What should you do if you or a loved one was assaulted sexually with a hairbrush?

Question

It happened six years ago.

Also, the only proof is the victim's inabilty to have children.

Answer 1

I just looked at your profile and looked at all the questions you have been posting here. This is going to sound a little nuts, but I am really proud of you for reaching out. Keep doing it. Tell your story until it has been exhausted and you don't want to tell it any more. Find a new therapist, but don't leave the one you are with until you do.

Everyone reacts differently to trauma and unfortunetly no one is going to have the "magic bullet" answer that is going to make this trauma disapear from your conciousness. But you do have the power to reclaim your life, your sense of self, your dignity and you are making steps towards doing exactly that. There is more going on then just the hairbrush"incident", there is a death of trust and a rape of innocence. You are allowed to mourn those things. You are allowed to get angry.

Have you tried any support groups? There are people who are trained to help you, probably better than I can or anyone else on these boards. There is the Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN) and you can find them at www.rainn.org or there are quite a few local rape crissis centers that are listed when I googled "rape hotline" to give you some tips, so depending on where you are you could try one of them. Or try one from a different state if you live in a small town where you are afraid of your business becoming public knowledge. Just please keep trying.

I can tell how much pain you are in and how badly you'd like it to end. Do not give up. Ever.

Answer 2

I was thinking about this also. You need to have your doctor check you out and make sure that is why you can't have children and that you aren't sterile. You also should talk to your doctor about the situation because they can personally and privately tell you the medical risks of this and then they can also alert the authorities for you. It would be a terrible thing if the person who did this to you made it so you couldn't have children. You also need to stop this person so they don't do it to anyone else from here on and if you know of other people that this person has done the same thing to then you can give your attorney or police who ever you feel more comfortable with their names so they can question them also. Some people are afraid to say anything until they find out that another person has had the same thing done to them by the same person and then they will speak up. I hope this helps you. I know all these people are telling you all these things and that if the case is over a year ago that the person won't be covicted well that is not true. There are lots of cases that the suspect was a sexual predator and they got caught. One thing I do know is that if they do this once they will do it time and time again until someone is brave enough to speak up and you don't have to tell the cops nothing you can go see a counselor or psychiatrist that can help you deal with it. I was raped by an unknown person 13 years ago and I never said anything for about 3 years and with all the facts I gave and with DNA as it is today they located the perpetrator and sent him to prison for 30 years. If it wasn't for me telling someone he would have done more people then he did. I think in the 3 years he had raped 12 women and killed 2 of them which he got life for. So, just follow your heart that is the best advice anyone can give you. Just do what you feel is right.
Angie D

Answer 3

Get to counseling. Seriously as far as going to the authorities, charges will more than likely never be filed against the suspect. HOWEVER, with that said depending on your state, the reporting of an incident of sexual abuse MAY provide you with access to services such as counseling, medical treatments, etc. at low or no cost because of victim/witness funding.

It is a catch-22. If you expect prosecution and that is your goal, feel free to call the authorities but do not get your hopes up. Do not be disappointed as sex cases that are less than a year old routinely don't get filed. If your goal is to have an incident documented, have the suspect interviewed (basically put on notice that it wasn't okay) and perhaps the case closed out either with a request for charges through the DA's Office or the case is suspended after the suspect interview and get the help you need through victim/witness, then go that route.

First and foremost is help/counseling for the victim! These scars can last for years and years destroying relationships or preventing them all together. Get help!

Answer 4

Report this to a trusted adult. The party responsible may have continued assaulting others, preying on vulnerable people or children. Find an avenue for assistance in counseling/therapy. The victim has been attacked physically and mentally and may need help with self-realization, self-esteem, etc. To not get assistance is to allow the "assaulter" to continue to have power over your/their life. Can effect victim the rest of their live(s).
peace

Answer 5

If it was me and I was still thinking about it and it was affecting my life now, I would definitely look for a good counselor who specializes in helping people with trauma histories. You could talk to your gynocologist and see if she can give you a referral.

I'm so sorry that this happened and know that you don't have to live with the bad feelings and bad memories. There is hope.

Answer 6

Call the police?

6 years ago.. still call the police (esp if it was a minor).

Answer 7

Call the police and see that they take a report.

Answer 8

Probably take that person to the hospital and call the cops.

Answer 9

get over it. it would be hard to sue the bstard now. unless you have proof.

Answer 10

They should be in jail.