For the ladies: Can you translate this for me?

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For the ladies: Can you translate this for me?
Met a girl who trained me at an old job of mine. Ever since, we'd have deep convos where she'd usually call me, and confide in me about a lot for hours on end. She also would laugh at things I didn't mean to be funny, and was apologetic alot when she didn't need to be. She would also call me up during a holiday and also spent 5 hours on the phone with me the other night, apologizing saying how she had been busy because of her job.

She does have a boyfriend though, that's why I'm not pushing it. They been together for 4 years, but she'll tell me that it's not the greatest, and when she goes over there she makes it sound like its a night job rather than spending time with him. She also says to me that she's faithful.

What is it that's going on......exactly? Is there more to it than can be assumed already?

BTW, here relationship is on the outs and she's telling me she's getting rid of him soon. I asked her to my work's christmas party, which she apologetically never got back to me about even though she told me she definitely wanted to go with me. The other night I told her I liked her more than a friend, and she said "Thank you" then my phone disconnected. She called me back THREE times. Saying that she wants to talk to me about it. She also told me that things are still bad with him, but definitely wants to talk to me about it and that I didn't make her feel uncomfortable at all. She's trying to call me this weekend she says.

What is going on?

Answer 1

I didn't read the whole thing, but after the first paragraph I came to the conclusion that she likes you and wants to marry you. She's a nice girl, you should ask her out.

Answer 2

sounds like she needs a friend to confide in and is confused as to what to do about her relationship. I think that she is probably attracted to you but not yet willing to dump him. If I were you I would be very careful since you already have some feelings for her Maybe you can go out to dinner or somewhere where you wont be totally alone so something doesnt happen sexually. She needs to decide if she is going to leave this guy or not before getting you involved in a love triangle. It is ok to be her friend for now but be careful not to get too involved until she breaks up with him. Just be honest with her and tell her how you feel about the situation. Good luck.

Answer 3

OK, she's very, very confused. It's abvious that she's "feeling" you-but the barrier is her boyfriend. Sounds to me like she needs an excuse to leave him but she gets scared at the thought...In the end do not let her put you on the back burner! it suxs being 2nd place.

Your best bet is to speak to her about your own interest and what YOU are trying to accomplish with this relationship. If she is not on the same page then YOU can decide if you want to continue being her "friend" or not. If your going to still be her friend---please go about your business and make sure that she sees you having a life!

Good Luck Sweety!

Answer 4

Being in a long term relationship does have it's ups and downs and becomes a little dull over time. She probably loves her b/f still, but is not in love with him anymore. I think she might have some feelings for you, but is afraid to lose the steady relationship she's had with him for 4 years. It's up to you if you want to be around someone with mixed feelings like that. In my opinion, I don't think it's a good idea to get in the mix. She needs space to sort things out.

Answer 5

This girl has an ocean of wierdness. Best to avoid if you dont want to drown in it.
If she has got you thoroughly confused then my feeling is that you are fairly normal and she is not.
It could be that she is one of those people who thinks that they cant survive without a relationship. This can lead them to be planing and starting the next relationship before they exit the previous one. Often they will start more than one, just to make sure that they dont get stranded. You could call this type of behavior relationship addiction.

Answer 6

Hi Hey, She likes you,and would like to see you,but her bad relationship is holding her back. She maybe afraid if she leaves him,he may try,and do something about it. Talk to her,and ask if she needs help getting away from her so called boyfriend.I think she feels safe with you. A Friend

Clowmy

Answer 7

She's using you as a sounding board. She has no intentions of taking it further because she sees you the same way she sees a girlfriend.

Remember, given the green light women would talk for hours, with someone they trust, about the most intimate parts of their lives .

You have unwittingly provided her with that confidence.

Answer 8

She sounds confused. She's not sure if she will leave the guy but she wants to know that you will be there in case she does. It's up to you if you want to wait around for something that might not happen.