happens if things suddenly were to change and see abruptly leaves you??? It can happen, you know. You're left out there alone and she could care less. You don't see or believe this but you are just open for a crash dive disappointment. Why waste the time??? She should take the time to fish or cut bait---stick with hubby or divorce him. If he finds out she is doing you---you could be in danger or even worse---you know what I mean. You stay and it just makes it harder for her to settle it all---I hope you see what I mean. Do the right thing. Explain that you feel that to continue will be disrespectful for all involved
2007-01-26 20:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wts a better feeling than being happy in love? So wt if shez married? It's nt her fault, is it? I dun understand y ppl alwaz consider married ppl.
Well, if ur worried bout her present relationship, then u ve to tlk to her bout it openly. Face-to-face. Go for coffee of sth, and tell her ur prob. Tell her u love her and r vry happy wth her, bt she has to break her present relationship first so tht u both can be happy right?
If she gives u a green light for ending the relationship, u needn't fear, but u shd make sure she ends the relationship, rather than saying "Yes, I'll end the relationship", and do nth bout it. In case she is nt gonna break her present relationship, u ve to back out and move away frm her.
All the best! I hope u get a green light!
2007-01-26 20:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me give you some advice (STEP BACK) (WAY BACK) This woman is putting you in harms way and Im sure that she doesn't even realize it. Look at the whole picture Her husband moved out of state far away from family and friends then convinces her to move w/him 2wks later shes back, Okay this husband of hers is controlling , jealous, paranoid, crazy, ect... And you are scared of losing her? she is not yours to begin with, she's married to a person who is dangerous, if you don't walk away from her now Im afraid that either one or both of you are going to get hurt, She needs to talk with someone who can help her get away from this man, Im sure that you mean well, but believe me you are not helping, if he finds out about you and her he is going to flip his lid. Save her life and yours if you really care for her like u say, then walk away if she comes back after sometime w/out still being married then you and her were meant to be, but in the mean time please take my advice and let her go.
2007-01-26 21:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure seems like you've got some fire-works going there! Just remember you cant built your happiness on someone elses unhappiness! Thus keep contact....but stand back...if she is serious about divirce she will do it....if not...then you know! DOnt get deeper involved till all is settled & stamped by court. Lastly dont let her kids always see you as the preditor that made their daddy go away!!...thats if there are any.
2007-01-26 20:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by crisjul v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weather you let her go or not if she is going to leave you she will. So your not going to loose anything by stepping back. You will although regain yourself respect. If you stay in this, how many times will it take her going back to him for you to give up on this? And why should you be the one to waite for her to decide on you or him. She already knows what she's going to get from both of you so what's the problem with her choosing now who she wants?
2007-01-26 20:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to pick which side of the fence she wants to be on. Until she makes up her mind about her life you are in the middle. She may be using you for an emotional security blanket whereas her husband may possibly use deadly force. Think it through.
2007-01-26 20:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... walk away before you become a target. She's got your heart - if she's treating her spouse this way, what makes you think she'd never treat you the same if she married you and there was trouble in paradise?
Don't let your heart lead you on this one. If it's meant to be, get out and let fate do its thing. If you don't, you could be hurt more later, emotionally and/or physically.
2007-01-26 21:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by Bobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is separated from living with her husband then yep. Just make sure the husband knows it is over and that she is also ready for another relationship, otherwise you will just hurt yourself.
2007-01-26 20:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by BrutalNerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in a situation like that. where they were still legally married, but separated and i was seeing him for the longest time. we were happy together as well... we made one another happy. all i can say is follow your heart, you wont be truely happy unless you do that
2007-01-26 20:48:48 · answer #11 · answered by AMANDA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋