religion question....what is best for my son ?

Question

personally I think religion is a crock.
I don't like going to church
what is a better option for me to do ?
a.) never bring him to church ...but then he may start asking questions and want to go

or

b.) force him to go and he will hate it anyway and not want to go..all kids hate church when they are young.

im not an atheist but in my opinion religouse people are fake..they pray on sunday and prey on everyone else the rest of the week

I am very serious..my grandma died in 2003 and I had to go to church for the funeral and I thought that was the last time I would set foot in church...but most of the people I know that are over religious "holy rollers" are ******* to be honest

Answer 1

let him decide for himself it's a long life ahead just keep the various channels open sounds like your stance is a good one at least for starts and he isn't going to be helpless to pursue others
peace out

Answer 2

Ok so I promised myself that i wasn't going to answer anymore of these religious question because they make me so mad sometimes but i can't help myself. First off don't go around saying that religious people are fake. Ok I somewhat agree with you cause there are a lot of fake religious people but not ALL religious people are fake some of us actually care. I love going to church and doing things at my church and not just on Sundays I do bible studies on Tuesdays and praise and worship on Thursdays and I'm a Christian/Catholic 24/7 for the rest of my life. Yeah little kids don't like going to church when they're young i know that i didn't but my mom would make me go and i would go to Sunday school where I made really great friends and as I got older i started to learn why it was so important to go to church and to listen to the Word of the Lord. But I guess you are entitled to your opinion and you know he's your son raise him how you want. I say take him to church and maybe try going yourself it'll be good for you and if you still don't like it then don't go find a better church. Enroll your son in a Sunday class. Sunday schools are a fun was to learn about Christ. Well anyways good luck with everything.

Answer 3

First off you need to find a church that is Christian "I am assuming" but that fits your personality.. That is the mistake people make.. you have to make sure it is a sound church.. but you have to find a good church that suits you! your personality..
And with a great Sunday school for your son..

The problem isnt so much the church as it is the outlook and your agenda!
Look, my family and I are total music people... so we find a Christian church that kicks in the music area and still teaches the word of God... but the pastor better have a good personality or I will fall a sleep! Well I found a church that covers all my needs.. and it has been great! My daughter plays bass in the High school group, my son and cousin play guitar and violin in the main sanctuary, my husband is on of many sound engineers and I just serve coffee.. My kids have grown spiritually so much.. I have been amazed! And all members are very humble.. We live on the beach in California.. so in the summer every sunday.. I laugh because most of the cars have surfboards on them for after church.. our church has a surfboard group. A drug recovery group. It is a big church.. but very relaxed atmosphere!

Answer 4

I wasn't raised in a religious family, I was told that it was a personal choice and I could decide for myself when I was grown. I was never forced to go to church, not all religious people are fake, I pray every day, I don't prey on anyone. Your views seem biased. Although I do believe personally that it is possible for the sins of the father to cause a curse upon his children into the fourth and fifth generation. Would you be willing to bring such a curse onto your child? Grandchild? and so forth?

Answer 5

I'm assuming that your son is young, but still old enough to talk to you--I'm imagining pre-kindergarten to early grades. Overall, I think he will be better off if you take him to church so that he has this experience.

You can tell him that most people go to church on Sundays, so let's find a church. Call a few churches and find out how welcoming they are to new attendees, and what kinds of children's programs they have. You can start it out as an exploratory effort, and go to more than one church a few times to see what you both think. You may find one that's right for him and tolerable for you--perhaps even enjoyable if you see that he is engaged with the other children and is having learning experiences.

As for you, I know some adults can be annoying, but to not offer him this experience could set him apart from his peers and deny him participation in social, cultural and spiritual growth. You don't have to be untrue to yourself to do this, either--it is good for him to see that you are embarking on a new experience and are trying to approach things with an open mind for his benefit as the two of you explore this together. Best of luck and I hope this helps.

Answer 6

I understand what you are saying about "organized" religion and how the people seem so fake, and the whole experience seems so surreal. I'm definitely a Christan however I hate organized religion. I don't go to church for that simple reason. I hate having the "church" make me feel like I'm going to hell for being human! I like to drink, and I'm not perfect. Anyways, I think you should tell him about God and how Jesus did die on the cross for all of us etc.... The most important thing is that your son gets saved. If he wants to go to church then take him one day. If he wants to continue going then have family members or friends take turns taking him. By the way, if that is you in your picture, then you have a very nice body. :)

Answer 7

I dont agree with what you are saying exactly. I am not religious myself...but I dont think that religious people have ill intent or are fake. I think faith is a beautiful thing. I dont think you should discourage your child with your attitude. You cant tell how your children will respond to church. I know lots of kid who enjoy going...to sunday school.

But I also dont believe in telling your kid what they should believe in, I think that you should wait until they get older and give them opportunities to try if they would like. Once they get older ask them if they want to go to church. I believe you should educate your child as they are growing up about all the religions, this not only helps their general education, but promotes understanding and tolerance of different cultures.

Answer 8

The question being asked here is actually faced by all of us someday in our life. I think one should try to make his child a good human being by teaching him good manners and good things of all the religions irrespective of their presence in the neighbourhood or otherwise. One should definitely take his child to the church and tell him all the good things about it. But, never force him to go to the Church after wards. The maximum gain in knowledge of the child comes through his family, friends and the society. The present sorry state of the religion is mainly due to selfish nature of the people and their attempt to exploit others for their benefit. The only remedy available seems to be tolerance and attempt to change the situation by peaceful, non violent and humanitarian means. In fact true religion is to serve the human beings and all other living things along-with least damage to the environment.

Answer 9

Well if you only take him to church on Sunday, and never pray any other day of the week, you become just like the religious people you detest by being a religious person on just Sunday. If you want to be "real" then pray every day.

Answer 10

First off never force anyone to go to church. That's not what Jesus taught. If your son is interested then allow him to find out for himself. Let him read the Bible and discuss it with him. Remember to be open minded.

Your right when you say that a lot of Christians are saints on Sunday but sinners on Monday. However, don't base your opinions on Christianity from the lifestyles of the people who claim to be Christians. Base it on what Jesus Christ said. THAT'S what real Christianity is all about.

Answer 11

It's a choice that your son needs to make for himself. Let him decide that religious people are fake - he can't just live though your experiences. Don't force him to go to church. Just sit down and talk to him about it, about how you feel about God, and Church, and things like that. If he wants to go to church, take him around and let him see the different places people can go to worship - if he doesn't want to go to a Christian church, that should also be all right. If he wants to learn more about the Jewish faith, or the Hindu, or the Muslim - let him learn a little too. It will be good for him, and probably for you too. Good luck with this, I hope that this helps you, and gives you some more options.