you proby get this question alot, but a person never knows. its nice to hear others' point of view, you know what i mean? i've been trying to work with this guy, trying to develop something between us. its working, but he moves too fast in the wrong area if you know what i mean. then when it doesnt go the way he plans, he shuts me out for the longest time. then when he starts talking to me again, he sounds like he has a million regrets. he would tell me "maybe we should just be friends." shoud i give in? do what he wants? coz i really dont want to let him go.
2007-01-26 16:52:04 · 19 answers · asked by miss. blue eyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
U r a complete sweetheart to ask this question.
If he shuts u out cause u dont give him the goods he isnt worth the time. Im a man trust me I know.
Dont give in. Especialy if this will be the first.
Many females will just drop the panties and let him have his way and they get called "Ho". The funny part is the females dont kno y they get called ho.
Find a man that respects your mind and your body.
2007-01-26 17:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Just Ask 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some clues in your question...
- he moves too fast in the wrong area
- when it doesn't go the way he plans, he shut me out
- he sounds like he has a million regrets
- he tell you 'maybe we should just be friends'
- you don't list *any* of his good qualities.
... tell me you already know what to do: let him go.
He is not ready, or secure in himself or mature enough to have a 'real' adult relationship with a woman.
He (only) wants sex on his schedule (and he goes away when he doesn't get his way!) I don't think a relationship with him will be long lasting. So let him go, keep your dignity and self-respect and another guy will come into your life. Someone who lets you be yourself and will let your relationship build together and develop at the right pace.
You will be fine. Don't let this guy determine who *you* are - be true to yourself.
I wish you well.
2007-01-26 17:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by Tom-SJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person you care about is vacillating a lot, sometimes it can be quite good to develop a 'yeah... whatever you want' kind of attitude. Often it's too intense for them or they feel cramped and stifled by a relationship so in this way you give them a lot of space to learn to trust the process. - And it's not so bad if it doesn't work out.
It's really important to learn that you can't control people, simply because there are too many factors at play. It's good to view complicated relationships as learning experiments, for then you won't be disappointed much.
Good luck!
2007-01-26 17:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is going to sound like he has a million regrets because he has gave you some space and he is back for the attack of the pu$$y. If you give in to him you won't have the option of keeping or letting him go because you will be like yesterdays newspaper (Old news) and he will move on to the next. It is so obvious that he is only out for one thing and one thing only. You need to wake up and realize that you are worth so much more than that.
2007-01-26 17:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am going to be a bit more frank than you were. If he is trying to have sex with you, and you dont want to, then your answer should be "No". If he shuts you out because of this, then abandon this guy. He shuts you out because things arent going his way and he is not respecting you and your boundaries. Is this REALLY the kind of man you want? I am not trying to take a shot at him, but please, look at this situation again, and realize what you are getting into if you stay with him.
2007-01-26 16:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jimmy R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that is a vary good question if you want something good to come out of it don't give in if he cant handle the way you want thing to go so that good thing can happen you don't need him as for my self that was what i think she wanted but she gos off and sleep around with others so now i just live my life i hang out with her but i am not the some with her no moor
2007-01-26 17:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it to him when your ready, not under pressure, ever. Allso realize men need it and running home to his hand is probably not helping your cause. If he's a player, don't get used just because you like him. Your worth more the a man pressuring you into sex.
2007-01-26 17:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by Vindicatedfather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you'd be better off asking yourself why you "don't want to let him go" when he is somebody who pressures you for something you aren't ready for.
If he knows and still pushes... why keep after the jerk?
Especially with that passive-aggressive streak in his character.
2007-01-26 16:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is going to keep working you until you give in.... and then he'll walk away and find someone else to work on. He wants the sex, he doesn't want YOU. Save it for someone who is really worth it.
2007-01-26 17:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even want to be friends with this moron? It's obvious he only wants you for one thing and one thing only. And when he doesn't get it anytime he snaps his fingers, he goes in to "spoilt-brat" mode and sulks. Just what do you find attractive about him?
You can bet your bottom dollar that as soon as you give in and give him what he wants, he'll drop you like yesterday's garbage.
2007-01-26 16:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋