how do you get over someone whom you've loved with all your being?
its been almost a year since our relationship ended and there is not a day that passes that i dont think of her.
i miss her so much.
2007-01-26 20:28:13 · 11 answers · asked by El Fauno 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're in the same boat. My ex of four years and I broke up a year and six months ago, and up to now i still love him very much and i can't get him off my mind. His pictures are still in my iPod..i always listen to the songs we used to love..i still visit his cousins who are very close to me. Obviously, i haven't moved on yet. Sometimes become bitter and i want to curse love. I mean, you get that feeling that you gave everything yet your everything still isn't enough to make him stay. You tried to be perfect but still you're trying in vain. It's really hard, and you get the big phobia of falling in love again and risk getting hurt again.
Is it possible to save relationship when the love has gone? Definitely, it is not. There’s no sense to keep on moving together hand in hand, due to some features that suit one another. Sooner or later one would approach to ending a relationship, since living without love appears to be unbearable
My advice? Deal with it. Time heals all the wounds and so should you. You can't rush into moving on, you have to pass through several stages until you could say 'i survived!'. By now im sure you have the mottos 'love sucks', 'love is stupidity' etc....
1.) throw away all her mementos, photos, and eveything that reminds you of her.
2.) Spend more time with your friends and family.
3.) Keep yourself busy.
4.)Avoid listening to mellow music, esp. the songs both of you loved to listen to,
5.) Keep a list of all the bad things she did to you and tack them next to your bed.
6.) Sever all of your communications with her.
7.) Avoid seeing her.
8.)Avoid the places she frequents.
9.)Convince yourself that you don't deserve her
Remember this:
GOD TAKES AWAY WHEN HE HAS SOMETHING BETTER TO GIVE.
2007-01-27 01:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how it feels. I have loved someon for 10 years, and we are not together. But I am not sad for that, because I trust it. I think of him every day, every hour, every minute, every second, every moment.. even now..
Ur case is diff frm mine of course.
I suggest u find out if she is out wth someone else yet or not. U ve to find out if she has been able to frget u or nt. How? By tlking to her about it. If she hasnt forgtten u yet, CONGRATULATIONS!!!
However, if she has, u ve no choice, but to forget her. There are 2 ways to do this.
Firstly, u ve to keep urself occupied wth other things and try ur best to put ur mind in it. Even if u think of her, let it cont, bt get ur wrk done.
Secondly, find some other girl. U will prob get used to another grl and realise how silly u wre to go behind tht one grl when u actually had another grl waiting for u.
Dun give up hope mate! All wil be fine :)
2007-01-26 20:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok brother, heres the honest answer... Iz not easy! There iz nothing easy about getting over a loved one. But the first step to take iz realizing that everything happens for a reason. The absolute best thing for you to do iz to spend lots of time with friends and try dating around, get to know some other girls. Whatever you do, DO NOT waste your time thinking about thiz one girl, because chances are, she iznt thinking of you man... sorry but thaz the reality. So do nething and everything you can to take your mind off of her, and if you two are meant to be together, the fate will bring you two back together. In the mean time... Let the good times roll man! And oh yea, dont let anyone tell you iz easy, cuz iz not. But it iz the best thing to do!
2007-01-26 20:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mr.XXX 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Break ups are never easy --they hurt and that is a fact !!! The truth is everyone recovers at their own pace. It sounds as if you have grieved it long enough---now you are at the pitiful stage---can't get over her and you seem to enjoy the pain and disappointment. Instead of the poor me routine...stand up, take a deep breath, start walking until you get to a spot where people hang to meet and have fun and eventually you will meet another woman. Life is too short--snap out of it and get with the program.
2007-01-26 20:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must listen to songs that give you strength like You're Beautiful by James Blunt and Fighter by Christina Aguilera.
2007-01-26 20:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Sherman V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't really get over it. u just move on. there's not a day that i don't think about my ex. just do other happy things. date other ppl. find someone else who you can love again.
2007-01-26 20:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife of 26 years, died. how do you get over it? break-up or died, either way. You just be glad for the time you were together, and live-on, from there.
2007-01-26 20:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no way. ask her out again and see what happens. if see rejects u then u will die old and lonely
2007-01-26 20:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by PhatCat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is really tough,but life has to go on.
2007-01-26 20:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it may never go away..unless you find someone new that fills that void in your head.
2007-01-26 20:32:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋