this guy and i have been dating for quiet a while...we've had sex..but now i feel like thats all he wants...i mean hes a really sweet, loving guy but i dont want to be his girlfriend any more...he just wrote me this LONG message about how much he loves me like an hour ago and we've been through ALOT...we broke up and JUST got back together 5 days ago but i feel like i made a HUGE mistake...how should i break up with him?? i want him to understand how i feel but he wont take it well so wats a good sweet way to call it off?? any advise would be GREAT!!!
thanks
2007-01-26 18:03:48 · 8 answers · asked by Alisonnnnn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's less hurtful if you can make it sound as though it's got nothing to do with him.
"It's just not the right time for me...;" "I like you, but I can't have a relationship right now;" "You would have been perfect at another time of my life."
Make sure you don't lie though. And try to make it very definite if that is what you want it to be. It's real torture if people separate and get together again many times because No! doesn't mean No! anymore.
One way to get that clarity is to ask for a total time-out, like no communication for 3 or 6 months.
Good luck to you. Won't be easy.
2007-01-26 18:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you got a tough one there. Sadly when somebody loves you there really isn't a good way to break up. Nobody likes to get dumped its just a fact of life. However you shouldn't live a lie either and stay with him if theres nothing there for you. The wrong thing to do would be to ignore him and hope that he could take the clue but the right thing to do would to be honest and open with him about how you feel, At least this way you are being true to yourself and though the truth will probably hurt him it is better to end a relationship on good terms even though the truth hurts then to end a relationship immaturely and cause more pain then needs to be dealt. My only advice to you is in the future with new relationships make sure that the relationship is ready for sex because sex is very powerful it can bring two people closer together and at the same time it can destroy the relationship if its not the right time...
2007-01-27 02:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by Steven K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel that all he wants is sex. That is not enough reason to break up with a guy. There is more to it and you know it. He has to be told so that he understands what you are saying. There is no easy way, but he can't leave unless he knows why and that it is not a subject open for discussion.
Don't tell him that a really sweet loving guy. That gives out mixed signals.
2007-01-27 02:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell him you have issues that you need to work out alone. Tell him that you are having problems in your life and you don't wanna cause him any pain,or tell him you wanna be celebant(no sex),you are working on your spirtual self and you need to be alone. If he wont go for that just tell him the truth,
2007-01-27 02:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by lovely me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you feel your lives are going in different directions right now, and you want to pursue where yours is taking you on your own.
2007-01-27 02:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth and then give him (and yourself) space. For a while. Don't expect him to be your friend right away.
2007-01-27 02:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship should be 50/50... Tell him you're not rdy to contribute and you feel it's unfair for him to haul more than his weight
2007-01-27 02:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by HopelessOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you love him but you are not inlove with him anymore.
2007-01-27 02:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by cutiepieaww 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋