well you c my father died when i was a little gurl i was only about 6 or7 when it happend ...and its already going 2 be the 6th b-day i've haved without him what should i do... i mean it really makes me feel sooo bad tht my real farther can't be there for me... but i understand y though .....c after a party i've had without him i cry and cry soo much and then think ................tht my own farther can't even be there 4 me when i turn 15 .......and i just cry soo much when i think .....!!! i would do anything 2 just have at leats 1more time with him ..i 4got how it felt 2 have real dad...so will you please help me ...............................................................................................................................................................................
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please,and,thankyou:)
2007-01-26 18:59:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh,,but what he wants you to know is that he IS there watching from heaven. :O)
2007-01-26 19:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay listen up, nothing you can do will change the fact that he is gone, he cant be ther for you because he died but that dont mean he wanted you to be sad 24/7 live life do the things you wanna do dont spend your life moping around, you gotta move on, does not mean you gotta forget just live life and remember the good times when he was there, because at least you HAD your dad, some people never have the chance or to even have any parents, just be glad that your here and that your gonna live life so that he can watch you think that he has a really couragous strong minded child that he is very proud of, just make him proud, by living life
2007-01-26 19:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by innocentkitty2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop crying all the time sweetie.I'm sure on the day you were born your dad and mum would have been so proud of you and have such wonderful dreams in mind for your future.OK my dad is gone too, but I feel him watching over me in good times and bad you must pick yourself up because this is not what your father wants for you, he had plans and you must get on with life and make him and your mum so very proud of you. Its normal to feel sad it is bad however, you can not let it be the finish of you.
I think you need to go and get some counselling its good to speak to some one because its very important for you and your well being and make the most of the loved ones in your life still as death is a part of life for everyone.Be strong and smile every now and then your dad will see it and love it trust me
Good luck darlin
2007-01-26 20:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by deb m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I am my father's namesake. He died when I was 10. I had a terrible time for many years. However, I would often go to the cemetery and visit him, especially on special days. I always felt that he was there with me. I don't know if it will help you or not, but try going to the cemetery and talk to him. I know that he loves you as much as my dad loves me. He will be listening. I really don't think that they want us to feel so depressed. Just do things so that he is never forgotten. I always carry his picture, and now he even has a grandson. Although they aren't here with us, we will never forget them. So, they will never be forgotten.
"Be strong." That's what they would tell us, right?
Remember, we have to carry on their legacy. We are part of them and they are always in our hearts.
2007-01-26 19:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my Darling, I am so sorry for your pain.Sadly death is also a part of life.Try to remember all the special times you had together instead of the times that he will not be with you. Make your father proud by being a good human being and be strong.
He misses you just as much as you miss him. Look up in the skyes and send him a hug and a kiss.
2007-01-26 19:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by jenny h 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that and hope that time will heal you or at least make it easier. Just pray and know that you are praying with him. He will hear you! The one thing that you can be assured is that love never dies and if anything it just grows stronger as your tears fall. I know it may sound stupid and nothing will ever replace your dad but please take care of your mom and get counseling whenever you feel that you need it.
PS thanks for your question! It reminds me to love and appreciate those near to me as they will not be on earth forever.
2007-01-26 19:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my dad too, was really hard at 1st. What gives me comfort is knowing that he doesnt have to go through all the pain that we do who are stuck here on earth. I think my earthly dad left so that I could be closer too my spirtual dad(GOD). Take comfort that one day you will meet again and he stills sees you now, I have a angel tattoo that I got of my dad that way I think yeah i lost my dad but now i have another personal angel.
2007-01-26 19:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by lovely me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh
really i do sympathize with you
but what ever would not change any thing
you must and should know that any thing would not change that fact
crying wont do any thing to you
you must be strong
and what strong means here
it means to live life as it is
feel no different than any other person
to have the same rights as any other person
and not to feel that you are easy to break.what he would have stand for you
you must do for yourself
do not wait others even mum to do that for you on the contrary you must do your mum too many things
2007-01-26 19:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, there is nothing you can do. i hate to be so blunt, but be happy for the time you had with him. i lost my father at 5 months old..i never got to know him. undergo therapy to deal with these feelings that you may have never gotten fully out of your system. remember what you can, think of all the fond memories you have, and be grateful for having him in your life even for a short while, if you have a step father, and he is good to you..be grateful you have had two great father figures in your life to guide you. good luck.
2007-01-26 19:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by dreamzindigital_20 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i lost my dad when i was 10,an he was my best friend,,,but over the years i learn ,as long as i think of him,an keep him in my heart ,he always close,i sure you got friends that also hace great dad,may be you could spend time with them an their dad,but i glad to hear you did cry of the lost of your dad,for by doing that you are washing the soul,i wish i could tell you a answer to your problem,,,but i dont think any one got a true answer to it,,,, my self i find other kids with out dad an i try to be ,like a dad to them,,, an too rember this as long as you live your dad is a part of you, i sure your mom see you dad in you in many ways,
2007-01-28 23:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father will always be with you on every birthday of yours. He may be transparent but he is with you always! Yes your father will be with you on your 15 birthday and many more! Once we pass on to our real home we never leave or loved ones here on earth. They are with us forever. So please feel at peace knowing your father will always be with you. Have faith and always pray and talk to him! Take care sweetie!
2007-01-26 19:11:57 · answer #11 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋