My ex fiance left me and came back when I was with another person. When he came back I was hurt and devestated and also moving. I tried to hook up him and my best friend because they both seemed to like eachother (yes I'm aware that this a BIG mistake). He rejected all her advances. I love this guy and he loves me. He hasn't been with anyone else since we've parted, and my best friend says she understands and supports us but she's become kinda bitter about it. What can I do to fix this. She's been my best friend for 11 years, and I can't imagine life without my ex.
2007-01-26 18:07:39 · 13 answers · asked by Tasha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By bitter she is constantly saying it's ok for us to be together, but then getting depressed and speaking of how she's going to be alone forever and overall being mopy...
2007-01-26 18:18:37 · update #1
We did not leave eachother because of lieing or cheating...our relationship ended because he didn't have time for me in his life. He goes to college and even though we live in the same city he seemed to be constantly busy. We'd sometimes go weeks without seeing eachother and it upset me and we started fighting all the time. He couldn't take the fighting and he said he needed to figure out his life...so he went and did that.
2007-01-26 18:23:42 · update #2
We've been together on/off for 4.5 years now.
2007-01-26 18:24:45 · update #3
Ok, you already know that you made a mistake with your ex and best friend. Apparently though, your best friend got her hopes up and your ex was not interested. Now your friend has to observe someone she likes,(your ex) go after HER best friend,( you). The roles are somewhat reversed. Have you decided to get back with your ex? Maybe your ex and best friend was a way to keep them both near you while still being with your new beau.Time itself can fix things.If she is your friend she will continue to support you and him. There is not irrepairable damage here.
2007-01-26 18:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by LORD BALTIMORE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all it depends on some of the parameters. If you are 18-20 I would advise spending a long time thinking about it before you do anything on impulse, as many young marriages end in divorce (not meaning to be gloom, but factual).
Also, the fact you need to look at is the cheat factor. If you two broke up because one of you slept with someone else and/or constantly lied to the other, you need to ask yourself if you would be ok living like this the rest of your life for love.
If this was not the case of the breakup, then there may be hope.
If the breakup is because of issues such as - abuse, alcoholism, drug abuse etc.. there is professional counseling that can mend these problems to prevent further bumps in the road of life, and I would advise it.
I guess the main point I am getting at is that a solid foundation of a relationship is hard work, period. Even the "happy" couples have struggled to build a solid form of communication and trust through tense, and even angry moments with eachother, but this anger is a form of direct communication, and is actually much more progressive than lying to eachother and saying "everything's fine..." when it's not.
My advice is to ask yourself if you are ready to take a huge step in the direction of being extremely serious, and if he is also, and if so, I'd go for what your heart feels the most.
2007-01-27 02:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by twocircuits 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is what makes you happy if your happy then nothing else matters. I know this is kinda a modest approach but you cant please everyone if you do still love your ex fiance then i say give it a chance i dont know the reasons for leaving him and maybe thats why the friend is kinda upset that your parting with him. But if he did nothing wrong and you broke up mutually then i dont see whats wrong with you giving him the chance he deserves. Your friend isnt truly your friend if she cant accept the fact that you are in love with your fiance everyone in life deserves a chance spend some time apart from both of them and figure out what you want to do and know truly in your heart what matters more your friendship or being with the one you love. Even though your friend should get over it with time.
2007-01-27 02:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by DreamAgain 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all.......if he left u......he doesnt deserve u.....he just came back n realized what he left behind......but the truth is that he's not worth u ruining a good relationship with a current huby.........what u should do is walk around like he isnt important to u becuz u have a life without him n he has to deal with it whether he likes it or not.....but if u love him enough take the chance because u never know............he probably came back just for u n is sorry for acting so stupid for leaving u............but think about this as u make ur decision.......what proof do u have that he hasnt been with anyone?how will u know that he wont hurt u again n leave hanging?
2007-01-27 02:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by lalgita12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you knew that you still had feelings for him why would you even attempt to hook him up with your best friend.
I don't know what you could do to possibly fix this one, you have hurt your friend badly by setting her up to be rejected and then your wanting the ex back.
I'm really sorry but this has made you out to be the bad person, I know you may not really be a bad person but you need to take a walk in your friends shoes.
2007-01-27 02:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They never even had a romantic relationship.You did. You're obviously a big hearted person.
He doesn't like her. He likes you. You like him. You have history together. They don't.
If she has a problem with that...she needs to grow up.
Best of luck to you.
2007-01-27 02:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by KarenS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move ahead with your ex. It sounds like your friend supports you. In time, especially when she finds that someone special she will get over it.
2007-01-27 02:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by ME 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would your friend be bitter? Just give it some time, and let things sort it self out.
2007-01-27 02:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him gf! If it didnt work once it wont work again and as for your bestie, she should stay away too you both gotta let go and move on its the only way you will all be happy! Never look back
2007-01-27 02:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by innocentkitty2006 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why did he leave you?
Your friend should stay away from him!
If you want to be with him and he's made it clear to her he doesnt want your friend.....
She should stay away from him and has no right to be bitter. it s her problem, not yours.
2007-01-27 02:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by **twin** 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋