how do you tell ypur daughter that she is not your bioligical daughter?

Answer 1

IT'S ENTIRELY UP TO YOU. BUT THE LONGER YOU WAIT, THE MORE YOU DENY HER THE OPPORTUNITY TO DECIDE FOR HERSELF OF FINDING OUT MORE OF HER ACTUAL ORIGIN

Answer 2

If you mean that she is adopted, then a lot depends on when you tell her. If she is very young, then just talk about it in a positive way from the very beginning. If she is older, then you still talk about it in a positive way, but she will have questions.

In either case, do not give her any of the details about why she was up for adoption --- a simple statement like "I don't know why your mother was not able to take care of you, but I am sure she wanted to." will be enough for now.

If you are talking about something other than adoption, the same idea is true --avoid anything that will make your daughter feel like she was unworthy in some way in the eyes of her "natural" mother.

If she is old enough to ask questions, try to be honest without putting down her birth parents. And give the simplest explanation unless she asks additional questions.

Answer 3

do you really need to do that?dont listen to what the do gooders say about rights and stuff because i'll tell you now it's a hard decision to make and it could destroy both your lives forever.once it's done it's done theres no going back so think very seriously about it.
and no matter what people say it isn't and never will be easy.sometimes it's better to let sleeping dogs lay.and dont let people blackmail you by saying if you love her you'll tell her because that is a cruel thing to say and not a good enough reason to tell her,but there is 2 sides to this.
think seriously my friend and dont let anyone else influence your decision and that includes me.and i cant spell,can i?
PS.iv'e been there and done that and i dont envy your position.in fact i feel sad for you both.
i'm a hard person and nothing has ever bothered me but the only time in my life i wanted to die was when i told my daughter that i wasn't her father,i seen things different though when i was sitting beside her hospital bed when she tried to kill herself because she couldn't handle it.so think carefully.and like someone else said you maybe need a bit of help.see a phsycholigist not a counselor,they do more harm than good.

Answer 4

well that depends on the situation... you have not given enough detail. I am assuming that she is adopted.
She does have the right to know for medical reasons (she should know if her biological parents have any hereditary diseases).
This will come as a shock to her but break it gently... just set her down and explain that you love her and you adopted her because you wanted a child.
How old is she... if she is really young I would wait until she is old enough to understand. Do you know if her biological parents want to be contacted? I am sure she will be curious... you should have all of this information before you talk to her.
Good luck!

Answer 5

The earlier the better. Just tell her to sit down and tell her you have something to say to here. She is going to see her Birth Certificate someday. And that you love her very much, she was a gift, and things happen for a reason, that this dosen't change anything but when she wants to look for here real mother that you will help her. That's a personal choice though. Good Luck to you I am sure everything will come out fine.

Answer 6

Firstly I agree, you should discuss this with a counsellor as they are professionals, we are not. And I think that the way that this is handled could effect her for a life time.

However, I do think that you need to make your daughter feel loved and completely shower her with love, affection and support.

Answer 7

In a quiet room with no interruptions. I don't think there is any easy way to say it. Be gentle about it, let her be angry, upset or whatever, then be HONEST with any questions she has. Start off with how much you love them first. Why you need to tell them. Good luck!

Answer 8

i think u should start with preparing her physically then u should take her to a place she loves to hang on and start asking her question like tell her ur problem as ur friend problem and let her answer then tell her the truth and tell her how much u love her and u will never let her go and things like that...and wait her answer and respect it i think that will do ...
good luck

Answer 9

I dont really think you will find that answer on here

I suggest you see a counsellour to ask for advice on how to do it in the most deicate of ways.

Answer 10

Depends on her age. Resubmit the question with this info for better responses. Also, are you the mother or father?

Answer 11

y on earth any one have to say such things if she really luvs her daughter. if she really want to diclose truth one should be prepared for the result. you must hug her and love before saying and emotinally tell her every thing your love story how you married with her father(non-biolgical)