so my best friend really likes me, or loves me, i dont know. but anyways, i kinda like him too, but i liked him more before. he is struggling with issues within himself like low self confidence and stuff like that. we are extremely close and talk to each other all the time. we are there for each other and ive never had a best friend like him. sometimes i wanna take it further, but then i think about it ruining this awesome friendship we have. but then i end up thinking well what could it have been. i dont know what to do cuz i dont want to be the one who says she wants to be friends, but then later wants to take it further after he moves on. just to let you know, im the first girl he's ever liked like this so i dont really think he'll move on in an instant. the thing im asking is do i just try it now, even tho i dont really want to, or do i just wait it out and see, and maybe regret not taking it further. he is fine with whatever choice i choose.
2007-01-26 19:50:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im not the clingy one. and he is more interested in me than i am in him. i just dont think he'll do his part if we do take it further...as in being the boyfriend cuz hes a shy guy, even with me, and i know him more than anybody. i just dont want to be doing all the work in keeping us together.
2007-01-26 19:57:21 · update #1
That's always a tough call. Have you considered just asking him out? See if he's interested, no strings attached. If not, don't go all clingy on him.
2007-01-26 19:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there before.
It's easy to imagine that the two of you could make a great couple, just because you're so great with each other.
But remember, being in that kind of a relationship shifts the expectations a little. Some of the things that you do as friends might not count as much when you're a girlfriend/boyfriend.
Once you choose to step over that line, there really is no turning back. Say you figure out that things aren't working well as a couple, you will never again have the kind of friendship you had with him in the first place. That isn't to say you won't be friends anymore, it'll just be different.
It's easier to become someone's partner, break up then become a best friend than it is to first BE a best friend, hook up, break up then try to go back to being a best friend. If that makes any sense.
But then again if it does work out, having your best friend as your partner is, I imagine, one of the best kinds of relationships there is. And like everything else in life, the best things always have the biggest risks.
So, think about it. I hope you get to make the right decision, and good luck to you an whichever it is!
2007-01-27 04:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by bookworm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should force yourself into a relationship you don't want - it's not fair to you or him. Just let him know that you are not ready and just continue being friends. If it is meant to be, it will happen.
2007-01-27 03:55:17 · answer #3 · answered by ForeverAnAngel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in that spot. but just remember, whatever option you choose, that friendships alwaysss always last longer than relationships.
2007-01-27 03:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋