2007-01-26 18:47:05 · 10 answers · asked by qwerty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"True love as in "A flawless relationship where we always get along and never disagree" is a fantasy, and a ******* waste of time. Actual love requires a great deal of work, and compromise. It involves staying together during the hard times and appreciating each other during the good times. It means that even if you're angry at them, even if you want to just pack your **** and get the hell outta Dodge, you don't because you know it's just a temporary problem. It means you're committed to staying together and working it out when you'd rather just give up.
Actual love involves trust and openness and honesty. It means letting go of your fears and your pride, and letting someone see you for who you really are. It means you have to be fearless, and it means you have to be tender. Actual love is understanding another person as well as -- or better than -- you understand yourself. Actual love is vulnerability.
And so many people are too afraid to open themselves to another person in that way, so they hide behind a mask of cynicism or anger or pain, and never have the courage to try and understand someone else. That, to me, is the real tragedy."
--Gogo Jojo--
At some point in time I found this posted on a forum and it stuck with me so well that I saved it to my computer. I hope it helps you out.
2007-01-26 18:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by Frank Edwards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Conflict is a part of any relationships. It shows your partner's true colors. A relationship with no conflict is kinda dangerous and impossible.
Relationships won't always be in happy mode. There are times when you will have a disagreement or big fights. The most important thing is how you bounce back from the conflicts. How the two of you are willing to sacrifice something for the sake of your relationship, so that the same problems will not create big conflicts.
2007-01-27 02:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Hengky W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got along all the time, it would not be a very good relationship because neither of you would be being honest with each other. There is no possible way that you can agree on every situation that occurs. If you don't argue it probably means that one person is just bottling the way they feel to avoid conflict. If you can't learn to disagree with each other in a good way, you will never learn how to work through big problems later in the relationship. Be yourself and don't ever hide that just to avoid a fight. Your partner obviously loves you for who YOU are. If you always agree, you will end up being exactly the same!!!
2007-01-27 02:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by ch323 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a relationship and you never have a conflict-something is awful wrong. People in love have conflicts too, it just that they can work it out better in a loving relationship than in a relationship where the love is diminishing.
2007-01-27 03:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by rosey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if anyone tells you different then they dont believe in love at all, your gonna have dramas your gonna think that they do things differently you may not like what they do or what they say sometimes you may be totally different and hate his style his music or her perfume of her friends or his work, but if you want to be with the one you love then you will have differneces, you just gotta learn to work them out with each other, and when you do find or have love or even work out your differneces it is such a beautiful thing you wont eva want to be anywhere else and you wont even be able to imagin being anywhere else but with the one you love.....
2007-01-27 02:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by innocentkitty2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its the opposite. If you care deeply about someone then you worry about them. No conflicts could be a sign of a bad relationsip.
2007-01-27 02:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will definitly know the difference between love and lust. you will have a whole new feeling towards this person. and one of the funny things about love is one min you love him and the next min he may do something that may have you hateing him at the same time
2007-01-27 02:56:42 · answer #7 · answered by misseshodges 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is full of drama...maybe no soap opera but everything has ups and downs and if it was perfect we'd wonder what was wrong...expect a few bumps and work together and communicate
2007-01-27 02:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by forchinadoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are always conflicts. It's how you handle them that's important.
2007-01-27 03:43:16 · answer #9 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually conflicts are part of any relationship....love or no love.
It is part of life
2007-01-27 02:51:23 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋