i normally spend the weekends with my boyfriend. last saturday when i called him up he said he was busy over the wekend and a bussiness asociate of his would be staying over to finish off a very important project.
i decided to give him a surprise, on sunday morning i prepared a special breakfast and went to his place. i rang the doorbell, when he opened the door he was wrapped in sheet, i could make out there was nothing inside. his face looked as if he was about to die of shock, and he asked how r u here so early.. by his was of behaving i got suspicious nd pushed him and walked inside to the bedroom.
sure enough there was someone all covered up on the bed, there were ladies clothes & sandals stewn all over.. i pulled the sheet of over that sleeping person in anger and there was agirl without clothes.
i left in a huff and did not conatct my guy after that, he tried to call and gave multipls text msgs saying sorry he didnt men to cheat on me and to forgive him
what do i do now ?
2007-01-26 17:37:55 · 34 answers · asked by Dr. Angel Priya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the truth is i love him very much and cannot live without him, but i cannot forgive him for betraying me and the faith i had in him. i am shattered.. cushed and want to die.
2007-01-26 17:39:35 · update #1
trust me you're better of without him ...he spent the whole weekend having sex with this girl ...he's just sorry he got caught....if he loved you he would never cheat on you
2007-01-26 17:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by BunnyHop75 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first off he has broken the trust that you had for him and unfortunately once the trust goes out the window 9 times out of 10 so does the relationship. If you were to get back with him it would take alot of work to put things back together and theres always going to be that feeling in the back of your mind that he is up to no good. I know this is not an easy thing to go through as I've been through it myself and it will take time for you to heal emotionally. The bottom line is all men know that cheating is wrong and some still do it , the excuse I didn't mean to cheat on you is pretty pathetic. You sound like a really sweet woman and I'm sorry that this guy doesn't know how to appreciate you. Though it is hard to move on I think it is in your best interest to let this one go for awhile and in the mean time stay busy, go to church, or surround yourself with people that you like to be around just dont participate in activities that compromise the integrity of who you are... Good luck
2007-01-26 17:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by Steven K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually cheated on my wife while we were seperated and its the worst feeling in the world! I wasn't thinking to clearly since i was drinking at the time too and other things like us being seperate didn't help either, but i cheated on her and it was the wrong thing to do! We are still together and even thought it was over 3 years ago it still gets held against me from time to time but we have been together for over 13 years and out of that we are celebrating our 5 year wedding anniversary this coming febuary! All I can say to possibly help you out is that sometime us men make a terrible mistake and not think about the problems they will cause in the future, But if you really love him and you know that he loves you even though what he did was wrong and he is sorry for it, give him another chance but put a wall up between you and him and over time the wall will slowly come down and you can truely trust him again!
2007-01-26 17:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by Matt & V C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. Do not answer his phone calls or his texts. Once a cheater always a cheater. I dated a guy for almost 3 years. Found out he was dating another woman. I forgave him and I found out he was still seeing her. You make think you can't live without him but truth is you can. I loved that man very much and I didn't know what I was going to do without him. Now I've been to school twice and I couldn't be happier. His loss will be another man's gain, who will appreciate you and love you for the wonderful person you are. It's going to hurt for awhile but trust me time heals all wounds. Best of luck.
2007-01-26 17:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and move on. I know it's easier said than done, but you don't need to be treated like that. There are many people out there who will treat you with the respect you deserve. If you stay with him do you think you could live with the fact that he has cheated on you? Would you wonder if he'd do it again or has done it again? In my opinion, trust is one of the most important things in a relationship and he just seriously violated that.
2007-01-26 17:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by patchouligirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To forgive is divine. I'm not sure if I could forgive my girl if I found her cheating. My best advice to you is to take him back, if he agrees to go with you to couples counseling. Two reasons: 1. Whatever made him feel the need to cheat could get resolved and 2. No guy wants to go and talk to a shrink (or other 3rd party) about his problems...SO if your guy agrees he must really, really love you (and maybe this was just a one time thing).
That said, everyone I know who has cheated did has done it multiple times. Tread carefully, I hope everything works out for you.
2007-01-26 17:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously does not consider your love as important. He was unfaithful and dishonest, and who knows how many other times he did this to you. It does not make him a bad person but its plain to see that he is not ready for a committed relationship. I would tell you to let him go and find someone that will truly love and respect you, but I know from experience that you will probably forgive him and take him back. If you do that all you are saying is that its ok for him to cheat since you will probably forgive him anyway, if you're going to do that don't even bother getting upset.
2007-01-26 17:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what to do, but I can tell you what I would do.
He betrayed the trust of the relationship. I'd dump him in an instant and move on. And sweetie you may love him, and there's nothing wrong with still caring about him, but if the realtionship isn't going to be a good, honest one, you can do better for yourself. You're worth more than that. Take care and I hope things work out.
2007-01-26 17:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by wonderer152 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's really up to you. do you still love her? Do you want her to stay with you? does she want to stay with you? The two of you need to discuss it. You need to let her know how you feel about what she did. You need to find out how serious she is about this other man. You need to find out whether it is worth the two of you staying together. It is not something anyone else can decide for you. However, remember, if you 'play' like she did, someone else's feelings are involved as well (whoever you 'play' with).
2016-05-24 04:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you CAN live without him, second, I'd dump him for good. If he thinks he can cheat and you take him back it will continue. And yes he did mean to cheat otherwise he wouldn't have done it. He'll probably hurt you again if you take him back. As far as being mad at the other woman, just remember he might not have told her he was involved with someone else, he very well could have played the both of you.
2007-01-26 17:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by Just Me 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
trust me u dont want to die . and since u love him give him another chance. heres my real advice: sometimes its just physacle attraction and he doesnt really like the other person they just make him want to ..well you know.but im sure he feels the same way about you otherwise he would have kept going out with that other girl.give him a chance and see what happens but if it happens again he should be sorry, its just not right to cheat. well there you go sorry about the leangth but i got the point accross
2007-01-26 18:00:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋