By the grace of God, i have a loving husband and one child. Now i am 31 weeks pregnant.
Actually there is no one to support us morally. My parents take every step to hurt us. You know, my father and i am not talking with each other for the last 7 months.
His parents are also very selfish and mean.
Most often we feel as if we are breaking down inside. Is anyone else such kind of situation ?
2007-01-26 17:59:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We all have times when things look dark for us. You may not have a lot of support from your families,but you have each other.Keep your faith in God and in yourselves.You'll get through it.
2007-01-26 18:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very sad to read that you are in such a situation. It is sometimes diffucult to give a good advice or opinion for other people's lives. For sure prayer will help to make you know what you should do in such a situation or that your parents may have a change of heart. Have you spoken with your husband about this? What does he think the two of you ought to do? How about good friends of yours? What do they think? The only thing that I could tell you is that if the situation you are writing about is so bad, either maybe have a talk with your parents and his parents and tell them how both of you feel and how their mean behavior affects you. If this does not help, then maybe you two ought to distance yourselves from your parents, no matter how hard this might be for you. At the end you might be better off and you might find good friends which will give you some moral support. If you are married and you have your own family it is so nice if your own birthfamily and the birthfamily of your husband supports you two morally. That is the ideal and that is beautiful. Unfortunatelly, obviously, this is not always the case. Save your little family if talking to your parents does not help. You seem to have so much going for you with your loving husband, one child and a child that is on its way. Stick to your own family and maybe you might be better off, no matter how hard it might be on you at the beginning to distance yourself from your birthfamilies. This is only the advice and opinion of an outsider I want to remind you.
2007-01-27 05:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by dawndusk2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you have a good relationship with your husband. You have a lovely family together and another member on the way congrats. You need to concentrate on your life and if both your parents want to be mean let them be mean to eachother and enjoy what you have been blessed with. The best thing that you can do is make sure you and your husband are always there for your children and give them what your parents haven't given you. Good Luck. I did it you can and my children are doing wonderful. I excepted that I was on my own. And I made sure that my children never had to experience that aweful feeling of no support from people that were always suppose to be there no matter what.
2007-01-27 02:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! I am 32 weeks pregnant. I live with my grandmother right now, and lets just say, i would rather get the silent treatment from her. His family doesnt like me because i am white and they think white people and lazy and dont have the right morals. my parents only way of support is by telling me to move home (450 miles away from my man) so they can help me take care of the baby. I totally know how you feel about being alone!! I just think of the future. When my daughter is born, even if my man is at work, she will love me and be by my side. She will always look up to me, and she will count on me.
btw... congrats!
2007-01-27 02:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by March Mommie 07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your own family...your husband and your children. Their happiness and well being is your primary concern. If others are hateful and mean ..feel sorry for them. Their selfishness and meanness is only causing them to lose the pleasure of watching their grandchildren grow up. It is truly their loss. Surround yourself with people you love who love you and support you right back.
2007-01-27 02:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by Miami Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
limit the involvement of your parents in your lives and personal affairs. the more power you give them the more they might control your affairs. limit the time you spend with them, what you say to them and what you let them say to you. be calm and cordial and kind whenever possible. use the strength of your love for each other to carry on. peace
2007-01-27 02:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would think your loving husband should be your source of encouragement and self confidence and praise.....don't feel bad for a second about not having your parents in your life.....they will try to manipulate you and run your marriage in the ground
2007-01-27 02:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your non supportative parents.. Stay strong... I wish you guys the very best .. u will do fine :)
2007-01-27 02:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean by the folks, yes!
I's say to pray long and hard for the solace that you need!
2007-01-27 02:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋