The problem is he told a friend of mine this in confidence and I'm not supposed to know about it. First he told him he had feelings for me but wasn't going to let himself "go there" (cuz he's married). Well now he's getting divorced and he told my friend that he is going to "explore" his feelings for me. I'm not sure what to do here. Any advice????
2007-01-26 17:21:59 · 12 answers · asked by ♥☠Madame Joker☠♥ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let him get his divorce and see if he" goes there" on his own and explore things. maybe he'll make a move once he is divorced. Act just as normal and act as if you didn't know anything becuase your friend could get into big trouble for telling you that. good luck
2007-01-26 17:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by celinuchis90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. I know it sounds harsh but I'm telling you , if he wants to explore his feelings that means his going to play you for dummy. His going to let you think your the only one his seeing. He may have told this guy that just to use him to get the news to you. This keeps him from any obligations to you. If you see him out with someone how do you think its going to make you feel? All he has to do is tell you he never told you he was seeing just you. There's no telling what he'll say but it won't be what you want to hear or think he should say. If you beat him to the punch you may have a better chance of keeping him. Tell him that you've been thinking that it might be a good idea if he saw other people right now instead of just you. Tell him you just want him to be for sure that you two are right for each other and since his been in this marriage you think he should take some time to enjoy some freedom. His going to take it anyway so why not let him hear you tell him to first. He'll get a bit antsy that you don't have a problem with him going out, and he'll start thinking why you are so understanding about it. Don't let him know it really bothers you cause the minute he knows it does his got control over you. Then when you see him with someone no matter how much it hurts have a good time anyway and flirt with other guys. Love is a game and in order to win it you have to out smart your competition and the one your after.
2007-01-26 17:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the ink dry on the divorce papers first. then take it from there. Trust me. Getting a Divorce is not the same as a divorce.
And, have you thought it through? What's wrong with the relationship that it's ending? It's not just his wife's a witch, I'm sure there are issues. There's always issues.
2007-01-26 17:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by BIGDAWG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! NO! NO!
If his marriage isn't working, he needs to deal with that before he sets his sights on someone new. This allows him to respect his marriage, his wife, and you... and more importantly, he'll get out of the marriage with his integrity intact.
Besides, you don't want that sort of guilt hanging over you. The fact that you're reluctant says to me that you're not totally comfortable with the whole thing. Give it lots of time... and keep your distance. If after he gets things sorted out, one way or another, if he still want you after his divorce then it was meant to be.
2007-01-26 17:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by i_tunes_junkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really LOVE him and he really loves u I think that u both r 2 just follow your hearts & be 2gether if you'll really love each other & make sure u do what it takes 2 keep him happy and he do what it takes 2 keep u happy. LOVE is a HIGH AND IT FEELS LIKE YOU'RE FLOATING ON AIR. AND IF LOVES THAT GOOD JUST HOLD ON 2 IT!
2007-01-26 17:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by Tameka F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand? If you really have feelings for him, than go after him when he is free. But remember not to come on too strong. After all, he just got divorced. You don't want to be his rebound girl.
2007-01-26 17:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby,he only wants to explore the inside of your ******. I'm a married man, so I should know.
2007-01-26 17:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just keep everything to your self, until he get the divorce, then
may you and he can get together, but for know keep things
simple.
2007-01-26 17:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be his rebound booty-call, throw yourself at him.
2007-01-26 17:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him out
2007-01-26 17:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by B R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋