(Our dads are 1/2 brothers) My cousin gave birth to twins 4 years ago. I have had permenant custody of them for the last 2 1/2 years and off and on before that. I also have custody of their little sister who I've had her whole life. These chidlren were placed in my care by Child Protective Services. Even though I have permenant custody, the state gave her visitation rights. The court order reads that she is to be supervised by her mother during the visits, and her boyfriend that abused the children is not allowed to be around them. The very first visit after we got the court order, I found out that she left the kids alone with the guy they are not supposed to be around, her mother doesnt supervise them and when the kids came home one of them had a knot on his forhead. I refuse to send them back, if she wants to see them she has to come to my home. I will not let her take them over night. Am I doing the right thing?
2007-01-26 18:23:57 · 17 answers · asked by childrenrthefuture97 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Morally - Yes, I would do the same thing
Legally - If she is not holding up her side of the court order, You need to report that to the courts. She will then get visitation revoked. If you impose on your own, and not send the kids (it is court ordered) without the proper paperwork from the courts, you could actually get in trouble for not holding up your end of the court order -
As much as you don't like it, you have to send the kids unless you go back to the court and tell them what she is doing. Make sure you keep really good notes, get a journal, put down times, days, who is there, who picks them up - everything = also take pictures of them before they leave and when they come back (with date/time stamp) This will all help build your case to revoke visitation.
Good luck
2007-01-26 18:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by Stasi 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i sounds like you are doing the right thing. Just be sure you are going about it the right way.
I would encourage you to make sure that the CPS folks know exactly what happened, if you have not already contacted them. Your cousin did not obey the court order, and as a result she could lose all visitation rights. Talk with the CPS caseworker and explain why the court order needs to be modified so the children do not leave your care, even for a short time. It is their job to help you provide the best care possible for the kids.
2007-01-26 18:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by sandyblondegirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are doing the right thing if she trys to take legal action about it just tell them that you want supervised visits by a social worker and they should grant it good luck with everything and don't let anything happen to those kids that they do not deserve and i really do think you are doing the right thing.
2007-01-26 18:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by just bored 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are but you should go back to your lawyer & have the visitations changed or you might get in trouble with the courts.What a judge orders is what your suppose to do have it changed. You should also call the Child Protective Services & tell them what happened.
2007-01-26 18:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by Sandra H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. The children's welfare is the most important thing. If your cousin really cared about those kids, she wouldn't have let him go any where near him. I suggest you call child protective services and report it immediately, otherwise they may say that you're not the one following the court order.
2007-01-26 18:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by avivafae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without conversing to CPS, you cant legally benefit any custody of her. you could instruct that the atmosphere she is in is risky to her. And, you could instruct which you supplies a extra appropriate option. First, you could checklist the residing subject to CPS. Then, you may get a homestudy executed (consult with an adoption enterprise, they are going to get it working for you). If CPS removes your cousin from the domicile, their fist attempt would be to place her with family contributors. in case you have the homestudy executed, you will improve your possibilities of procuring her.
2016-11-01 09:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,,of course you are & make the court aware of the situation if need be.Do not let her play the pity card on you either.If she gets angry,,oh well,,the children must come first.Bless your heart for taking care of the children.
2007-01-26 18:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you are doing the right thing. They are children and they need to be protected! If I was in your situation I would have done the same thing.
2007-01-26 18:28:28 · answer #8 · answered by Sakora 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At all costs, protect the children; Your the responsible adult here, your doing the right thing. Document everything from now on.
2007-01-26 18:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by striden22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you are
all 3 of them disobey the court order, if something happen to these children you will feel guilty and knowing what you do the court might make you responsible
2007-01-27 05:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋