omg theres this guy he asked me put 7 times in 6 months hes driving me crazzzzyyyyyy everytime he asks me out i say no he flirts with me 24/7 and i never do it back i always tell him we can be bestfriends and i alwaaaaays try and act like his bestfriend he dosent want..he wants to go out with me by any chance i dnt wnnnnnnnt tooooo ukh!! and like tomoro is his birthday and he told my bestfriend that he wants it to be a date no as gf bf but as friend date..wat should i do plz dont say go out with him or give it a try coz i reely dont want to i tryed the same thing with allooot of guys but i regret it i told myself that im nver gna say yes to a guy except if i reelly like him which i no is correct!! wat should i do
2007-01-26 20:22:40 · 10 answers · asked by gurlie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him know how you feel...
I was in a situation just recently where this really nice guy kept asking me out, and he was very gentlemanly and everything nice, but I simply don't like him in that way and would not want to be gf bf with him. He kept ringing me (both on my home phone and mobile), emailing me, wanting to pick me up and drop me home, keep trying to arrange opportunities to spend time together etc... well, I just told him today that I feel uncomfortable with him contacting me so often, and assured him that he hasn't really done anything wrong. He took it very well, (even apologised!), and I think from now on he will give me the space I need. I said all these to show you that you need to let that guy know how you feel. If he cares about you, he will respect your feelings.
2007-01-26 20:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight you are not interested, if he still does not understand give him a wide berth for a while, cos girl he's stressing you right out!!
Or you could say unfortunately you have taken with a religious cult and by chance the week of his birthday you are spending in a corn field in the mid west waiting for the mothership.
First one is prob more logical, but the second one would be good just to see his reaction!!
2007-01-27 04:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lucky Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he can't respect the fact that you only want to be friends with him then maybe he isn't a good friend. You might just have to stop hanging out with him all together.
Give him fair warning... just say "look, I have told you that I don't want to date you and I would like to stay friends, but if you can't respect my feelings then this cannot even work as a friendship".
Then you have to follow through with it... if he asks you out again after telling him that then stop talking to him.
I actually had to end a friendship because of a situation like yours... it sucked but it was for the best.
2007-01-27 04:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, stop telling him you can be best friends, because obviously you wont be best friends. That is a lie.
Many guys dont understand the meaning of having girls just as friends, I used to think that for the longest time, all grils were potential mates for me.
The fact is, he treats your "freindlyness" as potential interest.
Stop it. Just be assertive. And use some punctuation, geez. 12 year olds...
2007-01-27 04:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by undrgrndhiphop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can keep doing is telling him no. let him know how you feel and if anything perhaps take a break. maybe if you dont spend as much time with him he will move on. good luck
2007-01-27 04:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by asian_beetle2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either fish or cut bate. Either go out with him or tell him to get lost. He obviously cannot be friends with you unless you two are going out, so those are your only choices.
2007-01-27 04:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by daddyspanksalot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really don;t like him than keep saying no, tell him to stop being persistent or else your just going to stop being his friend. point blank
2007-01-27 04:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel that strongly tell him to get lost and don't worry about his feelings, cause if you do worry about them you'll provide false hope for him to cling to. i know its hard to be "mean" but somtimes you have no choice.
2007-01-27 04:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by Badduck100 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to go,just say that. Its simple.
2007-01-27 04:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to back off
2007-01-27 04:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by Surfer_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋