My ex-wife has decided that she wants to terminate her parental rights to our son, what do I do? I live in West Virginia and reall;y need your assistance. Thanks
2007-01-26 20:08:36 · 10 answers · asked by Firebreather 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow...how do you feel about that? What do you think your child might think or feel about that? Hmmm...if your wife has any sort of issues or problems which stand in the way of her being able to parent, this might be the best thing for your child and for you. That does not mean it is going to be easy at all of course! I'm thinking that it is most likely that your ex wife DOES have some issue or problem that is motivating her to choose this--I think what is most important right now is to preserve your child's positive feelings about himself and preserve his good memories of mom--be careful not to talk about this negatively in front of him--allow him to draw his own conclusions, to create his own ending, if you will, to this.
Knowing the age of your child would help me better tailor my answer to you--but if he is old enough to process what is going to happen and know about it: when he asks you any questions about what is going on, try turning that back to him with "Why do you think that is?" or "What do you think that means?" and as long as it is helpful and not hurtful, validate his answer with "I see what you mean" or acknowledging his feelings "you sound mad/angry/sad/happy" and asking him to tell you more about that feeling. Kids are pretty astute with this feelings stuff--they might not be able to label/identify their feelings all the time, but they sure know when YOU are feeling something....you might want to consider consulting professional counseling for both of you--this could also be a real traumatizing event.
Just remember: all of your feelings, all of his feelings, are good, are okay--even the angry ones--it's how you react to those feelings, what you do with them, that matters.
2007-01-26 22:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by colbertcm61 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a dumb@ss on many levels. First of all, the purpose of you paying child support is so that your child can eat. Child support is not rent you pay in exchange for spending time with your kid. If your ex is not complying with your visitation rights, you need to take her back to court and fight for your rights as a father. Not take the easy way out like a stinking coward. Secondly, voluntarily terminating parental rights is not a thing. I don't know who first came up with that myth, but it's just that - a myth. A person can be stripped of their parental rights by a judge at court, but do you honestly think a judge would pass such a ruling just to help a moron avoid his child support obligations? Think again. You've done very well in researching the definition of parental rights termination, but you have failed to grasp the concept that this only happens if the parent in question poses a threat to the life or safety of the child and/or if the other parent is remarried and the new spouses wishes to adopt the child. Read a bit more than the first website you come across next time you do an online search.
2016-05-24 04:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you terminate parental rights doesn't mean that you terminate financial responsibilities. Make sure you file papers for child support too along with full custody. Make sure to get everything in writing when dealing with her. Make sure you save every note, letter or any correspondence from her. You never know when you might need it.
2007-01-26 20:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by LM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that means that she doesn't want to be involved... I am assuming that you have him? I guess if you don't, he will then move to the state that you live in.
This has to be done through the courts... I would hire an attorney just to make sure that what is being done is filed in b the state you live in and the state that she does and so that you have a full understanding of everything.
2007-01-26 20:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you want to raise the child...contact an attorney so that she has to legally terminate her rights...this will protect you from her coming back in a couple of years and demanding to be part of your sons life again.
2007-01-26 20:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good lawyer.
Your kids are better off without her!
Q: What sort of mother ditches her own kids?
A: The sort that doesn't deserve them! What a useless wench!
2007-01-26 20:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by sitdownshutupnplay2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suspect that you need a lawyer to get it in writing in the right way.
I assume that full custody is ok with you, so you should enjoy it.
2007-01-26 20:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear. My first priority would getting it in LEGAL writing.
She made this decision what's stopping her from taking the child
back after she changes her mind? Take it to court, legalize it and
go from there.
2007-01-26 20:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by Williamstown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg, the poor kiddo, losing his mom !
look for a lawyer.
and a psychologist for the child.
2007-01-26 22:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by luckylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her. Your child will be better off.
2007-01-26 20:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋