How would you respond?
-I sent my brother an email to establish bounderies ( I have tried in person, but he lashes out at me verbally and blames me)
-he writes me back a 'I guess I am bad person... I'll try to be better' email
-I write him back and say, 'Don't be hard on yourself, but I am surprised and glad that you heard me! I think you are a good person that just needs to finally hear my 'stop''
-then he writes back 'apparently you don't recognize sarcasm'....
how would you respond?
When he is not making me feel bad we get along really good and joke around and have fun... but he makes me feel bad ALOT. we are adults... time make myself heard somehow.. bounderies need to be established, but he just won't accept them and he is starting to bug my kids now. This needs to stop NOW, when my kids get upset from him, that is the last straw!
2007-01-26 20:05:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Cut off contact. He doesn't get to talk with you, or your part of the family, until he learns to behave in a civilized manner. When he accepts appropriate boundaries and apologizes for what he did wrong, be ready to forgive and accept him back.
2007-01-26 20:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man sounds like a manipulator who knows how to twist your crank and turn things around on you---and you let him by responding with a sort of minimizing attitude to try and ease everything. It is a vicious cycle that you are a part of. Whatever you do when write, stick to it nomatter what----you are probably right for whatever reasons and since kids are involved, you can establish any boundries you want to....and as a supposed grown man, he needs to honor them. You better write a final time and do not read or respond to any answers sent---like you didn't even see them. If you must---thendon't allow him around for a while---at least until he gets the message. He seems immature for his age---certain reactions of his raise strange flags that I don't want to mention. Just be strong and stop the drama---say it again and that's it. You feel bad because YOU let him allow himself to twist you into feeling bad---knock it off !!!
2007-01-26 20:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ingore his last message. Try to start with a clean slate next time you see or talk to him. He heard what you said. It probably hurt to hear the truth. If he doesn't change, hold your line and keep your boundaries for your sanity and your kids' sakes.
2007-01-26 20:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a warrant for his arrest. Then break into his house after he's picked up and leave cow dung all over the place and place yellow tape to symblize the boundries. That should work
2007-01-26 20:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i sorry he dont respect you as he should maybe give him some cool off time will help scent he act like a baby i feel the same why as you do all i want is respect and if they cant do it that find stay away
2007-01-26 20:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to pull his head in....its not a horse float!
Would you have him as a friend?
If no....drop him, just because he's related doesn't mean you have to associate with him.
Some distance may get the message across......he's a toss!
2007-01-26 20:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by sitdownshutupnplay2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
And I thought I lost the ability to laugh! Thanks for sharing. I'll write him: I love you too, but beside the bad nausea that accompanyy rollercoaster, my love is like a diserate.
2016-05-24 04:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its time to show a little tough love. seperate urself and ur children from ur brother until he can learn how to act. eventully he'll come around.
2007-01-26 20:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by Badduck100 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are toxic to us.
Sometimes these people are also blood relatives.
You have a choice.....do you want to continue to be poisoned.
2007-01-26 20:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you expecting too much from a man? Just a thought.
2007-01-26 20:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by itry007 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋