Is it woth all that hardship? when you're young you have to change thier shitty diapers, when their teens they don't listen to you and are always arguing with you. Then when they're in college they'll just take your money. What is rewarding about having children?
2007-01-26 19:03:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hello, well first I want you too think about something okay if kids was so much trouble as you put it & no one ever had any children then you also wouldn't be here. Kids are a gift from GOD yes they are a little troulble but when you hold the child for the first time you will know & understand what love or unconditonal love really is kids ,& teenagers, seem too think that parents are here on earth too make their lives miserable but all we as parents want for our children is better than what we had & the oppoturnites that we didn't have; we as parents would & will protect our children at any cost we, cherish, trust or try too with what the children give us too trust them with or for Love always no matter what but it's all worth it; Parents do not have a parents guide book too go by, we have only what our parents taught us & what we beleive in . Kids at as babies can only depend on us their parents too change their diapers, feed them bath them & so on as teenagers they are just trying too become young , independent adults & believe it or not we had peer pressure back then too & it's alot worse today but your parents are & will alway's look out for your best interest even though you or all kids & teenagers think we are all old & stupid as my children said that we didn't understand but we do & did kids & teenagers have too remeber that we was your or ya'll's age at one time .Plus your right you don't want too listen teenagers, don't most think once again that we don't know or understand anything but we do I promise we do .The rewarding part that you are asking about is watching our kids grow up thru their falls heartaches, broken bones , back talikng, telling us we are old & stupid, even that we don't understand or know anything, & so on is when the are grown responsiable adults & the kids or some show us that we didn't fail, at rainging our children , at this mostly parents does not fail at it, the kids make the wrong choices even though parents have taught the better & tried ; cause you always have a choice at everything do or not do . So to the answer too your question is YES it is all worth it even though one of my children which is an adult is not doing the right thing in life I still love him very much even though I totally disagree with what hes has does with his life .The love that I fel for both of my children is more than I or anyone could try too explain it's something you have too experince, in a way it's like you love your mom & dad but very different in how you love & how much you love & yes hun life & having kids are all worth it I wouldn't change a bit of it not even some of the heartaches that I have felt & some I still do.
Well I'm Sorry about the book here !
Good Luck & Best Wishes.
May GOD Bless You & Yours
2007-01-27 03:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by sweettexasangel12001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first child just turned 5 months so I'm no expert in this, all I can say is that my life is so much brighter since the moment I saw my son for the first time. Before I was pregnant, those thoughts crossed my mind too, with all the diapers and all, it seemed overwhelming, but now that I'm here, I'm having the best time of my life. All those diapers (today he had a loose stool & it was actually running down my leg!), believe it or not, not once have I ever felt it troublesome. It's true that you'll never know how fantastic it is till you actually have one. Wether it's rewarding or not, I guess it depends on how you see it, if you expect your children to feel grateful & indebted to you for all you've done for them, then you're in for a big disappointment. If you care for them simply because you love them, whatever they turn out to be, you'll always be able to feel the reward in it.
2007-01-26 22:07:27 · answer #2 · answered by trax2345 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not just about the diapers. Its not about the terrible two's or the terrible teens. Its not EVEN about college. Its that feeling you get deep inside when theyre an infant and they manage to smile and it was meant just...for...you. Its when they learn how to walk and they fall into your arms and laugh because they finally got to you. Its then theyre a toddler and they try to say good nite momma or dadda at bedtime. Its when they are a kindergardner and they run inside to show you a picture they made just...for...you. Its when theyre in high school and they graduated and they thank you for putting up with EVERYTHING...its when they are in college and they find time to call you to tell you they love you and miss you. There is no other love between a parent and child...its such a shame that some people have been brainwashed by what they see on Super Nanny. Children are little angels. The "bad" children are the results of the parents. Having a child is deeply rewarding...your legacy can go on and on for decades to come.
2007-01-26 19:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jujuchi 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not all kids are bad during their teens, so you may not want to stereotype. I was sorta bad, sorta good, my best friends was an angel when she was young, and I had one friend who was absolutely horrid as a teenager. Everyone is different. Also, a lot of kids don't take their parents money once they hit 18. My parents paid for my education, but I paid for everything else which came to $20 000 per year compared to the $8 000 spend on my education (including books). I am friends with some parents who charge their children rent as soon as they hit 18. Eighteenth birthday comes a long, and they pay a few hundred to keep their bedroom and to continue being fed at home. So don't generalize, parents spoil their children by choice, not because it automatically comes along with the parenting.
2007-01-26 19:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The concept of marriage and having children is thousands of years old---millions of people have millions of kids. The first and foremost thing is to be prepared for those kids---mentally ready to have and raise them. From day one they need food shelter, and diapers---and yes you feed them 3 or 4 times a day, then comes the years of school and learning to be social beings. The final outcome is they are now ready to go---they leave and raise their own kids--all from learning what they did from their parents. Of course it's worth it --if you were ready to have them. Me??? I never did because I didn't have the time to spend raising and teaching them all that a dad should contribute. The reward is the finished product---the kids are out their trying to make an honest life for themselves---all because of the lessons you taught them.
2007-01-26 21:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is rewarding for me. Changing diapers is nothing, and if you teach them right when they are young you won't have many problems when they are teenagers.
Also paying for them to go to college is a good thing. You want them to be smart enough to take care of you, when you become old and senile.
2007-01-26 19:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never know how great it is until you have one. There is no love like the love you will feel for your child. Just to look at a brand new set of fingers and toes and realize that YOU created that.....Watching them grow, seeing them learn, hearing them laugh, knowing that how they live their life depends on what you do, how you act and how much love you show them. It's the most challenging and rewarding experience you will ever have.
2007-01-26 19:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by ch323 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have that attitude then do the world a favor and DON'T have kids!!! There are plenty of people in the world who appreciate children in all their stages.
Personally, I have enjoyed being a mother and a grandmother ---even in hard times.
And BTW, where would YOU be if your parents had your attitude?
2007-01-27 00:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some days I have to wonder what my life might be like now without them its hard to imagine that though.They break or arms when their little and break your heart when they are older but what a great feeling it is to be a Nana (gran parent) at the end of the day
2007-01-26 20:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it was all worth it. it was hard work but at the end of it all, when i am old and look back at the life i led, i can always say my life was worth living if only just for that one reason...... having had my childen.
the reward comes from the fullfillment i received....from learning about myself and how much i am capable of loving and sacrificing for. i realized that i could love another unconditionally more than i love myself.....that if i had to make a choice between my life or theirs, their lives win hands up!
2007-01-26 19:24:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋