My friends introduced me to a friend of a friend online.
He and I got close while I was away overseas for work.
While talking online to him I realised my frieds had mad eme sound a lot thinner than I currently was while talking to him.
I did something really stupid & vain.
I sent him pics form 2 years ago when I was thinner.
He was absolutely crazy about the pics.
Whne I got back home from overseas he wanted to meet me badly. I put him off saying I was busy (which I was but was lame)
He seemed less enthusiastic the longer I put him offf but we still talked. I lost 20 lbs out of 50 I need to lose. But Im a small girl so 30lbs is big deal for me
Finally he gave me an ultimatum. I felt bad for putting him off so we went out. Too much alcohol and we ended up at his place and did IT. I didnt hear from afterwards. But thru a mutual friend I heard that he thought I could be gorgeous but was turned off that i was 'heavy up top' . He didnt tell me this as a reason for breaking it off.
2007-01-26 18:24:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said we had a great time but he and I are different.
what ever that meant.
Is there any chance with him if I get back to my goal weight ?
Im traveling for work and vacation an dleaving him alone for now.
Should I bother contacting him whe Im close to goal weight ? I dont want to be obvious about it. Im thinking of coyly mentioned i have new pics on my decorating website I run when Im skinnier.
Should I even bother trying to pique his interest again ? I know people will say he should like me for me. But I know there is a big difference between size 10 and size 4 (my current size and goal size) plus Im only 5'3 !
2007-01-26 18:27:58 · update #1
... What are you thinking!?!? :(
The reason he broke it off is because he had sex with you. Now that he got what he really wanted, he left.
He knew what he was doing.
And come on, this guy is SO lame! "I had sex with you but I was turned off" Come on, that doesn't even make SENSE!
Lame.
Edit: Now YOU are being the lame one, in my opinion!
You actually still WANT this guy!? Geeze, he lied and told you some stupid excuse too. [Just trying to help you out here, answering your question]
And he actually said that he "thought you could be gorgeous!?" Come on! Hahaha. What a little boy.
2007-01-26 18:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by Joshua 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he got what he wanted and that was that.
Your mutual friend may not have wanted to hurt your feelings by telling you the truth.
It is good that your losing weight and all but you shouldn't feel like you need to do it to gain a man, you should do it because it would make you feel like a better person for yourself.
If I were in your shoes I would just move on and chalk him up as just an experience because honey I think that is what he has done with you.
Good luck on your goal weight and I hope you find someone that will appreciate you for all you are worth.
2007-01-27 02:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bother with him. Too many weird things in the beginning preventing you from getting off to a good start. Wait it out for someone who you don't have a history of deception with and that would be respectful enough to show some restraint instead of sleeping with you........especially since he was "turned off" by your appearance. If that was the case then why did he get his willy out to begin with. He's a dog!!
2007-01-27 02:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by squealy68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's such a vain guy who you should NOT stick around with because guys like that don't stick around when real emergencies happen & you need him. Forget about him, he needs to find himself a doll or something.
2007-01-27 02:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about him..
When you get down to a size 4 again,
you will have your choice of guys..
2007-01-27 02:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, he wanted to meet you only because he thought you were gourgeous. so when you never heard from him anymore, it means that he thinks you're not! why would you want to be with him still? give yourself some respect. don't run after a guy who obviously wants looks and sex only.
2007-01-27 02:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi.
I have read your story.
But I think you have done wrong think that you should meet with him. When u appear infront of him .......1% chance is that he will eccept u and 99% chance he did not.
this mean of talking
He will understand u or not.
U know that you have done a bad think to him.
I don't know what happend with him. He is poor .............very poor
2007-01-27 02:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by Rohan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lieing about your weight was wrong but he doesnt sound like much man if he took advantage of you just for sex and then dumped you sounds pretty low to me move on its what inside that counts
2007-01-27 02:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by rthroener 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find someone who accepts you for yourself. This guy was to callus to even tell you to your face why he didn't want to see you anymore.
2007-01-27 02:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't want a person that dosen't want you, why be with them? i'm sure you will find an even better guy that won't pressure you into something,
2007-01-27 02:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by brandonjb2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋