My boyfriend left for Boot Camp like 2 months ago, and just the other day he found out that hes not coming home, he got recruted to a naval base in alabama. He keeps sending me letters saying he would understand if i didnt want to wait for him, cause they want him to be there about 8 months, but then on myspace hes always talking about how much he loves me and how he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Then on the phone some days hes sweet others hes rude and others he doesnt even want to talk to me... I love him but i dont want to hold him back from his career, and hes always saying he will just quit, but he has wanted to be a coast guard since he could walk... should i feel guilty? Please just what would you do, or what do you think?
2007-01-26 17:52:56 · 8 answers · asked by beezerbear90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow dude. your man needs your support now more than ever. if you were to quit on him, that would be selfish and you would feel much more guilt. if you guys truely love eachother, then so be it. he'll be gone for eight months. that'll only make you guys stronger in the long run. i have been seperated from my girl of 2 yrs for about 7 months one time, without being able to see her at all. given, this isn't quite eight months, but its close. when we saw eachother again, it was magical. it's still magical when i wake up with her in the morning. relationships are built on strength, and he needs you to keep his up. the military is hard for men, and even harder for family men. it creates distance between the ones they love, and there's nothing they can do about it. don't you think this is stressing him out? cuz it really is. that's why he's flipping out sometimes. he might have doubts that you won't want to wait for him, and he's trying to be the better person and tell you its okay if you don't want to wait. for real though...its not okay to him. he'd be crushed. don't do that to him. what you guys have now is the best he'll have untill you guys see eachother. just hold on...its not going to be easy. but love conquers all. you believe that and you'll be fine. trust me, he wants you to stay with him....
2007-01-26 18:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by zeek 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hon,,,,,,he is a good strong man. But you can imagine going off to boot camp and being shipped out with the way the world is today.Be proud that he is man enough to serve his country. Let him know that. He has mixed feelings....excited, scared, lonely, entrigued. He has mixed feelings about you.......if you wait, can he be the one for you, if you don't will he be broken hearted?
It takes a very special woman to stand by her man while he serves his country. You either have it in you or you don't.
If you truely love him..do what your heart tells you. Perhaps the two of you should agree to wait, but if one of you can't, then let the other one know. I have a feeling you will wait for him. Maybe you can get marrid and you can at least be closer to him
2007-01-26 18:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for a military man to push people away when they leave town. He is just trying to protect you from the pain of separation,giving you an "out".
Give it some time. If down the road you still have these feelings for him,you can always get in touch with him and see if things have changed on his part.If the love is there,it will keep till you have your answer.
2007-01-26 18:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by mopjky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm no just stay with him k? u'll make him really sad if you broke up with him even though he said he'll understand if u dont wanna wait for him . He needs some support from u and he needs to feel that ull be there for him whenever and no matter what. he needs that especially right now that u guys are apart. just stay with him k ?
2007-01-26 18:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm u could try giving him space, altho i did that to my bf and the second i did that he decided that we needed to break up so if he means alot to u then talk to him about it. maybe he just needs a break where he doesnt have to worry about calling u and making sure ur ok and stuff that guys have to deal with with girs....if u know what i mean. sometimes giving them a break is helpful. but 8 months is a long time, so if he's worth it to u, then wait for him and try to make his life easier for him and be understanding when he's upset or rude
2007-01-26 17:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by foreveryoung 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
working for the government in the armed forces or similar is not an easy thing to do. first and foremost you were his friend. don't let that change. he is going to be wishy washy while he's out to seas. your going to get tired of it. but deep down inside what does your heart tell you.
2007-01-26 17:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by sunshyne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's having an emotional time. stand by your man.
2007-01-26 17:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a break, and once his done if your meant to be you'll hook back up, if you are not meant to be, than ....
2007-01-26 17:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by Erik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋