At the risk of sounding like a teenager, I need some advice on a certain man. This guy calls me sometimes several times a day. We talk every day. He constantly asks me if I have feelings for him beyond friendship. BUT he sleeps with random women so I'm sort of wary. The other thing that bothers me is he tried getting me in bed and I told him not outside of relationships and he said he respects that. I find it hard to feel out if he's just trying to tell me what I want to hear or if he's genuine. He told me he's stopped seeing his "friends with benefits" and he wants to find a good girl. He's even shared some very personal information with me and I was shocked. So what's everyone's opinion here. Is it possible he is just trying to get me in bed as a sort of challenge?
2007-01-26 17:30:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
scaring me? what?
2007-01-26 17:38:17 · update #1
shees, what are you accomplishing by calling me dumb? Just looking for some opinions.
2007-01-26 17:45:04 · update #2
He tried to get me in bed right when we first met but we've been friends for a few months now. we haven't dated but we flirt alot.
2007-01-26 17:46:06 · update #3
to really find out you'd have to give more details about what he does. but it really does sound more like he just wants to get you in bed. he tells you what you need to hear like he's giving up his friends with benefits, because he knows you are a more serious girl. he keeps asking if you see him as more than a friend, probably because he wants to know if its even remotely possible that you'd sleep with him. the fact that he insists on it by constantly ask you however, makes me think thatif he'd really genuily like you and not just physically, he'd be more shy and quiet about it instead of always putting it out there. now the fact that he shared personal info that you believe he wouldnt be sharing with half the world sounds like a good thing. but this doesnt necessarily means he likes you that way, it could just mean that he's comfortable enough with you to share things like that and could maybe be using them to his advantage in making you believe that you are special in that more than friends way. another thing: if you are confused about his intentions is because you have reason to doubt them. he's confusing you and you feel like something's not right. thats why you're here on yahoo answers asking about it.
dont rush things, take it slowly. if he really has good intentions then you will be able to tell as the time goes by. dont worry, you wont have to wait too long to see lol. something that he'll say or do will be all you need to realize the truth.
2007-01-26 17:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that he's telling the truth and it's possible that you're a mountain he's yet to conquer--more likely the latter.
It is also possible, and it has truly happened, that such men really settle down when the "right girl" came along. What makes you think that you're it? That you're going to beat the odds?
Either way, this guy's attention and flattery towards you are clearly working.
Do you have some Neosporin on hand for when you get burned?
Are you willing to live with niggling doubts, perform CSI work as my friend feels compelled to do with her husband when stuff ain't adding up quite right? Is this the guy you really want to let get embedded under your skin and then risk your heart for?
2007-01-27 01:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by answerme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh... DUH!!!!!!
and now ur making excuses because u want him...
hmmm... not too bright.
...I didn't say dumb, I said, 'no too bright'. He obviously likes a challenge. A huntin' man, I'd say. If he really just wanted YOU, then he would have stopped sleeping with the random girls a LONG time ago. He would have put all of his energy and focus on YOU. Aren't you reading what everyone else is saying?
Of course he is still persuing you. He likes the challenge and it is fun. he also probably sees how much closer he is to getting what he wants. All the time thinking, 'she KNOWS that I sleep with everyone else, 'cause I tell her (red flag), and yet she still wants me, ha!'.
2007-01-27 01:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by shees_a_challenge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your smart. Yes there is a chance he could be just tryin to get you into bed, but there is also a chance he might like you, ive never met the boy but i can tell you that guys are very sneaky, and if their desperate enough, they will go to all lengths to get what they want, tell him that your willing to try a relationship with him but your putting the sex on pause for a little while, see how he reacts an go from there, if he gets fusterated, ditch him, hes just in it for the sex, if he tells you he respects that and hes willing to wait, than hes got something for you, it is hard to tell what a guy really wants cuz their hard headed fools lol. but im sure you'll figure it all out, just dont let yourself get hurt, thats the last thing i or yourself im sure wants.
I wish you the best :)
2007-01-27 01:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by Erica R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think so. If he keeps asking you if you have feelings for him, he is obviously interested in you. It could be he was flaunting to you the fact he was sleeping with other girls was to get you jealous so you would make a move and tell him that you like him. See, sex is sex, and he probably has realized that. In a relationship you get lots of sex AND you get to cuddle and spend time together and actually get to know the person, which is what he is probably looking for.
2007-01-27 01:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is telling you just what you want to know in order to get what he wants. And it may involve lies about personal things to make you think he is human.. Don't believe him -- run as fast as you can and get away from him. There is only one thing he is looking for and when he gets it he will kick you to the curb and if not keep you around for the days when he can't get it else where's.
2007-01-27 01:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon I use that same line when I wanna toss a new piece of furniture... stay away from this guy, obviously he's been with plenty of girls/women that he's a smooth talker, don't fall for it, have him prove to you by having him take you out and introducing you to his other friends to see any visual cues or exagerrated eye contact or other signs of intimacy.
2007-01-27 01:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by Rich M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be , but tell him you like him and want to see how the relationship works between you too without sex first. If he waits for you then hes true..if not move on you can do better.
2007-01-27 01:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by honestanswer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that he just want to get you in bed have that in mind if a guy really love you, sex would be the last think on their mind they would want to be around all the time take you out, talk to you long hours on the phone, sex might happen depend on the moment he won't force you to do anything unless that what you willy want
2007-01-27 01:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by Marie E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date him for awhile longer than you normally would to test him out. Don't sleep with him right away. If he was in it just for the sex and he's not getting it right away he'll get bored and go find new playthings . . . no harm no foul .. and if he's not in it just for sex he'll think of you as that good girl even more because .. "omg she held out on sex for awhile longer than i'm used to"
2007-01-27 01:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by massure4hire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋